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hooverbranch
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 11 Jun, 2008 02:06 PMOk first off I am not talking a literal Innocence. All men are sinners I am not an exception. It is only by the Grace of God that I am saved. NOTHING that I did on my own. |
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amandajean
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 5 Jul, 2008 04:39 PMi know that for me when a man has kept himself that pure it is intimidating, I strayed away form the Lord and while I am still a virgin and rather innocent, I made some mistakes. I feel like I am not good enough for the guys that have kept themselves so pure. I feel like they will think I'm dirty or that I am not good enough for them. I think that really it has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them... |
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 14 Jul, 2008 04:49 PMamandajean hit along the same lines that I was thinking. Most women are used to a man wanting sex in a relationship whether he wants it on the first date or the 50th date. Some women just prefer to go ahead and get it over with since she "knows" he won't stay interested if she refuses and she would rather the first time be on her terms. So this makes her feel safer since he won't protect her emotions it is a way of her protecting herself in a way. And some women are addicts themselves much like men can become slaves to sex. Some women have so much shame and guilt that they can't bear to be with a man who hasn't slept with anyone. The lie is this: men are supposed to be the ones who fall the easiest to sexual temptation and if even a man could resist what kind of awful creature must she be. |
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 30 Jul, 2008 04:06 PMWell, first, I would encourage you to stay true to God, and your relationship to Him. Another thing to consider is that perhaps you are too focused on "staying pure" and "warding off the flies" rather than developing your love for God. It's true that the prospective girls you mentioned could feel unwanted when you abstain from such things, but they might also feel that your decision to remain abstinent is based on false pretenses. Don't misunderstand me-abstinence is always great when your dating-but it isn't the rule- it's WHY you are doing it. Is it really for your future wife, you, or God? Your relationship to HIM is of utmost importance and sometimes people-whether spiritual or not-can sense when we're being real or serving mere laws. Doing so may interpret a "lack of caring" and may label you as a mere automaton. |
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 14 Aug, 2008 06:07 AMhi...i dont think you are being overboard. i love sincere guys hey. the reserved kind because getting to know that kinda of person takes time and its a challenge. |
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lavanda14
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 10 Oct, 2008 10:29 AMLet me just tell you that if you are dating girls around your age group, it is most probably they are just seeking to experience emotional excitements like young men seek physical excitements. I would say that girls that are, as you say get "turned off" just not ready for the type of relationship that you are looking for, because they need to learn to see the differences between their romatic expectations, emotional, physical needs and spiritual maturity. We women struggle a lot to seperate those things, because of our nature. Men have it easier and I know how we can confuse you and just drive you crazy sometimes:). |
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 6 Jan, 2009 12:00 PMur not alone my employer knows im a born again who doesnt believe about sex before marriage so he keeps on saying to me grow up nobody wll date u, well just for me ur right our bod is for our future wife or husband and it will remain pure until the right time. were doing this for God and for us and not for anyone else....so chin up ur not alone/./// |
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 10 Jan, 2009 12:39 AMfor me being reserved is not a bad thing, i take pride in my innocense and have learned to embrace and charish it. . .with God's help of course :) my question for society as a whole would be when did it become awkward, unrealistic, or just plain weird for people to wait until marriage?? it is not wierd, it's a blessing and a goal i have set for myself. i have learned these past few years that sharing my decision with others has not only strengthen and encouraged me to walk in faith, but has encouraged others to do the same. there is a light at the end of the tunnel when waiting for marriage :) stay positive!! |
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 25 Jan, 2009 04:22 PMYou seem like a great guy but you live in a really remote place. You should try e-Harmony within 50 mile radius of your zip code. |
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 14 Feb, 2009 09:04 PMYou are so right, you should save yourself your not going overbord. In fact its awsome that there are still real men like you out there. I give you two big thumbs up, you rock! |
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cowgirl1984
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Why does it seem like being innocent is Bad?Posted : 16 Mar, 2009 01:33 PMI'm coming from a different perspective than a majority of the replies that I read, so hopefully this helps answer your questions. I know a couple of people touched on this, but I think that their exact answers were different than where myself and many of the women, I am friends with and have talked to are coming from. |
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