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SilverFire View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 05:28 AM I read something today that floored me. I know, I know, that's not difficult when reading women's profiles, but this was a whole order of magnitude different than the usual. This person was pretty much demanding that all suitors own property and a house. That got me to thinking. Is this a common expectation for guys in their 30's? That we are supposed to have certain things, or have done certain things, because we are a certain age? If there's some checklist I was supposed to be checking off, I've completely missed it. Post Reply
View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 06:02 AM Hi Silverfire, Finally see a thread started by you :) To be honest, in this world we live, yes. That is the "standard". Like men having house and car means financially "stable" (though there's a possibility of those men getting those by another debt, so not particularly stable if they could not repay it in the future time). And, that's basically what women generally are into. See, women are looking for security, to be protected, physically, emotionally and financially. I don't want to judge anyone here, but true believers would not care of all those things. They put their security in Christ alone, and Psalms37:25 "I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread." (Experienced this more than one time before). Never worries for those kind of things, we have God who OWNS ALL things, not to mention wealth :) Post Reply
View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 06:02 AM You didn't get the email on this? ...check your spam folder, it may be in there :ROFL: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 11:59 AM Goodness yes, and we also expect guys to have a large savings account, a retirement account, and perhaps a solid investment portfolio! And that's in addition to the substantial life insurance policy. :devil: :ROFL: OK, being serious now...I'll be honest, because I'm looking in the 26-33 age range, I do expect the guy to at least have a stable job and some savings to put toward a house. I don't expect him to already own a house or property. Why? Because I'd like to think that he's been waiting for a wife to help him pick out that house. :angel: Let me just say, though, that if a guy already has a house, savings, investments, etc., I wouldn't complain! :applause: :ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 12:19 PM Well alot of things are only on paper. Very few people in our young adult age range have a house paid for free and clear. Most go into debt for such, plus many other things, so I actually see the majority of people our age in debt rather than having anything worthwhile saved. But yes, a common thing I see in profiles, is a woman asking that guy has stable job, car, and possibly house. Which can be understandable because of possible experiences they've had in the past. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 12:25 PM It would just make me uncomfortable if a guy in my age range has nothing to call his own. If he's in debt because he bought a house, that's fine. If he has a car payment, that's fine too (as long as he bought a car that he can actually afford!). But if he has no job, no savings, and no car, I'd be concerned that he would expect ME to support HIM. I have a good job, a good car (paid cash for it), and some savings. I don't have a house of my own because I'm hoping to get married within the next few years...and in this economy I don't want to buy a house that won't sell if I need it to! Post Reply
View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 12:35 PM true, buying a house for the sake of the american dream idealogy, doesn't bode well in this day and age, sometimes better to just rent until settled down. Post Reply
View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 12:53 PM *Tilting head to one side in puzzlement* Hmmmmm...... Well. The nicest thing I can say about that is: at least she has made her expectations clear. You know what is important to her. Post Reply
View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 10:45 PM I dunno about the "being protected" idea, particularly when it comes to home ownership... unless it's a really strong house. Okay, I'm kidding... Personally, I just think it's shallow. Yeah, crippling debt is unattractive since it might be a character indicator, but gosh.... That's up there with one man's profile I read that said "Must have yellow haired woman." Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 04:42 AM Ok, thanks for the feedback. Post Reply
View Profile History	By this time in your life... Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 12:54 PM Hummmm...My first thought is...What is she bringing to the Table ? With such expected requirerments...She must be All that and Then some...Right ???...:goofball:...xo Post Reply