Its' been a while I haven't been interacting with you, thank God for such an opportunity and having something to interact with you on.
My question to you dear sis is inspired by who and what you've reflected about your self over the few months I got to know you.
You're a woman of strong character Joy taking from post you've initiated here, and how you asked those questions. You'll agree with me on this.... You have shaken grounds here in a sense that, there were times when fellows reacted when written back to you. Were you threatened or intimated? Nope! Instead you'll post something else again few days latter.
The question then is: How will you make sure that your strong emotions are more beneficiary to the relationship that you hopefully might find here or in any other dating site you registered with?
I learned on our previous chats that we ladies are often driven by emotions. Something i've observed to be spoken of as being 'suppressed' instead of being embraced. I failing to understand why must we shut our emotions often time... Though that's another subject on its own.
How will you ensure that your strong emotions are not a threat in a relationship were you feel shut down if maybe your partner doesn't know you too well in early day of dating, therefore he reacts to your emotions in a sense of shutting you down (dismissing) since he hasn't figured out yet how to handle you when you're acting/behaving in a certain way?
Oh Sisygirl, your question and statements, for that matter, make a great deal of sense to me! First my sister I want to apologize for not responding back on a thread(I can't remember which one right now), where you spoke of not hearing from me and whether I was on holiday.....I'm still here and I'm thankful that you are too! Though my hope will always be that if I don't hear from you, it's because that special someone swept you off your feet:hearts:!!!
Let me say my friend that to answer your question quite simply.....I have a personal relationship with The Great I AM.....period! After everything this life has dished out, and then some, I'm still madly in love with The Lord! That will be seen first and foremost before anything that would "attract" someone to me! That's why being here at CDFF, I've had my share of disappointments, yet I've met some really fascinating brothers and sisters in The Lord...including yourself(smile)lol!! So if anything, this experience....fellowshipping, chatting, etc., has really been enlightening and strengthening to my spirit! You have to admit my friend.....we're all, if we're honest with ourselves, not going to be quite the same after this endeavor! I would certainly hope that what we've learned from each other, helps us in our personal, public, but most importantly, spiritual relationships! Be blessed, women of God!
I'm glad being in the list of those who made a positive impact on you, for I too have learned so much from you over the previous months. Its only fair if it was a give and take experience.
"My hope will always be that if I don't hear from you, its because that special someone has swept you off your feet"
Got me big time on the above sentence. I'm clueless Joy when coming to relationships, most probably I won't know what to do with that somebody if he was to exist. Though i'll let you know if i've decided to deactivate my account, I won't just disappear on you and Teach. You two dear ladies have been very special friends and sisters to me.
And yes dear sis it really was a unique experience being a member in this dating site. With me it was more of a self discovery with few things I didn't know about my self, and a lot of things that I already knew but was waiting for such an opportunity to have them confirmed. Not to mention brand new things I learned here as we conversed over the previous months. Indeed my life especially spiritually will never be the same after this experience.
Your relationship with God which comes first than any other relationship that you can pursue with anyone else, will have you attracted to a fellow of your own kind.... We learned that 'the like attracts the like' hey? Being positively sure that your partner is a child of God, what I still seek to have an idea of is in early days of dating/court shipping when he doesn't know you very well to manage certain values and qualities of a person that you are,
Then you find yourself feeling shut down instead of being embraced and given a ground to unfold the beauty hidden in the woman that you are. Ok sis let me give an example of were i'm coming from with this question to you: What i've perceived to be most guys great challenge is to manage the woman's most strong emotions, including her anger and disappointment even if he may not be the course of those.
At times we ladies often don't express our emotions to relevant people (those who could have caused us to feel in that certain way) until we are with our beloved partners, maybe over a simple question that you could have been asked... "How was your day?" then you get an opportunity of expressing how your boss has made you angry today. Or at times you could even be a little disappointed at me for whatever reason and you can't help it but to let that emotion manifest while with him.
How do you express your emotions yet cautious of not giving him a sense of threat, were he maybe feels pushed away when all you need at that time is being given a ground to exercise or unfold your emotions, which are the description of your beauty too if only he would let you be you even in your hour of anger or disappointment. After all we 'snap' at those we love now don't we? That is only if we feel secure enough to do about anything as long as it doesn't threaten the relationship.
I'm pushing you to your limits hey sis,
I'm sorry maan! hope this time around you do get understanding of what I meant. Thank you for what you've shared earlier on your first reply, unless you have something different to share, your first reply is still ok. The question was lacking clarity which I just gave. :nahnah:
big time on the above sentence. I'm clueless Joy when coming to relationships, most probably I won't know what to do with that somebody if he was to exist. Though i'll let you know if i've decided to deactivate my account, I won't just disappear on you and Teach. You two dear ladies have been very special friends and sisters to me.