Author	Thread: So what's missing?
stormcountry33 View Profile History	So what's missing? Posted : 21 Mar, 2010 01:34 PM I'm asking this here even though I know it could easily go both ways... Over the years I have had several women in my life that I was basically on a friendship level with them but we weren't close friends...anyway, I started to think about the possibility of that "friendship" becoming more. The typical response I always got, and yes I mean always, was that they considered me to be a brother. The confusion for me comes because these same women all have let me know that I would make a great husband, father, that I have a great sense of humor, that I'm generous and caring and thoughtful and yet for some reason I wasn't what they were looking for...I guess what I'm asking is, was it a physical thing that was the issue? How can a great guy always be another "brother"? I'm counting on you ladies to be honest with me...thanks for your thoughts. Later!~ (I guess I've never heard of a girl being referred to as a "sister") Post Reply
phoenixlady8 View Profile History	So what's missing? Posted : 28 Mar, 2010 12:16 PM First off.... nothing in you is missing. But, I get the feeling that that is not what you are actually asking. My answers might be a bit tough to swallow so please bear with me and know that I mean you no harm. My words sometimes come across as harsh. I reply to your question out of compassion and wanting to help... not to beat you down. So here goes... The gal's you refer to... be careful you aren't trying to "save" them from themselves. If you continue to find yourself attracted to women who are in unfortunate situations, then it might be time for you to look inwardly at why this pattern continues. When your life starts to become a series of patterns, and you find that you don't like the pattern you are seeing... then the cause of the pattern is inside of you. It is not created by others. While other's behavior's will directly add to a situation, the underlying foundational reason is inside you. We point the finger and blame others for so many things in our lives, but if we peel away the layers we will find that the current problem is the result of an original sin that we perhaps weren't even aware of. The hardest part is peeling away the layers... there can be SO many layers. You've started peeling the layers by asking your question. Don't give up, you're on the right path and God acknowledges your efforts. Continue moving forward. Where is the "hugging you" smiley face when you need it?! :winksmile: ~Laurey Post Reply
View Profile History	So what's missing? Posted : 28 Mar, 2010 02:00 PM good point phoenixlady8. i forgot about that one. i like to call them 'damsel's in distress'. alot of times it's because of their own doing. not the one you want. watch out for them too. Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	So what's missing? Posted : 28 Mar, 2010 03:24 PM Good evening Face it. Women who give you the brother- and platonic friendship talk, are NOT being open and fair to you. It could be the missing chemistry but it could also be your haircut or your after shave... Women are sometimes, just like men, afraid or unable to tell the truth. They�d like to think that they do not want to hurt any feelings but in fact they are just being cowards! There is not much you can do about this. Do not make a mistake: You miss nothing. They do. You may not have found your special lady yet, but you have been a great friend to so many. Instead of feeling sad, be proud! When women trust you, and confide in you as a friend or brother, it is the biggest compliment a guy can get. And in fact, no doubt you will be one of those wonderful husbands and fathers... Just make sure that you still take time in looking and finding your lady and not spend ALL your time being a brother. It is always hard to face the fact that the chemistry is not mutual. But that does not mean that there is something missing in you. It just means that there was just something missing for that particular relationship. I am sorry to hear that you have been disappointed several times in the same way. But believe me, we all take our beatings as we go our way. However, do not look upon yourself as a somebody who misses that something to find happiness in a romantic relationship. Are you happy with what you see in the mirror? if not, change it. And if you do, go for it. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	So what's missing? Posted : 29 Mar, 2010 03:19 PM Phoenix, I will say that some of the ladies may have been the "damsels in distress" as Remp stated, but not all of them. Good points and thoughts. Thank you for being honest with me And thank you for the compliments!!! (sorry I forgot what your screen name was...posted after remp.) Post Reply
Pilgrim52 View Profile History	So what's missing? Posted : 22 Jul, 2010 06:08 PM Remember Dear sister in Christ...you were not ever God's type,but because of His Mercy,He replaced your heart of stone with that of flesh,and because you are indwelt by His precious Son Jesus,He looks not upon your outer appearance...but rather your heart.And all He can see is Jesus... Maybe,and I have no right to judge,that is what He wants you to consider... God bless and keep you until that day... ivan. Post Reply
liyah View Profile History	So what's missing? Posted : 18 Aug, 2010 02:30 AM i guess it's just not the Lord's will for any of those unions to come to pass. i personally have known a male friend for ages and we get along soooooo well in many ways than i can mention. he is attractive but i just don't find myself "attracted" to him. even he doesn't understand coz he asks me why we can't take things to the next level. i donno...if that chemistry aint there, you can't force it...good luck with your search...stay blessed Post Reply
View Profile History	So what's missing? Posted : 2 Jul, 2011 08:19 PM I'm sorry he's not your type, so what is your "type"? And why isn't he? :waving: Post Reply

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