Author	Thread: Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well?
Admin	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 01:55 PM Hello ladies! this question i sort of borrowed from Pixys' "Crossing the Line" posted in the "Ask A Guys" section on Nov.03rd. My thoughts on this was that some of you may feel a little offended by our opioins as a lady respond with "This is a dating site,not church!" so i thought you deserved to share with us gentlemen your opinions as well. Question 1: Do us guys seem to dress or expose ourselves in any way? (e.g showing our 'butt cracks"& boxers being shirtless & showing our sixpacks etc) Question 2: do you pose in any certain way that seems to a "i'm gonna get a girl with this" or it looks to "gangsterish"? Question 3: what are your veiws on us "christian men" wearing skinny jeans does it looks too "gayish"? I've run out of questions since i don't know what's on your mind so please share your veiws ladies.(p.s to any guys out there who wants to respond to this please don't give any negative comments since is for the ladies and not for you).:nahnah: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 04:29 PM I don't know that guys "cross the line" quite as much as girls do...girls aren't as "visual" as guys are (or so I've been told, and that's true for me) so seeing a guy without his shirt may not automatically lead to inappropriate thoughts. That said...there are a few things that I do NOT like to see in guys' profile pictures. I don't like to see a guy shirtless. In fact, I probably won't even click on his profile if that is his main picture. He could just as easily have picked a photo where he was fully clothed. The shirtless thing just seems cheap. A quick way to get a lot of profile views. You would think that it would be a given on these sites for guys to have on pants/shorts...but nope, I'm pretty sure that I've seen guys in boxers on here. True, I prefer him to be in boxers as opposed to briefs or...well, you get the idea...but I don't want to see him in them until I'm married to him! It's just not a way to attract MY attention. Another one that IS "crossing the line" is when the picture is of a guy lying seductively on his bed, half-dressed. Come on. Seriously? And you don't expect my mind to go "there"? Besides, you'd pitch a fit if I posted a picture like that. Play fair. Those are just the first few that come to mind. I'm sure there are others, but those are the ones that would keep me from even clicking on the profile if it came up on a search. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 08:10 PM Wiseguy, I love that you started this thread. I always get very annoyed when people pull the card that �men are more visual� or �women aren�t as visual�. Maybe I am just the exception to a widespread rule, I don�t know, but I feel like it�s a kind of ignorant thing to say. (Not calling you ignorant, pianogal, like I said for all I know I am the only �that� visually geared woman in the world.) Women can be just as affected/distracted by the way men carry themselves. I definitely agree with the shirtless thing, they are clearly making the statement of �love me for my body�, or at least �look at me for all the wrong reasons�. Personally, I find it hard to concentrate when I am aware of just about any well-muscled man with visible arms anywhere in my vicinity, so profile pictures where men are flexing at the camera seem very inappropriate to me. More subtle details in men�s profile pictures I find annoying are pouting (a lot of men have pictures where they are puckering their mouths at the camera, not like kissy face or �oh, I�m sad�, but in, to take your word, a gangstery way). Your profile picture is really important and says a whole lot about you, so when men are trying to look cool or intimidating (staring down at the camera like it�s somebody smaller and weaker than you, arms folded over the chest, flexing, and/or not smiling) it gives the message that they have certain levels of ego or self-consciousness. Skinny jeans are great for cold weather or snow (having pants you can comfortably tuck into boots is a great way to avoid wet pant hems and getting snow against your feet), but I do not think much of them as a fashion statement. I wouldn�t call them �gay�, but I DEFINITELY wouldn�t call them masculine. There are some anatomical factors that I think would make super tight jeans impractical for a dude. In conclusion: Just because you�re not in church doesn�t mean you should fudge on propriety. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 08:21 PM 1) Yes. I've seen all levels of dress and undress in men's profile pictures. 2) Yes, I have seen men posing in suggestive ways in their profile pictures 3) I don't think men or women should wear tight clothing. So, yes -- some men do cross the line. But the majority don't. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 08:41 PM And to think, I was just about to post a profile picture of me shirtless and wearing a pair of leggings as pants... Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 08:45 PM Yeah, I know that one can't make the blanket statement that guys are more visual than girls. There are always exceptions on both sides, and maybe even so many "exceptions" that there are no differences in general. That's why I said "or so I've been told." I just know that for ME, seeing a guy without a shirt doesn't do a single thing for me. It doesn't lead to inappropriate thoughts or lust of any sort. Even seeing a guy in his boxers doesn't make me lust after him...my first thought is usually "Good grief, go put on some pants." On a dating site profile, though, it does serve as a "turn off" because of the attitude it (possibly falsely) portrays. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 08:50 PM :ROFL: Pianogal I think the same thing! "No one wants to see that!" "Put a shirt on!" "Good golly that is inappropriate!" I didn't know anyone else thought that way. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 09:19 PM Who says old guys can't learn new things. Why right here on this very site on this very day I learned I can attract women buy showing my butt crack! Had I had this information sooner I could of been married by now. Do you all have any tips on how I can discreetly flash my butt crack 'clevage' without being to obvious? :winksmile: Post Reply
View Profile History	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 09:28 AM To: Bcpianogal,thank you so much for you for your wise comments ! :glow::applause::applause: .To:Siylii,thankyou on for your comments !:glow::applause::applause: lol on the "i wouldn't call them gay but idefinatly wouldn't call them masculine":ROFL::ROFL: ! TO Goslamb,thankyou for your comments on this as well :applause::applause: .I glad youv'e replied to Bcpianogals' comment. That is why i have posted this question in the first place! :applause:To Tulip89 & Twosparrows, :ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL: !! I don't even have anything to say to you because you still got me :ROFL::ROFL: !!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 01:19 PM Great idea to pose this question to us gals, mrwiseguy =) 1. Yes, I've seen some profile pictures flash across the top of the screen here that have shown quite a bit of flesh -- both bare chests and "Southern exposure." 2. Yes, I've seen guys post in such a way that seems to demand attention to their physical attributes in hopes of catching enough female eyes. What immediately pops into my mind here are the men who flex their muscles in their pictures. 3. I don't feel that skinny jeans are modest for men (or women) in that they outline the human form a little too much. Modesty is more than just covering up the flesh itself! Additionally, wearing tight clothing like that isn't healthy because it doesn't allow your skin to breath as it needs to. Think about how nasty skin gets when it's been under a cast for 6 weeks... It's the same sort of thing going on there with your skin there when you wear skinny jeans. Modesty is going to look different for men and women since our bodies are different, but I do think that the same principles apply. We must remember that our bodies and our lives are to be living sacrifices and trophies of God's grace and dress in a manner that reflects that. When people see Christians, they should see Jesus in us, not get their eyes stuck on our fashion (or lack thereof!) and never get to see past that. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Do us guys seems to be "CROSSING THE LINE" as well? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 02:41 PM I detect a bit of disparagement aimed at my picture in particular. If that's not the case, then please disregard what follows. Personally, I see nothing wrong with "tough pictures". It's how I see myself from the inside out; it's reflected in my music, my general attitude, and how I see the world. Paul even states that Christianity is not for the emaciated or the weak; we are all strong in Christ. I seem to be looking down at the viewer because the camera was on a tripod and so it had to be angled upwards to take the picture. I tried strapping the camera to the tree and other things, but none of them worked. And no, I'm not going to ask other people to take pictures of me. I was planning on using this picture for my next musical project, and I probably still will. It's part of the metal subculture to communicate strength through your pictures, and so this fits right in. I guess I could have worn a long sleeve shirt, but I don't own any that are black! I have absolutely zero intention on crossing any line or causing anyone to stumble, least of all with my pictures. Sylii, if your comments were aimed at my picture -- and it seems hard not to match up the specific comments with it -- you really needed to talk to me personally, first. Matthew 18. Post Reply

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