Author	Thread: Wedding Traditions
Admin	Wedding Traditions Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 07:10 PM I don�t care who responds, but I thought this thread might have a bigger audience over here. :goofball: TV and magazines (and yes, a lot of our peers) try to make us feel that we need a big, white dress, a tall cake, and a fabulous banquet to have a dream wedding. Not to mention the gigantic rock (the ring) and an exotic honeymoon. Also, a lot of wedding ceremonies and even reception parties are so deeply rooted in tradition, it is almost not worth it to argue with the status quo. What wedding traditions do you value and think are still important (giving away of the bride, rings, the white dress, unity candle, etc)? Are there any (besides God�s clearly-stated sexual laws) that you feel are important from a biblical standpoint? Post Reply
View Profile History	Wedding Traditions Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 07:19 PM Biblically? No. Traditionally? Yes Rings. Cake. Dancing. Being in a church. Friends and family. Lace. A going-away outfit. Being sent off. White dresses are great --- but at my age, if I get married again, I will choose something knee-length of a color that is flattering. I had the white dress once, don't need it again. That's just for me though. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Wedding Traditions Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 08:11 PM I had the big rock, the big white dress, 11 bridesmaids, 250 guests, 5 layered cake with a fountain and exotic honeymoon. (the fountain must be a hispanic thing) None of it meant that we would make it...and obivously we didnt. When I do it again, it will be something simple like a white flowing dress at a beach. I dont care about a cake cuz I only want up to 20 people to witness, just an informal gathering is what i want. Exchanging vows I will do this time meaning I would like to write my own. maybe a flower in my hair. you get the picture ;) I may do the something blue something new...I dunno I guess we'll see.... Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Wedding Traditions Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 08:31 PM I don't think there are any Biblical traditions that I would want upheld in my wedding ceremony. As for other traditions... I want to get married in a church. I just want a simple white wedding gown (yes, a real wedding gown, but not a budget-buster). I want a modestly-sized engagement ring and a nice, simple, matched wedding bands for me and my husband. I want my few closest friends and sisters to be bridesmaids (probably no more than 4-5 total, if that many). I'd like high-quality music (that's the benefit of being a musician...lots of friends willing to play or sing for free!). I want the vows to be the traditional ones, and I want the ceremony to be short. No unity candle...it's overdone and has lost its charm for me. No special music during the ceremony...I'm too emotional for that. For the reception, I don't see anything wrong with just cake, punch, and mints/nuts. I want a few professional pictures to document the occasion. I want a LOT of candid pictures taken by guests. I want birdseed thrown at my husband and I as we leave the church...and I want to leave in my wedding dress even if we just have to circle back around and let me sneak back inside to change! So...those are MY ideas of what I want! I don't know that they are very traditional, though! Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	Wedding Traditions Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 08:58 PM At my wedding, we wanted the theme to be that marriage is a covenant between God, husband, and wife. We talked about the covenants of the Old Testament and the different elements of a covenant. Like David & Jonathon made a covenant and Jonathan gave David his robe. At that point we exchanged rings. We talked about the new covenant being Christ dieing for us and took communion. Definately not traditional but very meaningful. I loved it. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Wedding Traditions Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 10:17 PM I like simple weddings and big receptions. It's the last time those people are all gonna be gathered together, after all. I don't really care what the wedding looks like, but I wouldn't ever pick overdone or ornate. I do like music though, so hopefully I'll have a couple musician friends play a special song or two, and have a couple hymns sung. As far as a message goes, I would much rather the pastor preach straight Gospel than a traditional wedding thing. I've always thought bridesmaid dresses were ridiculous and that a sundress would be a much better choice. Brides don't seem to share my opinion though. Post Reply
View Profile History	Wedding Traditions Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 11:21 PM I am really not a fan of traditional weddings!! The only part I would want to keep is about the covenant. Other then that ...I would be completely open and really want something different. I have a friend who is getting married in October(found the guy she is marrying on this site) and they have a nice mixture of traditional and non. One of the things they are doing which I like the most is that they are going to be their first greeting their guests as they come in! Post Reply
View Profile History	Wedding Traditions Posted : 21 Sep, 2010 10:03 AM @Tulip- I actually really like the idea of sundresses for a summer wedding (like not matching but coordinating? don't like matchy-matchy stuff...), though I've always kinda pictured getting married in the fall. Post Reply
View Profile History	Wedding Traditions Posted : 21 Sep, 2010 10:17 AM I'm interested (and a little surprised) that you guys seem open to different clothing choices! It seems to me that most brides are simply militant about having the big, white dress and tacky bridesmaids (my theory is that brides pick horrible bridesmaid dresses because they don't want to be outshone by their maids, hehe...). Never heard of any sort of going away outfit, that seems kind of odd to me. I totally agree with the small, religious wedding and a big party reception afterward. If I had more friends and my relatives were more the partying type, I'd be all over that. However, I have very few friends and lame relatives, so I'm kind of dreading the monotonous reception I might have if I get married. I intend to have a tasty cake, so if nothing else I'll have that to look forward to as far as a reception goes. :goofball: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Wedding Traditions Posted : 21 Sep, 2010 10:28 AM You know, it's not really the wedding ceremony itself that I look forward to having someday...the marriage that starts at the ceremony and lasts for a lifetime is far more important to me. Post Reply
TLSmiles View Profile History	Wedding Traditions Posted : 22 Sep, 2010 09:11 AM I was watching a wedding show once, and they passed the rings around. Since it sounds like your wedding will be much more intimate maybe it's something you should do. On the show people seemed to love being apart of it. Also, I should note the rings were in a small sheer, white cloth bag tied with a lace ribbon. I'd never heard of it until I'd seen it on TV, but it seems nice :) As for tradition, my sister married a south African and the wedding party had to dance down the aisle! It was fun and relatives shouted out hooting and hollering so excited! I LOVED it! It wasn't the stuffy, quiet wedding I was used to. His culture truly CELEBRATED what weddings are about! Unity in God! I'm not saying you should do that, but it was just a fun experience I thought I'd share :) Post Reply

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