Author	Thread: Don't cha just HATE the expression "deal-breaker" ... especially when used in relationships?
Admin	Don't cha just HATE the expression "deal-breaker" ... especially when used in relationships? Posted : 28 Nov, 2010 10:28 AM I DO!!! A relationship shouldn't be a "deal" of some kind that can be broken, but rather a loving choice between two people to share a relationship that is God-centered and unbreakable, governed by unconditional love, grace, trust and joy ... that builds over time ever stronger and more meaningful and precious in the hearts and spirits of each person involved ... don't cha think? At least, I believe, this should be the ideal and standard we share equally in every relationship we choose to enter into ... sadly, sin has a way of corrupting this ideal and standard in so many relationships in our lives, leaving us dismayed, disappointed, frustrated and hurt, and in need of God's healing touch each time a relationship becomes broken ... thank God that God is NOT a "deal-breaker" but ALWAYS a "promise keeper" in His relationship with His children!!! Just some thoughts and feelings that came to mind and in my heart today concerning the expression and practice of "deal-breaking" in developing and long-lived relationships. What are your thoughts and feelings concerning the expression "deal-breaker"? Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	Don't cha just HATE the expression "deal-breaker" ... especially when used in relationships? Posted : 28 Nov, 2010 11:25 AM I think "deal breaker" is a convenient phrase to use. I would guess that most people who use it are doing so for convenience sake and not because they are thinking they are making a "deal". Post Reply
View Profile History	Don't cha just HATE the expression "deal-breaker" ... especially when used in relationships? Posted : 28 Nov, 2010 02:23 PM Your topic reminds me of a country western song;" Thank God for Unanswered Prayers" : ) Post Reply
MargoSolo View Profile History	Don't cha just HATE the expression "deal-breaker" ... especially when used in relationships? Posted : 28 Nov, 2010 03:26 PM Re: The term "deal-breaker" Depends on the stage of the relationship and the circumstance. If it is someone you just met, and s/he was not a Christian, that's a deal-breaker. If s/he is abusive, demands sex, thinks like the world, watches "Dancing with the Stars" (just kidding!), that's a deal-breaker. Then YES, We should have deal-breakers then. It would be not only appropriate but necessary! If the relationship is already established, and it is indeed a committed relationship, (I'm speaking of marriage here), then no, you can't have a "deal-breaker" type of thinking. It isn't 50/50 all the time. You should be willing to put in 90% even if the other person is putting in 10%. However, the Bible does point out a "deal-breaker" - infidelity, so yes, that can be (doesn't have to be) but can be a deal-breaker. If you are in a Christian dating relationship, the attitude shouldn't be one that looks for "deal-breakers", that would be immature. The question should rather be "Is this God's will that we get married?" Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Don't cha just HATE the expression "deal-breaker" ... especially when used in relationships? Posted : 29 Nov, 2010 04:25 PM Most of my "deal-breakers" are things that are actually more "deal-inhibitors". I wouldn't be breaking any deals, because the deal would never be made. Once I was in a relationship (ie. "deal") with a guy, it would have to be something really major that I simply didn't know about earlier to make me break that deal. Once I'm married, nothing is a "deal-breaker", save unfaithfulness or repeated patterns of abuse. So that's my use of the expression "deal-breaker." I agree with what's been said about it being just a convenient expression. Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Don't cha just HATE the expression "deal-breaker" ... especially when used in relationships? Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 01:54 PM I think people overuse it on trivial things, for sure. Unless it's something important, like her demanding sex or not being a Christian, I feel it isn't worth ending a relationship over. Post Reply