Author	Thread: What are some of the lies that women hear from the culture and the church?
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	What are some of the lies that women hear from the culture and the church? Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 03:40 PM Ladies what do you think? Women hear the messages: You are not enough, and You are too much. You're too messy, too emotional, too fat, too thin, too vain. Have you met the woman who feels like she is really pretty? She's the rarest woman on the planet, a woman at rest with her beauty. We say: My hair's too curly. My hair's too thin. We also hear that we're not enough. We're not kind enough. We're not serving enough. We're not busy enough. We're not patient enough. We're not accomplishing enough. We sometimes hear it from the church. If you're really a godly woman, then you'll get busy and get busier. All that does essentially is kill your heart. And the model that the world holds up is unreachable by 99.9 percent of women unless you want to have a lot of plastic surgery like we see on the makeover shows. Beauty is a matter of the soul. A woman of true beauty is one who's at rest with who she is and is not striving to become someone else. How do the early years of your childhood shape how you see yourself as a grown woman? Little girls want to know, Am I lovely? Whether or not we were loved in our homes as little girls�encouraged and nurtured�tremendously impacts us later on as women. But there is no wounding that is so bad that we need to stay a victim of our pasts or of the terrible choices we made. Some of the wounds in my life came much later because of the horrible choices that I made as a result of what I believed about myself. Curtesy of Staci Eldridge "Captivating" Great book!! Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	What are some of the lies that women hear from the culture and the church? Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 03:45 PM Here is some more - Why do women feel the underlying failure of who they are? Every woman has been wounded, whether it was a huge devastating blow or millions of little insults to her heart. We are definitely not living in a world that says, "You're fabulous. You have so much to offer." We carry wounds in our hearts. We believe lies about ourselves. And we also know that we are not all we were meant to be. We are our own worst critic. We heap guilt and shame on ourselves when what we really need to offer ourselves is mercy and grace. http://www.christianitytoday.com/momsense/2006/marapr/3.6.html?start=1‏ Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	What are some of the lies that women hear from the culture and the church? Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 06:47 PM Deedee you are so right...we believe so much junk and the source is our enemy. If he gets us to believe the lies, then we will NEVER be all God called us to be. We scare the devil, we are dangerous weapons in the quil of the Lord. Until we assume that role, we are stagnant and of no threat to him. Things that were said to us since we were small. One thing my mother always said "she's shy"..so when other kids or adults talked to me, i just didnt speak because she always answered for me cuz I was "SHY"...that carried through until about a year ago.sometimes when people would talk to me, I got this weird feeling in my stomach (cuz no one was there to answer for me) but God showed me that was a lie. I heard it so much as a small child, I believed it. BUT more than that..I thought I had nothing to offer in conversation in a crowd. One on one I was fine. I was diagnosed with agoraphobia, which is "fear of crowds"...it was a lie. When someone has a calling to help others with inner healing, i think telling them they are shy is a good way to keep them from their destiny. Ladies, this is a good thread. What lies are you believing? Let's come against them in the name of Jesus. Let's be free from everything that would hold you back. I know not everyone would agree with this but it's real and I've been experiencing so much healing the last few years from stuff that was spoken over me as a young person. bless you guys, Riveroflife Post Reply
View Profile History	What are some of the lies that women hear from the culture and the church? Posted : 17 Sep, 2010 11:19 AM Something I remember from being in the church is how inherently evil I sometimes felt because I was a girl. I remember being in a conversation with a boy in my high school Sunday school class, and how I simply disagreed and told him why, and he got angry and called me a �[loose woman]�. When I argued that I had never even kissed a guy, he retorted, �Well, you look like a [loose woman]!� This, while I was in my dress and jacket while his best friend�s silent girlfriend was next to him in spaghetti straps. This and many other instances, some even right here on the forums, follow the pattern of me responding to a man in non-accusatory disagreement, only to be insulted in anger. There have been instances where other men agreed with me in disagreement with a man, and yet I was the one who got the flack. The situation I described earlier, I can�t even remember what I disagreed with him about, but it was something really trivial that I was simply giving my opinion because he asked for it. And it had nothing to do with being or not being a [loose woman]. In short, I have found that in even the most innocent of conversations with �Christian� men, even when asked to contribute, it is reprehensible for me to take part or disagree on even the most trivial of topics. Items in brackets are substituted terms because the original was censored from the CDFF forum. Post Reply
View Profile History	What are some of the lies that women hear from the culture and the church? Posted : 17 Sep, 2010 05:57 PM Friends, even thou I am conservative in my thinking. A lady gets counciled by older women.Paul had that rule for a reason.Men council young men. How a woman dresses needs to be discussed among women. Not some man telling women how to dress in brow beating post here on the forums. Be wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove. Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	What are some of the lies that women hear from the culture and the church? Posted : 17 Sep, 2010 09:36 PM This is a great topic! I've had an issue similar to River's. I'm shy and my mom is controlling, so she would just talk for me. And she'll still talk for me a lot. If we're at a restaurant together and I need something, she'll ask for me when the server checks in w/ us. I didn't really mind it growing up, since I was/am so shy... BUT, the problem is that it didn't help me to break out of my shell. It would have been so much better if she'd encouraged me to speak up! Having my shyness reinforced continuously just led me to believe that I was incapable of moving beyond it. I'm slowly learning to overcome it, though! And there a gazillion other things... A lot of it I guess does go back to people applying labels... After awhile, it's difficult to NOT believe what others are saying and thinking about you. These past couple of years for me have been really great because I've gotten into the Word more than ever before and I have a much better prayer than I used to. Through that, I'm learning to see myself as God sees me and break free from what everyone else says. Post Reply