Author	Thread: Ladies, I have a question for you!
Samheis View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 26 Dec, 2010 09:26 PM Okay, I'm going to try to do this without opening a can of worms, so... here it goes. Ladies, how important is it to you that a guy be of the same denomination as you are? I.E. Baptist - Baptist, Lutheran - Lutheran, etc... Would it be a deciding factor in whether or not you get to know a guy? Do you think it would be a damper on your relationship? If you were okay with being parts of a different denomination... would you seek to change him at any point in the relationship, or do you think a relationship can thrive despite the difference? ---------------- This question is born of a little scientific curiosity. I've seen a few (not a lot, but a few) profiles on here that have a 'Must be ___' attachment to them (both for men and women). I would like to see how the forum-going crowd responds. Oh, and please, please, PLEASE keep it civil. I'm not asking you why you are a part of your denomination, or why you think another one is wrong. Be nice, even if you have to give a simple yes or no answer =) Seth Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 26 Dec, 2010 09:34 PM How important is it? On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being top-most importance) for me it would be an 8. For me personally I am not concerned so much with a specific denomination as I am with the same core beliefs. Deciding factor? One of them, yes Damper? It could, depending on the differences. I have friends that are different denominations. We agree on 90-95% of things. The other percent..... just doesn't matter to our friendship. I could live with that. Here is another corollary question: If you found someone you really thought the Lord wanted you to marry, but he/she went to a different denomination that you did not want to be a part of, even though you both agreed with 90% of the beliefs of your churches ...... would you marry and attend different churches? How would you resolve that? Post Reply
Mercymay View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 12:05 AM It is important that we have same faith not really denomination. Like I think Catholic and bible based Christianity is not a match. There were times some parents kind of tease about my girls and their boys and I always consider their religion first, my thoughts is not on how they will be financially secured if ever. It is if they will worship together in any bible based church and grow in their spirituality just like what I look forward in my own life. Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 03:04 AM I don't think denomination matters, as sometimes even I talk to people from my "denomination", they tend to talk things that I'm not agree with cuz it was not biblical. Denominations were man creation, 1Cor1:12-15, Christ is never parted. For me, the only important thing is he has his belief based on the Words, that's all. He can approve his belief based on the Scriptures, I dun see any problem with that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 03:54 AM I don't want to get" hung up" with all the different denominations and what they believe and what they don't believe, in some ways I think they are just a label and I don't want to be labeled as anything other than a follower of Jesus. I want to be with someone who knows what he believes and why he believes it, and while it doesn't have to be exactly the same as me it should be similar. I think if we have the exact same beliefs there will be no room to challenge each other. Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 08:13 AM Like GL says, it can effect whether I would date someone or not. There are some denominations, that because of their beliefs I would not even consider dating someone who was of that denomination. Others, maybe, depending on the individual's belief. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 08:40 AM It depends on the denomination. I attend a Wesleyan church but simply consider myself Christian. However, I'm more likely to consider people with similar beliefs and worship styles: Baptist, Wesleyan, Nazarene, etc than those whose beliefs differ dramatically in some perspective. The main reason is that I would want to attend church with my spouse, and if we don't feel comfortable in the same sorts of churches, that could cause difficulty. Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 11:15 AM Used to think this was a really big issue. We're told to not be unequally yoked, to me that means don't waste my time with anyone who is not a Son of God; Born Again. Seems to me that man created the denom divisions, not God. Frankly, at my church, which is huge (don't hate us cause we're into getting people saved - come on y'all), there are people who attend regularly who are not members and consider themselves other denoms, but want to hear the true word preached. I attended Catholic schools, received Jesus and was taught Christian 101 in an Apostolic church, spent a year at a City Vineyard Church, and will see the rest of my time here in undemon surroundings (as a member that is). Course any marriage is better when the two agree on the basics, now there could be problems there (again, thanks to mankind.. do we raise our hands, speak in tongues, etc), but spiritually, if the man/woman are Christ's, Son and Daughter of the Most High, then what's the problem. Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 11:27 AM I disagree with the majority of denominations out there and would not attempt to get to know a guy (on a romantic level) who considered himself to be a part of one of those denominations. The core beliefs matter more, of course. However, if a guy does not hold to his denomination's beliefs, then why is he a part of that denomination? Does he have a discernment issue? Does he not consider doctrine to be that important? Either of those are not things that I could overlook. Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 12:27 PM I completely agree with Godslamb and Violakat. I don't think it would hinder me from getting to know someone as a friend, but it would factor into the decision of how serious the relationship may progress. I think it is very important for couples to attend church together. For that to happen, a couple needs to agree on the core issues, but they also need to find a church that incorporates what each individual values in a worship service. But, God has plans for everyone, and I'm sure not going to put my preferences above what plans He has for my life! I just have to pray, pray, pray and see where God guides me! Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, I have a question for you! Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 12:53 PM It matters to me if my date does not like my style of worship or is a staunch follower of a denomination that practices things that I would consider idolatry or false gospel. Like praying to Mary, saints, thinking baptism is mandatory for salvation, handling snakes, name it and claim it, prosperity gospel, word of faith, etc. If he is okay with my open worship style and views of most organized churches, I think we could get along. To me it's pretty important to have the same core beliefs, so we don't have problems down the road. Post Reply

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