Author	Thread: Profile Whats wrong?
Admin	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 15 Jan, 2011 07:56 PM OK ladies, if you have not seen my profile please take a look at it for me and tell me what is wrong with it. You can do it here in forum or via message. I am on 5 dating sites hoping to make some female friends that might lead to friendships and possible dates. I have replied to several women's postings but no one ever replies back. Makes me wonder what is wrong with me lol, and it does get discouraging logging on time after time with no hi maybe or anything. So your opion is greatly appreceated and wanted. :bunny: Post Reply
View Profile History	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 12:07 AM love2cook, I am not a woman, but I have a honest opinion to share.... I would lose the profile pic, it is not a good picture of you. Your picture is totally expressionless and has this kinda spaced out look. People look at pictures for more than what you look like on the outside, they try to get a glimpse of what is on the inside through facial and body expressions. I think you have more to offer than your picture "expresses". Get some better pictures of yourself with expression doing things you enjoy. Or for now post a pic off the internet of something you like that kinda identifies you as a individual. The other thing is your profile says you are looking for a friend. So let me ask you: If you were out in public, let's say at a party or something would you walk up to every lady you meet and say "Hi my name is 'John' I have a lung disability"? Well that is exactly what you are doing here by posting it in your profile. No one who is going to be friends cares about it, but by putting it out there so early says you are looking for more than a friend, the combination of both is going to chill the gals to even getting to know you. If a relationship starts to be more than freinds, you have a responsibility to share it then, but chances are you will have already shared that information by then. For what's its worth, that's my opinion. Hopefully you will get more, there are a bunch of good gals in the forum with good hearts. Post Reply
daviditaly View Profile History	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 03:25 AM I agree, change the prof pic.. something fun, outdoors.. some with family or friends.. you can def have some goofy ones but you need some basic stuff first! Post Reply
View Profile History	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 06:45 AM I agree with the other guys so far. Change up the profile photo and work on having multiple photos, not just one. I agree with TwoSparrows that the lung issue and listing friends can be conflcting messages. If you are looking for more then say that, the gals may not be interested if they think you are looking for ONLY friends. If the lung issue is a serious thing then I think it is good to post it up front. If it is not and doesn't have lifestyle impacts then don't post it right up front. I would also work on the grammar and spelling. It's not a huge detail but for some gals that may be a turn off. Now all that said, lets see what the gals have to say since this is ask a gal. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 06:48 AM I haven't had time to formulate a good response, but after looking at your profile, I would say that Two, david, and Shawn have given some good advice. Best of luck. Post Reply
View Profile History	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 09:59 AM I want to thank all of you for your honesty, I will look for another photo and change up profile. May have to search some to find a different photo though. Have a great day everyone. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 10:47 AM Here's what I see: "Guess I need to redo this as maybe I did not offer enough info." Delete this sentence. It's not a very good way to start, and makes you sound unsure of yourself. The next part I'd just change the wording and spelling of a bit: "Recently divorced after 10 years of marriage. I treasure honesty and caring both in myself and those I date." "I am serious about wanting to chat with and meet christian ladies." This should go without saying since you're on a Christian dating site. I'd delete it. I'd just change the next a little: I am disabled with a non contagious lung disease, Sarcoidosis." But then add something about how it doesn't affect you or get you down or stop you from ____ and name activities that you enjoy. In other words, present yourself positively even while being open about the disease. "I hope your the kinda lady that does not just judge and rule me out due to this because I do have a lot to offer" this is the part that bothered me when I read your profile a month or so ago. It made me wonder if you were going to keel over dead minutes after finishing typing your profile. After that, I didn't look up Sarcadosis. It sounded scary. "I enjoy doing most everything there is to do and especially love tring something to do new." Name some things: I enjoy fishing (what type? General, or are you an avid trout fisherman or something?), hiking, reading historiography, diagnosing software issues, rebuilding computers... what? What do you enjoy? And then continue by saying "I also love trying new things. For example, this year I hope to try skiing for the first time, am taking a Japanese cooking class, am learning to fly fish, tried sushi (THAT one I won't do again!), and so would love to share in the interests of any new friends I make--EXCEPT the sushi... :)" (or of that special someone, depending on what you're looking for)... Just name some things that you would like to do this year. A little more detail will go a long way--it gives us something to connect to. Post Reply
View Profile History	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 01:27 PM Ditto what others have said. I see you changed your main picture -- good job. And you've updated your profile also, good. I have seen other profiles that listed "friends" as what the man is looking for, but he goes on in his profile text to describe he wants to slowly get to know someone first and spend time as friends before moving into something deeper and eventually getting married again. If you don't mention that (using your own words, of course) it gives the wrong impression to a woman also looking for a serious, eventually leading to marriage relationship. The only other thing I would add is to do two things: pray, and wait. Honor God with each contact, pray about any responses you get, and God will steer you the right way. Blessings on your search, brother! Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 04:06 PM Nice changes!! Well done. Post Reply
View Profile History	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 04:26 PM My dear brother and friend being on the forums here and making friends will be the best way to go.Be a regular. get to know people. Also look at other guys profiles like mine.This bear pic draws women like flies.:ROFL: You pet pic if you have one does get attention. Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	Profile Whats wrong? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 04:37 PM Again thanks gos out to everyone, It's just been so long since looking for someone I did not know how to properly put myself out there. God bless all of you and keep ya safe. Post Reply

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