Author	Thread: Question concerning men's physical attraction to women
Admin	Question concerning men's physical attraction to women Posted : 26 Dec, 2013 09:29 AM So I've wondered about this for some time and I just wanted to get input from the women on this site. Do you want your future husband to be 100% physically attracted to you? Would it hurt you if there were things about you that he did not find attractive about you? This might be delving into the topic of body image issues so I'd like to be careful and gentle in discussing this. When I say "physically attracted" I mean the initial drawing power of a woman's physical beauty to a man that makes him want to get to know her more (in a relationship, potentially leading to marriage). Honestly I think attraction is a holistic, whole person thing including character, appearance, personality, beliefs, values, etc. But a part of me ponders physical attraction especially since I am a guy and am probably more visual than most women. But when it comes to the physical, would you just rather a potential boyfriend not show interest if he is 90% attracted to you? Or am I just overanalyzing this and us guys need to learn to appreciate the beauty women have been given? So is it just kinda relative depending on an individual's preferences? Your thoughts and comments would be appreciated. Thanks! Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Question concerning men's physical attraction to women Posted : 26 Dec, 2013 11:47 AM Could have misunderstood your question in as many times as I red before writing back. With me personally I'd appreciate honesty if his not 100% attracted to my physical outlook, intact I'll be even glad if he won't be 100% attracted to my physical looks. Why? Cause will open the door of unconditional acceptance, something very rare in relationships. Weman (not all) go through so much torture trying to keep up with 'thee look' that has suddenly set a condition for acceptance. Some forget that pregnancy comes up with lot of changes including body structure and appearance facially. One may have pigmentation marks on her face that were not there before getting pregnant. Then she worries too much of looking less attractive to the very man that got her pregnant from the first place. Is it fair? I don't mean that we ladies must give up on maintain our looks after we've undergone sessions in life that may have affected our looks. Though it gets out of control often times, all for the sake of conditional acceptance. Yes dear you did not ask about after effects of pregnancy, I had to bring that up as an example of what can ruin the very physical appearance that was perfect earlier until now that one cannot be as she was before, for whatever reason other than pregnancy. Let's face it my brother looks fade with time that is why the bible emphasis on the woman's inner most beauty that is uncorruptible. Coming back to the question. "Do you want your future husband to be 100% physically attracted to you?" I don't think it will even be fair of me to expect that from him. Most ladies think that i'm looking good cause i'm naturally thin. But I know that i'm not 100% content with my body. I see 'errors' people won't see. And yes with time I learned to accept myself with the errors that I have since I can't change them anyway. Now how will I expect my partner to be 100% attracted to looks i'm not 100% happy with? This is were honesty and unconditional acceptance takes place. Knowing that i'm embraced with my short falls. Then our relation will surely be rooted on a more solid foundation don't you think? Than temporary things that we may have them today and gone tomorrow. Think I'd be more concerned about intimacy with my partner versus physical body structure. Intimacy can surely be missed in a relationship inspite of how 'perfect' we think we look, yet intimacy can bring perfection in a way than i'm too comfortable around you... that I don't need to worried too much about lacking certain things that would have been more attractive to you. I said a lot of things that were not part of the asked question. Please forgive me for that. I hope you're answered though Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	Question concerning men's physical attraction to women Posted : 26 Dec, 2013 02:41 PM Well, I can only tell you from a woman�s point of view�.I have been 100% physically attracted to men, then they open their mouth and I can�t run fast enough away from them. Then there are men I have been 75-90% attracted to by sight only then they speak and I think I am in love. I have only been so lucky once in my life, with my first husband who died 12-05-1990, who I was 100% physically attracted to and 100% attracted to what was �under the hood�!! My second husband, I divorced, I was no physically attracted to but he had swagger� that swagger got us divorced (he had it with other women too�lol), but his charming personality won my heart�.(I didn�t look too far under the hood:) But if a man is to shallow and only want�s 100% physical attraction don�t waste my time or yours. Because if the rest isn�t attractive the person will look for better� there is always better out there�. We live in a world with very beautiful people!!!! Some can be 100% in all areas, some are not, so it depends on the person who is hunting; they know what they want to settle for. But just don�t waist peoples time and feelings�.. Post Reply
View Profile History	Question concerning men's physical attraction to women Posted : 27 Dec, 2013 06:21 AM Wow, those are some great thoughts you two shared. Thanks for taking the time to write! The part about being honest with the other person really resonated with me, because it builds intimacy rather than a performance-driven relationship. It fosters a relationship defined by acceptance, warts and all. Really thanks for sharing! Post Reply
View Profile History	Question concerning men's physical attraction to women Posted : 28 Dec, 2013 10:50 AM men have a higher standard of public opinion in a womans looks these days. women in societies eyes {tv/media/advertising ect.} are almost all near perfect in a perfect world, dancing and doing laundry like models, driving her new car, flipping her bangs in the rearview, its the look they all seem to want and the mannerisms they mimic, but most women are not that, truth be known, despite the ones who buy into that they can make themselves into that cultural imposed ideal, eventually the makeup and girdles and high heels and whatever else, to promote and deceive, comes off, oh sure its a pretty package at first, until later, and lets be real 100yrs ago showing ankle was hot, so whose at fault? the female whose trying to live up to that image, good luck, or the man who buys the idea he's less a man if he doesn't have that perfection? and what man doesn't want some beauty on his arm ? don't want to feel embarrassed with mudhen for a wife now do we? lol j/k, fact is a woman only has part of her life young, pretty, vibrant, then she starts to age, and some not so slow or well, and she gets fat and then doesn't groom herself, and the guy does a double take one day and say what happened? bottomline looks fade fast so go for the personality and be happy growing old together. Post Reply