Author	Thread: How can you be so judgmental
ben315 View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 10:00 AM How is it that a person can talk to someone for an extended period of time (sometimes 2+ months) without seeing I pic of me and tell me how much they like me, but as soon as I send them a pic or we meet they compltly stop talking to me? Since this is a christian dating site shouldn't you not be judging just on looks but on the actuall person. After all looks fade but personaltity is always there. Maybe thats why the divorce rate is so high is because people go to much on looks and not enough on the actuall person. Post Reply
Bree_hir2help View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 29 Sep, 2010 07:10 AM people are made judgemental as it is, it would depend on the environment that they grew up if they will change.. plus not all people around here actually tells the truth,, ever heard of the word "lie",, yah, that's what most people do.. so you cant honestly blame them for that.. why are you not putting your photo anyways? you know it's better to be judged first and prove them wrong, than be judged in the end after being friends with them... that would hurt more.. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 29 Sep, 2010 09:07 AM I've had this happen. I am not going to start looking at wedding dresses because a guy I've never met and never seen a picture of corresponds with me on the internet for a few weeks. The guy listed himself as "a few pounds over". I felt deceived when I finally saw his picture. He was much more than "a few pounds over." Why not just honestly post a pic? And are you sure it was the pic that ended things? Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 29 Sep, 2010 09:13 AM Hmmm... I deleted something and now my post doesn't make as much sense. When this happened to me, the man started posting to another site that he had met THE ONE. I'm not sure I was it, but I have no idea how he could think I wouldn't either read the post and think he was two timing, or else think it might be me and that he was a little off. I got the feeling that he was either seeing someone else or might think that just by a few notes passed on a board we would be a couple. I was rather insulted that he could judge me to be that stupid. Post Reply
View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 29 Sep, 2010 10:20 PM I am really sorry for your experience. I partially agree with other responses. It will really probably come down to needing a matching of priorities. I agree that just because we are Christians does not mean we cannot naturally have our opinions and want to be physically attracted to our mates. But yes, many "Christians" maybe ARE shallow. What it comes down to is we all have our priorities in somewhat different orders. Godliness should always come first, but things like personality, appearance, position in life, etc, are in different ranks for different people. Hopefully you will simply come across someone who shares your priorities. Post Reply
View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 10 Oct, 2010 01:00 AM I completely agree with LoonyK. I know there's the mindset I'll show them who I am inside and they'll love me so much they wont care about the outside... or i'll let them get to know me first but honestly I'm not shallow by any means of the word but there HAS to be attraction for any lasting relationship. Read song of solomon I mean... they spend half the book talking about each other's appearance not their sense of humor :) Post Reply
asiamiam View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 09:15 PM i really think i agree... i think not being attracted to someone, doesn't mean that you think the person isn't beautiful. i have very handsome guy friends, but i'm not attracted to them. part of the mystery of us human beings, and for me great...coz i find people very easily beautiful haha. imagine feeling attrated to all the beautiful people in the world ;). i think someone seeing a picture after 2 months and being honest about not being attracted to your beauty in a way that one would find needed for his relationship with a woman, is the same as you browsing through pictures and simply passing by certain pictures you see :). some pictures you see simply don't appeal. for me that is when i don't see a sparkle in eyes, for someone else it is their bum is too big to their taste...and i know what i'm talking about ;) ;). i don't think it's judgement.....but i do understand it can be disappointing or painful....for both parties....:). i'd say, make use of the option to put up a pic :). that can prevent these painful situations :). beauty is in the eye of the beholder. someone might find me flippin' unattractive for various reasons, another person might see me and buy a ring for me straight away ;). haha...trust me...never happened :). Post Reply
View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 3 Dec, 2010 08:30 PM "He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him. " 53:2 Isaiah. wow. now isnt that a statement. let us take it back to the ultimate HUMAN. what a contradiction. the One who was in the song of Solomons that was leaping on the mountains for his beloved... even though she was black and comely... he was sick with love and died on her behalf for all of his brides sins. So that one day he could be with her. we measure beauty by the evilness of this world and the lust of the eyes and the pride of life. it has destroyed womens and men's self esteem everywhere, left families broken and churches ruined, and single mothers lining the welfare offices, and boys in prision. vainty is vanity. we are arguing who is more beautiful on a web site and guess what? souls are lost because of the price of being told your not pretty enough. measure yourslef not by the fruit of your skin; it is fleeting; measure youre worth by the price of calvary. Your identity is not of what others think of you or you of yourself. They will always have their whisperings;whether good, popular,unpopular, snide,evil,sweet,comfortable,right, wrong,or indifferent. Your identity lies at the choice you take in whether you believe in the ...price settled on Calvary. The rest of your life is a suprise for God to reveal Post Reply
christiandating19 View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 25 Oct, 2011 11:31 AM Wow! Your post is truly amazing. I literally felt as if I just came out of church after having read your post. You have an beautiful heart and the lucky man who wins your heart will know that he has received a gift from God. Good luck in your search Ms. FoolishlyLovely. Post Reply
vrtsone View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 23 Aug, 2012 08:28 PM I agree that it is not being judgmental. We are visual creatures. I believe that you should post a picture because its only fair. If the tables were turned and she later sent a picture and she was not what you anticipated looking at it would be different. Although we are Christians God gave us eyes to enjoy seeing. Everyone has a right to have a preference in beauty. I pray God blesses you with what you heart desires. Post Reply

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