Author	Thread: Spiritual Maturity
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 01:41 AM I've been seeing here and there, a growing number of professing Christian gals, that want a man more spiritualy mature than them, can anyone shed some light on this :) Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 06:21 AM I guess I'm one of those girls, though it's not like the first question I ask a guy is "Are you more spiritually mature than I am?" Keep in mind that sometimes a guy might be still growing up spiritually, especially if he became a Christian fairly recently. As long as he's actively growing in his walk with Christ, though, I would probably consider him to be spiritually mature enough. My reason for wanting a guy like that is simple. I want him to be the head of the household, and that includes spiritually. If I'm the one who is the spiritual leader of the home, it seems like there might be a good bit of resentment, conflict, etc. I also think that if he has a strong enough personality, he could actually drag me down to his level spiritually. Some women might be able to handle that just fine, but I don't know that I could. So, that is why "should be more spiritually mature than I am" is definitely on the wish list. Post Reply
View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 07:23 AM I think this is a wise requirement for a gal to seek in a guy too, Beth and Rabbit ... the two of you will always be growing together in Christlikeness, once you've become one as husband and wife, and you may not grow at the same rate, as God allows things to happen that help you to grow spiritually, individually and together, but it's always spiritually good for the gal if her guy is somewhat more spiritually matrure than she is, and is able and willing to take the position of spiritual leader in their relationship, lovingly encouraging and inspiring her in her spiritual growth!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts: Love, Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 10:13 AM Spiritual maturity can take a hormonal leap in one afternoon or take 55 years in the making...all depends on one's open heart and the will to know Him better. This is another one of those profile prerequisites that can hold one back from finding someone who is the one God wants for you. You are stating what you want for you. God wants us with another believer first and foremost. God should be the One Who we talk to first about any relationship that might be life-long and a prerequisite is your way of controlling...God can take a believer and change them faster than a twinkling of an eye, can He not? Therefore communing with Him ceaselessly is a better way to know who you should be with. I want you to know one professing Christianity and living it are two different things, and spiritual maturity depends on an open heart that neither you or I can see or measure. God does the work, we reap His blessings in our obediance. At this point for me to find a man who is the same as I spiritually is something I feel I'll find out how deficiant I am when God choses and not I...then I am the one that will need to grow more. Or better yet we will grow together in Him more...pretty nice thought don't you think? Post Reply
View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 01:58 PM Yes, SweetSense, I DO think that's a pretty nice thought!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts: ... and BAREFOOT THEN SOME!!! :dancingp::dancingp::dancingp::yay::yay::yay::applause::applause::applause: Love, Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 06:24 PM well, me I am one of those girls wanting a man more spiritually "mature" (strong) then I... why? He will be the leader of the home, of myself of children (if the lord blesses us with them). Not only that, but heres the thing, us women have it easy (as one friend pointed out), all we have to do is voluntarily submit to our husbands... but the husband has more work! He has to love us as CHRIST loves the church (big shoes to fill) AND present us to the lord Spotless... In order to do that he must be strong in the Lord before he's even married! Because once he's married he has made himself in the position of leader therefore a leader must be strong in following his leader which is Christ, can I get an amen mmmhmmm... don't shout me down when i'm preaching good.. . ;) lol nah but seriously in short thats how isee it. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 07:03 PM Those are some good replys...do you think its was meant to be easy?? To be honest with ya'll I would much rather have a woman who is about the same speiritual maturity, unless there was compensation in other places. We will always be imperfect, but there are certain...sins...strongholds....flaws that I myself can deal with better than others. I think the worst thing about dating or being yoked with someone eho is apiritually immature conflicts that arise from trying to convince her of vital things that I already know, where she is differing on. But idk, makes it hard when two people want two dif' things, and no one knows what the right path is :( Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 07:13 PM I don't know if this is what you intended, Rabbit, but your response made me try to see things from a guy's perspective. I guess if a girl doesn't want someone who is more spiritually immature than she is, why do I think a guy might want someone who is more spiritually immature than HE is? Perhaps the better thing for a girl to do is look for a guy who can be a spiritual leader. He might be on the same maturity level as she, or even slightly less mature, but if he could lead her and the family in what he believed was God's will for them, he would be mature enough. Did that make any sense? Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 09:05 PM I think so...and I could be wrong, ...it would seem like I would want a woman who could do her part, just as good as I could do the part that God has given me. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 09:05 PM I think so...and I could be wrong, ...it would seem like I would want a woman who could do her part, just as good as I could do the part that God has given me. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Spiritual Maturity Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 10:50 PM You know looking at these responces makes me wonder if all of us are in agreement on what spiritual maturity is, I sure would like to know you think. :) Post Reply