Author	Thread: The reason for pictures?
Tulip89 View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 1 Sep, 2010 08:07 AM I recently came across a profile that had four pictures, all headshots from the exact same angle and with the exact same pose. The difference between the first and second was that the girl was wearing a different shirt, of which only a tiny bit was showing in either picture. I have a feeling 99% of guys would have thought she uploaded the same photo twice. The third photo was the exact same pose, but with her hair slightly wavier, suggesting that it was straight ironed in the previous two. The fourth was the first or second photo with some photoshop stuff done to make it hazy. My question is, why would a girl go to so much trouble to recreate the exact same photo 3x over with her shoulder showing only a hint of a different shirt, and then a different hair style, and then fuzziness? Really though, I think the more important question is, why do you feel like we put pictures up? I like to think that it makes us more comfortable with the people we're talking to. We feel like we know them better because they aren't just a floating head looking over a floating shoulder. People in real life aren't just floating heads over floating shoulders. Our mind knows something isn't right when we have lots of information stored about a person but have yet to attach a picture in our minds to it. People without pictures are no different than characters in books. We may like them, but they don't seem real because they have to be seen to exist to us. Now obviously, a person staying here while they're "taken" to still contribute to the forums can pretty much do whatever they want, since they aren't looking to attract someone anymore, or at least I hope they aren't. Those are just my thoughts. What do you think the value of pictures is? Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 04:37 PM I think everyone has their own problem with appearance, but it is worse for women since the fact is, men are visual creature. I read in posts posted before at the forum about appearance and mostly it was addressed to women. Me and my friend once saw a very very skinny women wearing mini skirt, and my friend noticed that we were looking at the same person so she asked my opinion. I answered I did not find that woman to be sexy as most women would usually do in mini skirt. She had the same thought. Then we asked our boyfriends and they were agree with us. Another thing we commented about was, another woman that wore just casual t-shirt and casual jeans, yet she got all 'the looks' when she passed by, whatever clothes she wore would usually cause those 'hey sexy' comments. Based on that, I think some women could cause more of those 'hey sexy' comments just based on their body, not necessarily based on what they are wearing. The conclusion I got was, clothes determine, yet body type also determine. That is why I was and am still interested of getting more info of posting full body pics are the sign of women being proud of their body. Is it the same applied to men as well? Barechest pics of men are the proof that men are proud of their body? Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 04:46 PM I do not like when men have a photo of themselves without a shirt on. That tells me that he feels that is his best feature. Well, a nice looking chest cannot be foundation of a good relationship :) Why would we want to look at their body anyway? That's a huge turn off for me. it's like "Is that all you have to offer?" Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 05:01 PM Ola' yall...pictures are important...its nice to see a face and connect it the profile...I gota admit I'm behind the camera takeing pix most of my out door adventures so I dont have many with me in full body shot...and havent uploaded any yet...I just got back on the site... As far as the Gents shirtless shots...well...I'm not to keen on those here...I agree with the Ladys...Its not a real Good 1st Impression... Body issues...I'm purty sure both Sex's have them to some degree...I'm not ashamed of my body GOD created to house my soul...but I'm not gonna put on a show for some yahoo that wants to oogle either...Its just not a right or proper choice for me...after all...I just live in this world...I'm not supposed to be of it...:rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 09:26 PM I absolutely want to talk to someone with pictures. In this venue, without them, it makes me think something shady is afoot. I don't hold whatever pics people put up against them. I compare what I want to see with what men are comfortable with showing and if I find it unacceptable I keep pushing onward. As we get older, if we continue to develop and grow, we come into ourselves, if you will. We start to care less about what people think and become more confident. God can also bring us to this point sooner if we allow Him. We are of course insecure when we don't think we measure up to whatever our ideal body type is or whoever we are comparing ourselves to. It took God to heal me in that area. I've still got a ways to go, but the freedom & liberty that I've experienced thus far is awesome. :yay: Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 10:47 PM Tulip, okay, yeah, I read over what I wrote and it does sound like that, but that's not what I think. I know that guys struggle too. What you've said makes a of sense... Food for thought. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 10:54 PM JesusLoves, there's a huge difference between being honest and flaunting your body. A Myspace-angle shot with a low cut shirt on a woman is begging for attention just like a guy with his shirt off. No one here has said that that's what we're looking for. The presence of a full body shot shows at least a minimal level of self confidence that they aren't trying to hide who they are. When all the shots are very carefully cropped to only show the face and maybe a little bit of neck, etc. it shows that they think there is something to be gained from hiding who they are, which reveals a lot of insecurity. While looks can do more than clothes, that's often because women are dressing for other women and then seem surprised when guys don't go crazy over the "super cute" outfits they're wearing. I don't "get" scarves. I don't "get" high waisted jeans. I don't "get" thick belts around dresses. But I digress... You'd also be surprised how attractive confident posture/attitude is. Then again, I'm sure you know how much more attractive confidence makes a guy, so maybe you wouldn't be surprised that it applies to women too. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 3 Sep, 2010 04:45 AM My own thoughts... 1) Folks, it's COMMON for women who have some weight to lose to try to hide it by not showing full body shots. It's got nothing to do with confidence. It has everything to do with HONESTY. Now I'd hope that Christian women wouldn't do this, but alas, it's not true. They're still hoping that deception will lead them to someplace great and they'll ask for forgiveness later. Huh uh. No way. 2) In pictures, guys aren't looking for a fashion diva or someone who professionally models. Really. If we wanted that, we'd go buy some fashion mag and not bother with dating. We're interested in you and your strengths. 3) Tulip has it right. Based on the way they carried themselves and their attitude, women can radiate attraction that more than compensates for other things. At least to me, a confident and kind (usually in a Southern way) attitude goes a long way. Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 3 Sep, 2010 05:34 AM Tulip, if we looked at the history of these posts, started with you with those 4 pics of a woman, then Pixy came up with a question of chest, then came Rabbit with the statement of "insecure of their body". I was just asking whether the "insecure of their body" was referring to the statement of that 4 pics or women with big chest. Just to clarify, I was saying "That is why I was and am still interested of getting more info of posting full body pics are the sign of women being proud of their body" lol I was throwing that question there to get more info about this "insecure of their body", and still, no one has answered this question of "insecure of their body" yet, maybe you could answer this question lol I agree, there is huge difference of people who are just being confident of their body and who are just showing off. We can see it at a glance. Anyway, my only question was that, nothing to do with confidence/show off topic lol Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 3 Sep, 2010 09:20 AM Sorry JesusLoves, I thought I'd answered that. The 4 pictures I mentioned first were just funny that she so carefully reconstructed the same shot with such minor variations. I didn't feel like she was hiding anything. The lack of confidence we see is when you can tell that the pictures a woman puts up have been carefully selected to barely show her face. Rabbit was most likely saying that if Pixy's scenario were to take place, a guy would likely misinterpret it as the woman having so little self confidence that she couldn't show more than her face. It's kind of like when you see a guy in black shoes and a brown belt. For all you know, he couldn't find his black belt that morning and just grabbed the brown one so he wouldn't be late to work. You're much more likely to assume he just isn't a very good dresser though, because you have so little information on him. Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 3 Sep, 2010 06:39 PM I totally agree with that. Insecurity could cause major problems for anyone. Usually it will initiate one lie to another.. I think this topic would you only found in internet dating lol in real world, yes there are lots of insecurities but insecure with their body, I dun think people could do nothing to hide their body. Post Reply

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