Author	Thread: Settling Down
Admin	Settling Down Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 01:45 PM What does the term 'settle down' mean? More specifically, is that any way for it to not be as dull, dreary, and boring as it sounds? Post Reply
View Profile History	Settling Down Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 03:13 PM Brandon, The foundation of a house (of any structure)�even a �marriage��is the most important aspect of that structure. Everything �rests� on that foundation. Build it wrong and you lose the House (or Marriage). All foundations need time to �settle down��it is the nature of this earth�of this world�that �pressure� and �strain and stress� and �time� tests all things. The foundation if build on �faulty ground� will settle further into that ground and in doing so will �rack� the framework of that structure and in time bring in down. Even on �solid ground� (granite) there is still going to be some �settling� (but not a whole lot). So to �settle down� is simply to �put roots down���set the parking brake���drill for Family�� �Capisce?� Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Settling Down Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 04:17 PM When I see a profile that says a guy is ready to "settle down", I usually think that means that he's ready to handle the responsibility of a family, he's ready to find a permanent place to live (if he hasn't already done so), and he's ready to get married rather than just date for the fun of it. To me as a girl, it means that I'm ready to put my husband first, ready to accept the responsibility of being a wife and mother, and ready to run a household. I'm done with school, I have a job, I'm ready for the next "stage" of life...marriage. I don't think of it as a boring thing at all, though, since spontaneity can definitely still be a part of a marriage! I remember numerous times when my dad would get up on Saturday morning and say, "Let's go to the mountains for the day!" We'd pack a picnic lunch and hop in the car and take off to explore some part of the Georgia mountains. My parents had definitely "settled down" but there was still plenty of room for fun and adventure. Post Reply
View Profile History	Settling Down Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 05:02 PM Capisce to both. I suppose what throws me for a loop on this is I've been and will be transcient for a long time (in the past 6 going on 7 years the longest I've lived anywhere was almost a year and a half) and having a place to live for the rest of my life is so different from what I've experienced so far. Post Reply
View Profile History	Settling Down Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 06:31 PM I don't see any reason you can't "settle down" with a person, and still travel. "Settle down" does not need to be associated with one specific place (house/apartment/ town/city/neighborhood). It can mean to "settle" with one person, no matter where you two might be. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Settling Down Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 07:30 PM By the way, when I say "find a permanent place to live", I don't mean that you have to pick a state, city, neighborhood, and house and stay there forever and ever. I just mean that you find a place of your own, wherever that might be. No more living with friends, family, etc. You might pick up and move a dozen more times, but still be settled. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	Settling Down Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 08:42 PM Settled down: mature enough to hold down a decent job (except in layoffs, understandable difference there) has his/her own apartment or house doesn't mooch off a different person for meals and company every night of the week financially responsible Not settled down: lives in a friend's basement or with parents between excursions to friends' basements or apartments isn't interested in making a living, quite possibly a partier lives hand to mouth/easy come-easy go Being settled down doesn't mean not having fun. Being settled down means being responsible enough to have fun on your own dime. Post Reply
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	Settling Down Posted : 23 Dec, 2010 05:23 AM When I think of "settling down", I look at it as establishing roots/making a commitment to someone. You don't have to commit to staying in one place, just to staying with that person. Post Reply