I seem to come across an awful load of frauds !!! In fact , there are more scammers than decent honest well-intentioned members here . The bad are causing the good to deport /abandon it . The only men that contact me,( or even seem to be active on here) , are scams . Mainly they are men claiming to reside in the U.S. , but are foreign origins . There are many red flags , and it soon becomes obvious to me that they are ''marriage'' shopping quickly for citizenship . An I am sure all a woman is worth $$$ as well . I have even been convinced that in at least one of the cases , the guy likely had a wife already in his homeland . His phone # exchange was here in America , but that actually doesn't prove he is really living here currently and more importantly what his motives are for pursuing a marriage so fast . Sometimes they have expressed to me a preference for white women and maybe they do like that , but still have the evil agenda . Perhaps that is part of the hidden plan , lure us by flattery . These are the only men that hover over this site , I am discovering . I think I have been sought out because I am in my 30's & seeking marriage , although they might view me as ''old & desperate'' . Not the case , I am strong , smart , and single by choice . This site is over-run with scammers and I wanted to know what other women thought ??? I noticed there aren't any current posts regarding this serious issue when it's saturated the site . Are people pretending this is still a respectable site ? What else is disturbing is that I report such filth but nothing is ever done about these men and they just remain on here being allowed to potentially victimise more weaker & vulnerable people .Lonely members with hopes for love & acceptance . I did see other members be removed before , but never ones that I report personally . The impression I am getting is that I am being ignored , and /or if there is monitoring they rarely boot criminals . Very troubling indeed !!! I am going to leave this site for good . I just felt to post a final message to see if any other women respond and what they think ? Have any of you experienced the same with predators bothering you , scammers messaging you ??? Like I said , I hear from ones that seem to be after citizenship through marriage , trying to use an American for that purpose to their needs . I have never out-right been asked for money because they are more clever than that . Although I realize that is a part of the scam , they are entitled to your assets if you are foolish enough to marry without any pre-cautions . My warning to people & esp. more vulnerable ,lonely members & women , be VERY picky in whom you interact with on this site !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Try and keep it local if that is possible . I only deal with Americans now , and even they can be users & jerks so the narrowing down continues . Not many locally and unfortunately this site is World-wide opening too many doors in my opinion.I did have a lovely pen-pal from Sweden here , who is a doll . He was nothing but kind & my friend , truly . He is the only foreign person however , that was ever trustworthy and genuine , sincere towards me . Happy I came across him here , even though a relationship is not possible . The scam men have come from Iran , Eastern Europe such as Albania , at least this is what I encountered .Yet they reside here in the U.S. , (some of them do). I am guessing their visa expired , they are over-staying , not in a good position and afraid of being deported . They won't waste any second of their time on you , if you give them reason to think you are not marriage serious because they are on a mission and must hurry that up so they tend to rush you. I had this mistreatemtn done to me but being a suspicious person in my nature , stopped it before it could even begin .Scammers I would think typically come from the poorer regions of the World . Ladies , thoughts /opinions /experiences???
Thank you for your time .I'd be happy to listen to anyone else's story !!!
I don't know know why it seems mostly men are responding - I POSTED IN ASK A GIRL FOR A REASON !!! I wanted to conversate between females /woman and hear their similiar experiences . Why are men coming into this category , it's for GIRLS .
(I don't know know why it seems mostly men are responding - I POSTED IN ASK A GIRL FOR A REASON !!! I wanted to conversate between females /woman and hear their similiar experiences . Why are men coming into this category , it's for GIRLS .)
I'll answer your last question first. We come in here for the same reason "GIRLS" post in the "Ask A Guy" section.
I posted because your original post made it seem as if MEN were the only scammers here. Theyre not.
As for the immigrants, I was born in the USA. North Carolina to be more precise. My parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, great-great grandparents etc were all born in the USA. In fact, every one of my ancestors were here long before the USA actually existed. ALL of my ancestors were here before the year 1700 actually. Some of them were actually here before Europeans arrived.
I am sorry you have had some bad experiences on this site. I have had a few suspicious contacts, however I didn't waste any energy on them. I pray for discernment each time I log on and before every email I send or reply to. The one time I was suspicious enough to report a guy, CDFF took care of it immediately. I have no doubt they investigate each & every report, however, I doubt they have the time or resources to report back to us their findings.
Trust in Jesus, even here. Everywhere we go, we take Him with us. He never leaves us, He never takes His protection away from us (although we can fall out of fellowship with Him), and He is in charge of opening or closing every door. We are not taken out of this wicked world system and these are dark days.
Even though this is called a Christian site, remember that there are wolves in sheep's clothing inside our church buildings and even behind the pulpits! We cannot get away from the wickedness of this world. Since we are in the last of the last days, God tells us in His Word that wickedness will increase and Satan, who is wroth with the Church, has multiplied his efforts to move us away from the One he hates.
However, Jesus overcame the world (system), and we who are born-again are in Him and no weapon formed against us shall prosper. Trust Him in every circumstance, every place, in every moment.
We must keep our eyes on Jesus! When our vertical relationship with God is right, the horizontal relationships will also be right. Then, if we believe we are being persecuted or targeted for pain & suffering we can rejoice! For we know that nothing happens to us that didn't go through God's filter first and He works all things out for good for those that love Him (etc...)
Agreed, bluesky! These are dark days and Satan is the ruler & prince of the present world system. However, God is SOVEREIGN & He is still in charge! Halleluyah! We aren't here for our own sakes; our life is hidden in the Heavenlies with Christ Jesus. We are here as Christ's life on earth, for His purposes, even, or perhaps especially, in the realm of relationships!
I like it, bluesky! Sort of like a chaperoned first date!
I think as followers of Christ we should live our lives as examples - living epistles, so to speak, read by everyone; leave the problem-solving to Jesus. We are not equipped for that. We are told to stand firm, wearing the Full Armor of God!
Let's put on humility, the mind of Christ & be careful what we say. We are all wicked, fallen creatures in our old nature & God has destined that for destruction! Everyone is equally dead in that department! Our new nature has no righteousness of its own, but we have the righteous of Christ, if indeed we are walking in the power of the Holy Spirit. When we think, act or speak carnally, from the flesh, we are building wood, hay & stubble & not pure gold, tried in the fire, destined for eternity with Jesus, whose name is above every name, and to whom every knee will bow! All praise & glory to Him who loves us and gave His life for us, Amen!
