Author	Thread: Red Flags
Admin	Red Flags Posted : 25 Apr, 2011 04:52 PM Ladies what are some of the red flags that come up when your first getting to know a guy either by their profile or on a date? Post Reply
Princekermit View Profile History	Red Flags Posted : 25 Apr, 2011 08:57 PM I kinna missing being called sexy. (by my wife) Post Reply
View Profile History	Red Flags Posted : 25 Apr, 2011 08:57 PM This isn�t really a red flag, but when a guy doesn�t open a door for you and have you go through first, or when a guy is absent minded about where he left his wallet when at a restaurant... he totally loses brownie points. And if a guy says sarcastic comments under his breath, I always like to parrot what he said, analyze it, and tell him how it makes me feel about him. Maybe I�m insufferable, lol Post Reply
Jewels133 View Profile History	Red Flags Posted : 25 Apr, 2011 11:59 PM RED FLAGS: Rudeness Pride/Arrogance Lying/Makes Excuses for Bad Behavior Jealousy Verbal Abuse Addictive Behaviors Controlling or Manipulative Behavior Quick Involvement Unrealistic Expectations Loner Irresponsible Blames Others for Problems Hypersensitivity Cruelty to Animals or Children Throws Temper Tantrums Dr.Jeckyll, Mr. Hyde Mood Swings Self Centered Mr. Know it All I pay close attention to how a man treats others...his neighbors, his pastor, his teachers, his friends, his family, his mother, strangers, children, babies, the elderly, even animals, especially if something goes wrong, or not the way he plans. You can tell a lot about a person by how easy going they are (or not) when plans change unexpectedly. Many of the things I've listed are CLASSIC signs of a an Abuser. Everyone has moments, when they are having a bad day or something...but if these traits are every day occurrences, or EXTREMELY obvious...then its a sign they need some serious help before trying to date ANYONE. Post Reply
View Profile History	Red Flags Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 04:51 AM Jewels, that is a great list!.....um...not to have...lol! Post Reply
View Profile History	Red Flags Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 05:14 AM :nahnah: Post Reply
View Profile History	Red Flags Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 07:15 AM Well a flag that is red.:ROFL: A woman who had dogs told me she hates cats that I emailed on this site. That was not something she should not have said. She should have said no thank you, we would not make a good match. I do not like to chop people down and would like the same respect. Boy, oh boy, I have not gone out on a date since before I got married. I feel I need some green flags. :glow: any takers?????? Post Reply
View Profile History	Red Flags Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 10:35 AM Un-able or Un-Willing to look me in the Eyes while talking to me...The Eyes ARE the Window of the Soul...Ifin Ya Cant or Wont...RED FLAG !!!...They Must Be Hiding Something...:rolleyes:...and dont Say its being Shy Gents...:goofball:...Shyness is Flushed Cheeks & Stamered Speech...NOT Darting Eyes...xo Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Red Flags Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 10:39 AM on a profile: shirtless photo doesnt talk about God doesnt say anything funny only been divorced a short time during communication: to needy controlling/manipulative talking over me when I'm talking not asking about me, just talking about himself talking about the EX talking about SEX those are some off the top of my head Post Reply
View Profile History	Red Flags Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 01:54 PM @lynne: I was actually thinking about starting a thread on things to talk to women about. That might sound strange to you but women in general seem to have no problem voicing whatever is going through their mind, and to almost anybody, so they're usually the best ones to start a conversation. Guys don't work like that because we don't generally say what we're thinking, and certainly not to someone we barely know unless we really need to get something off our chest. Or is that just me?! In your case, I really wonder what else that guy could have wrote about other than himself - he doesn't know you at all except for what you've written in your profile and we all know that barely scratches the surface for anyone! Like I said, men aren't good at general chit-chat with someone they don't know so maybe you should write back with more detail about yourself and what you'd like to discuss. In my case, I find it exceptionally hard to write anything interesting in a first message to someone (anyone!), but can join in these forums no problem! But that's because this isn't aimless chat to try and wooo somebody, it's focussed discussion which is much easier for me to take part in. Why don't you try it? Pose a question on your profile so that anyone interested has something to aim at for a first message. You'll probably have to keep the conversation ticking over yourself for the first few times but after that you should see results. Post Reply
View Profile History	Red Flags Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 01:59 PM Just read my own post and realise I nicely illustrate the "problem-solving" mentatility of men whenever someone raises an issue. It could be you were thinking aloud and just want to be 'understood'... :rolleyes: I guess men are women are totally different creatures afterall - in which case I give up!:dunce: Post Reply

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