Author	Thread: buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why?
gershonmn View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 18 Jun, 2012 05:40 PM what ever past girlfriends got me for a present I used it or wore it ( clothing) with no problems, even if I did not like it. i did it for her . The fact that it came from her made it special to me. So why over the years when I buy cloths for them do I get a very cool response. example : I really like women in dresses so a little over 10 years ago i was in the mall and saw a gorgeous after 5 gown sleeveless and near floor length with sequence. I thought she would be fabulous in this. it was about $250 on sale and I was excited. went to get HER and said just come see it , try it on if you don't like it you can get something else. We found the dress. she went in to try it on and came back out with her regular cloths on. short story. nothing I said would convince her to let me see her in the dress . she said it was a little too small but she would not even look for a larger size. i was hurt, angry and wounded all at the same time. I will not buy my lady sleazy or inappropriate dress and if it does not look right on them I have no problem with rejection. a woman I respect once told me give them cash . It is always the right color, size and fit. I now do that but it leaves me with an empty feeling. ok ladies talk to me . why no reciprocity in attitude about gifts? Gershonmn Post Reply
View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 21 Jun, 2012 08:12 AM @graceandkindness, I think buying for your spouse is a lot different than buying for a girlfriend. There is something somehow controlling about a boyfriend purchasing this type of gift. It's not even really the gift, so much, as the process of how the gift is purchased. For me, the biggest concern was his insistance on seeing her in it though she was clearly either not comfortable doing that or had no desire to do that. It reminds me a little like Vashti (Esther's predecessor) who didn't want to be paraded about in front of the kings drunken guests so they could oogle her. Just seems disrespectful of her space and dignity. Does not feel like being treated like a sister in Christ. IMHO Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 21 Jun, 2012 12:17 PM Agreed TrustandBelieve, could happen in marriage as well. Again... in marriage, adventure is great, I think a husbands should know and we could be talking about a purse here ok... still. He may not make a right choice, that's what returns are for, so you laugh about it. He can try again ( for me anyway). But yes, in the right relationship with with respect. Post Reply
gershonmn View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 21 Jun, 2012 12:29 PM Much of what you have said I have not thought of or been told it is a new perspective for me. ExceedingJoy your Idea of her going with to pick it out is sound; a good compromise. I no longer try to buy clothing. Everyone's taste in cloths is different; and just because I Think she would look great in something does not mean she would agree. Wanting to see my lady in beautiful things is good, but letting her decide what is beautiful is the best way for that to happen thank you G Post Reply
algomaboy View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 29 Jun, 2012 12:13 PM A date I once had asked me to take her shopping. She wanted to buy some leopard pants. i told her it does not look kool. She bought a nice dress instead. i helped her pick a top coat. She asked me why I picked the top coat. I said it covered her up. :ROFL: Hey- with the sexy dress no other man needed to see her, so I talked her into a top coat to cover her up.:applause: Ladies trust your date.:hearts: Post Reply
View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 1 Jul, 2012 05:57 AM That is just one person! I would appreciate the thoughtfulness and choose something together.. If I didn't like your choice I would b kind and redirect to something we both thought was flattering.. Prob a good thing you are not together now. Post Reply
View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 1 Jul, 2012 05:58 AM That is just one person! I would appreciate the thoughtfulness and choose something together.. If I didn't like your choice I would b kind and redirect to something we both thought was flattering.. Prob a good thing you are not together now. Post Reply

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