Author	Thread: Not the best way, but what now?
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 08:59 AM Ladies I need some help...some insight. At church on sunday this woman Im very much interested in went to the alter and was very emotional...so after church I text her to see how she was doing and that if needed she could call me to talk. She replied by saying that she was ok just stressed and confused and feeling like everything is a game and she is loosing. So under what I felt was God's leading I told her I was sorry she was confused and that I was too...I told her I didn't like to see her hurting and that I cared about her. Then finished up with just keeping focus on God to let His will be done. She has not responded to that text and I'm wondering if I didn't blow my chances. Her ex and the father or her little girl goes to the same church and they did sit together but prior to church service starting she did make it a point to come and talk to me...the ex did follow her down to the alter and what confuses me is that him and the pastor exchanged grins...kind of confused about that. So anyway...where do you ladies think I may stand with this woman. be gentle but honest...I'll admit I'm a tender heart. thanks for you thoughts. -storm Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 11:27 PM Yeah....I am focusing on God and I do want His will...I guess its kind of hard to ask for advice and opinions when you guys don't have all the info...not your fault but I will say that by some of your responses its clear to me just how far off base your thinking of the situation is...I want to just let go and let God but that's want I've done all this time and here I am 26 and still single never having a girlfriend...its like if I don't take that chance it'll will never happen...I didn't want to come across selfsih to her... I just didn't want to get stuck in the friend category...guess its nice to know I blew it AGAIN!! Thank God that He is in control then huh? Thanks for the post and replies...guess I'm hopeless. The only good thing about beign a looser in this world is that God is willing to use me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 05:20 AM Storm, don't like seeing you down on yourself like that. You dishonor the time God took to create you when you don't recognize that you were made in His image. You are what the Word says you are and I don't see anywhere that it says you are a loser. The Word says we are to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. The pressure you feel to have a girlfriend because of your age and all that is from the world, society & your own internal expectation. It's actually a blessing. You will have no past relationship baggage and you can just get with the ordained woman God has for you. Belieeve me, many of us wish we had that testimony. My unasked for advice is to seek God and let Him make you whole. Then you will be fit and ready to join with one of His princesses knowing you are a prince, son, heir to the throne. :rocknroll: Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 06:12 AM You are a custom-made, wonderfully-made child of God. In God's eyes you are a shining jewel, a precious thing to Him. You think you are the only one to mess us and feel like a loser? No way. We could have a whole 'nother Forum category that would be filled all the TIME with posts of people telling how they have slipped, fallen, messed up, stumbled, and by people who feel like losers, failures, far from perfect, etc. etc. All of us feel that way. All of us ARE that way! But not all the time. And never in God's eyes. The important thing is to not remain feeling that way. Repent, ask God to forgive you, and move on. We will all make mistakes again. You can count on it. But we are all loved and precious in God's sight and he does not want us to ever forget that. Lift up your eyes, precious child of God. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 06:53 AM Still sounds to me like you're putting this above God and then kind of blaming Him for it, and maybe He still trying to teach you that lesson. You're letting this influence your life way too much. And you're not the only one out there. I have a couple friends that were 30 and 35 before they were married. The one that was 35 also spent most of his adult life supporting his mother and sick grandmother, so there was basically no hope for him. Even my mother was 35 before she was in a relationship. I was 24, so I wasn't much further behind you. Want to know what did it for me? I stopped caring about it so much and really trusted God with it. I basically promised God that I would seek Him first, and that I would not compromise who I was just to be in a relationship. Several months of not caring and voila, an awesome girl pops into my life that was so close to what I was hoping for that it could not be any coincidence. Seek God first, and don't let this bring you down so much. God isn't in the business of just handing us everything we want when we want it. He wants what's best for us. It might be a couple months, it might be 10 years, and it might be never. I'm not trying to make you lose what hope you have left, but I really do think you need to let this go. :peace::peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 09:32 AM I know she seems awesome, but if she's not meant for you, that means that there is a girl out there who is even better. It may be hard, but trust me, it's worth delaying gratification now to receive a much larger reward later. It isn't very healthy for you to be spending time with or stay in contact with this girl. At least for a month or two, you need to just stop seeing her outside of obligations like church. Spend that time seeking hard after God. I'm sure you know in your head that God is more satisfying than a wife could ever be, much less a girlfriend, but I know how hard it is to really truly trust in that. Pray that God would show himself to be ultimately satisfying in your life, and in time, he will be. If you're up for some reading suggestions, you might try reading through the Psalms or "Don't Waste Your Life" by John Piper. Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 03:41 PM storm sweetie, just patience man, just patience. and yes, I was young once too, yes I wanted someone in my life, "STILL DO!!!!!" but I learned from two BAD marriages, it's best not to rush things. I think right now this woman just needs u to be friendly, and pray for her. Also, pray for yourself. For the patience to find the right one, to use being single in God's way, and to make wise choices. with love, Debby Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 11:50 PM Thanks guys....I know i'm precious in God's eyes and I, perhaps too often in day, think to myself of how I am nothing with out Him..God truly is the only thing I really have...I feel His presence most of the time and I just LOVE my Lord...I am focusing now on joining a worship band...God has told me that through playing in a worhsip band "this thing" will happen...ironically it was after He told me that, that I found out this same girl wanted to sing in the band...if things continue the way they look like they're going to...her and I will be in the same worship team at church...they will have two after the start of the year....so I know God is working...and I know His time is BEST...babygirl your'e right...I'm basing my situation on the standards of the world and my own expectations...it is hard though when so many women I know think I'm too good for them because I dont have the "baggage" they do...but all that is really is them not giving me a chance to prove them wrong..its like a never ending cycle of blame and frustration...one that I"m getting tired of...Tired in the sense of being worn out not upset...Please pray for me because I'm up and down all the time right now when it comes to having faith that God will follow through with His promises. I know better than to doubt but its where my thoughts go. Thank you brothers and sisters!! I'm glad you're my comrades!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 06:53 AM Hey Storm, Reading your posts on this, and others replies to you to let it go, got me thinking. I do not feel that what you did by telling her you care was wrong. She seems to be fighting an inner battle and maybe needs to know that there are those who care for her. I know, being a woman myself, that she appreciates it. Maybe she doesn't return the feelings but now the ball is in her hands. If she doesn't say anything more about it and chooses to ignore, then you know it isn't God's will. And YOU can begin to heal. If you hadn't ever said it, like I said before, you would always wonder. And that could have kept you from embracing something better that God sends your way. I'm praying for you friend! May God's will and His only be done in your life. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 03:28 PM I honestly think you should stop worrying about it and leave it in God's hands. By wanting to get into this woman's life you might be interfering with the healing of her family! If it is true that God plans for you to be together, it will happen with or without your help. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 11:31 PM yeah I'm starting to see that...going to focus on him and the worship gand! Post Reply

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