Author	Thread: Hatin on Divorced Folk
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Hatin on Divorced Folk Posted : 24 Jun, 2011 10:08 PM I am surprised at the number of people who try to steer me towrds another divorced woman as if that was all I was supposed to get. What is ya'lls views on remarriage after divorce. Post Reply
View Profile History	Hatin on Divorced Folk Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 06:42 AM Staying married, of course, is every Christian gal and guy's preference in Christ, but that is not always possible when situations happen beyond your control, that God has allowed in His wisdom for a good purpose ... sometimes it becomes painfully apparent getting divorced is the BEST thing you can do and in God's permissable will, under the circumstances ... so, you do what you've prayed about, considered fully, and come to know is the BEST thing to do under YOUR particular circumstances, and move on with your life, trusting and believe in God's desiring His BEST too for the rest of your life in Him, which, hopefully, will include another Barefoot Special Someone whom He will bring into your life to share it in Him with you as an everlasting "helpmate" and "complement" for you, sharing a Christ-centered marriage as "Barefoot Lovers, Best Friends and Life in Christ Mates" that develops none of the circumstances the made it BEST for your first wife and you to divorce or get a dissolution of your marrage. This is what I've had to do, in the love of Christ, and what I'm looking forward to enjoying, Lord willing, in the love of Christ, with a new Barefoot Special Someone that will come into my heart and my life to STAY my wife, like Phil Keaggy wrote and sang about in his love song about his wife: "She Came To Stay", which is one of My Very Barefoot Favorite True Love Songs!!! :yay::yay::yay::hearts::hearts::hearts: Love, Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	Hatin on Divorced Folk Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 08:41 AM What?! You mean people actually steer women towards you? Can I have your friends? Generally, people want someone who is in a similar situation in life. Those who have never been married, and especially those who have never really ben in a relationship before, would feel out of place with someone who has been in a marriage. On the flip side, the women that they are steering you towards may not want a guy who is single do to his lack of experience and would prefer someone who is divorced, so they point them to you. Whether you wanted it or not, you are in a situation that is irreversible. There are decisions in your life that will limit your choices for the rest of your life. Divorce is one of those decisions. Do you feel as if your friends think that it would be a sin for you to marry someone who is not divorced? I�m not trying to start an argument with you about your beliefs on divorce. But, the Bible is very clear about who can divorce, and who can remarry. There are only two Biblical reasons for divorce. The first if your non-Christian spouse requested a divorce, as in 1 Corinthians 12-16. The second is because of adultery. If you divorce for any other reason and then remarry, you are committing adultery. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 (NASB) 10 But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband 11 (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife. Matthew 19:8-10 (NASB) 8 He said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. 9 "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." 10 The disciples said to Him, "IF THE RELATIONSHIP OF THE MAN WITH HIS WIFE IS LIKE THIS, IT IS BETTER NOT TO MARRY." Post Reply
View Profile History	Hatin on Divorced Folk Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 11:30 AM Many never married people both men and women prefer to marry someone who has never been married before. We all have our preferences. However, there are biblical reasons for a divorce if you are a Christian. Unfortunately, many Christians to not divorce just for these biblical reasons found in scripture. As Christian we should All know what these reasons are. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Hatin on Divorced Folk Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 06:52 PM @ Cobbler I fall into both circumstances, and yes I get the feeling that ppl with out knowing me, my circumstances, or scripture think that I would be doing something wrong. I wonder if a person's preferance can be their own stumbeling block. In my years of experience I have learned not to want for to much because I am not wise enough, as I am sure 99% are not wise enough to without God's help select a good mate. I know of women who "did it right" went through all the motions, and saved themselves etc etc just to end up in divorce because they didn't know how to be married, and they were not at a place in Christ to be a good wife, or be able to choose a good husband because they had no clue what it was, though they thought they did... :( Post Reply
View Profile History	Hatin on Divorced Folk Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 07:08 PM So Rabbit, what's so wrong with dating divorced women? At least your friends are intrudcing you to SOMEONE. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Hatin on Divorced Folk Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 07:53 PM Cobbler... I don't think that Rabbit is saying there is anything wrong with it... rather why people limit him to ONLY those who are divorced and never anyone who's never been married. aside from never married having preferences for those never married. I think he's wondering if a person who's never been married doesn't have preference for never married over someone who has been previously married... why aren't they also introduced to him. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Hatin on Divorced Folk Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 08:46 PM Pashen hit the nail on the head...worse yet I feel like groups of people are opposed to me dating a woman who has never been married. Post Reply
View Profile History	Hatin on Divorced Folk Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 08:56 PM It could be that people think you shouldn�t date a woman who has never been married, or it could be that they don�t think you would want someone who has never been married or a mother. You�ll never know unless you ask. Like I said before, be grateful that they are introducing you to someone. My friends and family REFUSE to introduce me to anyone. I�m basically told that I�m not a real man if I can�t figure it out on my own. Post Reply
View Profile History	Hatin on Divorced Folk Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 09:25 PM Where is the FORGIVENESS and LOVE. Christians talk much about Forgiveness and love towards DIVORCED people,yet they show very little of both. Yeshua carried to the cross every sin and every time a person would sin. His blood was shed,and His life given in exchange for each and every single person, which trust Yeshua to save them from the Wrath of GOD against sin. Yet with Men,and Women this is probably not the case. Luk 7:47 Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little. To the depth we see that we have been forgiven, That is the same depth to which we will forgive others. Shalom Meanie Post Reply