Author	Thread: Choices....a good thing?
Admin	Choices....a good thing? Posted : 29 Nov, 2010 11:32 PM Out of all the single men I just can't find one I like. Out of all the single women I just can't find one I like. A person can choose from a infinite number of cars to buy. Once you decide on a make,model and year, you can decide on the options; color, seats, number of doors, engine size, stereo etc...the options are all most endless. Next you go out and search car lots, newspaper classifieds and the internet looking for just what you want. You buy it but you had to comprise on some of the options. But you basically got what you wanted. Your neighbor asks you,"You get a new car?" you respond "Yes I did, but I really wanted a red one, I think silver will fade after awhile in the sun, It has a bench seat, I would of prefered bucket seats and it has the bigger engine, kinda worried it will guzzle gas" Your neighbor says,"Well its it's a beauty" you respond,"Thanks, it not exactly what I wanted, but it will do". A person on the other side of the world is riding a bicycle rain or shine 15 miles to work everyday. In his country cars are scarce and expensive. He has been such a great employee that the owner of the company gives him his old car when he buys a new one. His neighbor asks "get a new car?",to which he proudly replies,"Sure did!" The neighbor asks what options it has, to which the man replies,"Who cares! I have a new car and I love it! " Have you ever considered that having to many choices prevents us from being happy? Post Reply
anyann View Profile History	Choices....a good thing? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 01:20 AM an interesting point..but cars are just vehicles we use, we don't interact with them..car is not your helpmeet given to you for a purpose to build/ work on the Kingdom together. i think some inner similarity is needed for Adam to say - this is bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh and for them to be one flesh in a deeper sense :glow: Post Reply
Mercymay View Profile History	Choices....a good thing? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 01:38 AM When his new car stops running, sure rain or shine he will be in bicycle again haha. It is like saying �it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all�. Choices or no choices, to be happy is a matter of attitude. Even in the midst of abundance one can be so sad. Most people here are poor but I heard we are considered happy people. We tend to laugh at our misery. I think the truth is, we pray for a little, then having the little prayed granted, we tend to pray for a little more, then a little more, then a little more...well, God might just grant it, happy! Post Reply
View Profile History	Choices....a good thing? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 06:13 AM Yes, I think choice is a good thing. It is what you DO with your choices that define you and reveal the kind of Christian you are. Post Reply
View Profile History	Choices....a good thing? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 06:21 AM If you are blessed to have choices, then it should bring you joy to make those choices ... if you have no choice, you can still make ONE choice ... and that is to be thankful and happy that you have what you have and let that be one of God's blessings in your life. Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	Choices....a good thing? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 06:33 AM I've said many times to myself that to many choices can be a bad thing. We in 21st century America like to talk about "Gods personal will for my life". Well I have really started to question that concept. I find for myself that having options and then trying to figure which one is "right" in terms of Gods will becomes a stumbling block. I become frozen with indecision. "Which one is right?" - oh man that has led to some sleepless night. Sometimes I think limited choices and then just getting on with life is the best. Post Reply
View Profile History	Choices....a good thing? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 01:44 PM Definitely. For people who are not following God's direction, all of the choices probably do prevent them from being happy. Even men on this site mention all kinds of specific physical, personality, and spiritual qualities they want/think they need in a woman. It is fine to have preferences, but I believe that a lot of people are so picky that it does prevent them from finding somebody they could be happy with. I mean, in the long run, how happy is blonde hair or lack of any piercings going to keep you, and for how long? Post Reply
MargoSolo View Profile History	Choices....a good thing? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 05:54 PM I don�t know if TwoSparrows was referring to this in regards to guys and gals in choosing someone, but I wouldn�t let an exterior �type� (height, eye color) etc. be a deal-breaker to an otherwise great person. But I�ll reply in terms of possessions such as car, etc. I think having too many choices can be a stumbling block. So can having too little. Consider Proverbs 30:8 -9 8 �Give me neither poverty nor riches; Feed me with the food that is my portion, 9That I not be full and deny You and say, "Who is the LORD?" Or that I not be in want and steal, And profane the name of my God. As MercyMay stated, happiness is not dependent on what we have or how many choices we have. There are saints who have very little and a lot (the disciples were not rich at all; yet look at Job or David who were). Choices CAN be a good thing if you use all that you have to give to those who don't. It is a matter of the heart. Having said that, I believe that we who have plenty have a much greater challenge to keep from becoming complancent and ungrateful. There is �status� mindset all around us. We have to have a certain type of house or car. No one considers that its great to have a car at all. We are always upgrading our houses, computers, everything, because it is there and available. There is a tendency that what we have is not good enough in this country. �He who loves silver will not be satisfied with silver; nor he who loves abundance, with increase. This also is vanity.� - Eccl. 5:10 I am very aware of this in how people critique restaurants. We do it sometimes just in conversation and don�t mean anything by it I�m sure, but I don�t think that poor service or food is anything to get too bent out of shape about. We don�t realize that across the world people don�t get to choose if they will eat Italian, Chinese or Tex-Mex, etc. Bottom line - from the apostle Paul - �I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am in.� (Phil. 4:11) Post Reply
View Profile History	Choices....a good thing? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 11:09 PM Too many choices in laundry detergents, paper towels, cleaners, foods and on and on make shopping more tedious for sure. But then again, I shop for the most organic or least toxic so there ya have it. I kind of do that with a man, too. :laugh: I like em the least toxic and okay with my out of the box personality. It takes time fishing for that rare fish, right? Sometimes that fish is way far away and somehow, he never swims close enough for you to catch or vise versa. I don't take a lifetime commitment lightly, either, after two divorces that were unavoidable. I'd rather live alone and be lonely than to be married and lonely. ~sigh~:purpleangel: Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Choices....a good thing? Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 10:59 AM There's a book called Paradox of Choice that says the more choices someone has, the unhappier they are. They become obsessed with getting the best option instead of one they can just be happy with. They either don't pick one or if they do, they will constantly second guess themselves. Either way, they won't be happy. Post Reply