Author	Thread: Cheating husband
Admin	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 10:06 AM Ladies you know for sure that your best girl friend husband is cheating on her and she doesn`t have a clue. Do you tell her? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 11:00 AM I'm going to add another part to this question. Let's say you find out that 5 years ago, your friend's spouse (male or female) had an affair during a rough time in their marriage. They worked their problems out since then and now seem happier than ever. The affair is over, and the spouse has been faithful ever since. Do you tell then? Post Reply
DanielleJoy1228 View Profile History	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 12:30 PM How sure is sure? Post Reply
DanielleJoy1228 View Profile History	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 12:31 PM @Tulip If they've worked out their issues do you really think that you should bring them back to that place? Maybe she knows already and has dealt with it? I think you could talk about it with the husband but not the wife. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 01:35 PM If it was in the past, no I wouldn't tell her. It would be none of my business to bring up old hurts. If it was currently going on, I honestly don't know if I would tell her. If I were in her place, I would want someone to tell me. But not everyone feels that way. Some people would rather be blissfully ignorant to the truth than know what is really going on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 02:08 PM If I were the woman being cheated on now, yes, I think I would want to know. If it happened in the past, not really sure. Part of me says yes, simply because you don't exactly know what types of STD's someone may end up happening. But at the same time, it could cause more pain and trust issues. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 02:22 PM Well, if this cheating husband is a Christian and part of a church then the appropriate thing to do is to confront him about it. If he doesn�t repent, then take it to the pastor. If he still doesn�t repent, then remove him from the church. It is the husband that should be spoken to, not the wife. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 02:27 PM Well, I would follow the principles outlined in Matthew 18, which would involve talking to the guy directly. I would make it abundantly clear to him that his wife needs to know and that it would be best if she heard it from him. If he continued to persist in his sin and not deal with things with his wife, then other people would be brought into it. As for your addition, Tulip, I'm going to say that it's a non-issue. If he is truly repentant and they've truly worked things through in their marriage, then he would have told her. If he hasn't done that, then I would question his repentance, which would mean that it's still an open issue. If the husband really loves his wife, he would tell her, and if he's withholding that, then I think that it does need to be addressed. So, I would default back to my first paragraph. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 03:03 PM Jinxs!! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 03:17 PM Pixy, if he hadn't told his wife, couldn't the argument be made though that telling her would only cause her unnecessary hurt? Post Reply
View Profile History	Cheating husband Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 03:56 PM Tulip, sure the argument could be made, but I disagree with it. I think that true, deep, total healing can only come when there's complete honesty and transparency. And being hurt isn't the end of the world anyway. I should know. Life goes on whether you have any remote desire for it to or not. Post Reply

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