Author	Thread: How soon is too soon to fall in love??
Admin	How soon is too soon to fall in love?? Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 12:11 AM This question is in ask a girl, but it's a question for the gents as well (you know how we do). On another forum I belong to, someone said they had been going out with a guy for just under a month and he had dropped the "L" word on her and she thought she loved him too. Her question was is it possible to fall "in love" with someone that soon. This is not a Christian forum and she has received all kinds of responses that cover the whole spectrum. I wanted to get the CDFF Christian perspective. I'll share what I said to her after I hear what yall say. Post Reply
View Profile History	How soon is too soon to fall in love?? Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 12:28 AM Honestly? I know men who've loved women from first sight. It's very possible in my eyes. Rachel Post Reply
View Profile History	How soon is too soon to fall in love?? Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 05:44 AM before you meet.:ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	How soon is too soon to fall in love?? Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 06:26 AM If I were that girl, I wouldn't believe him fully. Not that I'm saying that he was lying or anything but there was a probability that he had mixed signals and it wasn't true love. I would say to him that we need to keep those "holy" words until we were very sure about our feelings and not just said it as we were overwhelmed by the situations, head over heels etc. Back to the question, maybe it could work for some people as there are thousands types of people among 6 billions people on this earth and I haven't met them all :goofball: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	How soon is too soon to fall in love?? Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 08:04 AM Whether I think I'm in love or not, I'm keeping it to myself for at least a month and a half...hahaha Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	How soon is too soon to fall in love?? Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 09:09 AM I think it could happen. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	How soon is too soon to fall in love?? Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 09:39 AM I believe that you can "think" you have fallen in love very early in relationship, but I also believe that it is important to realize that you might just be "in love" with the idea of being in love...or worse, "in lust" for the person. I also think you can love someone as a friend long before you love them romantically. Again, it's important to not get the two confused. With the last guy I dated, I was definitely in love with the idea of being in love, and I did love him as a friend. But I knew I didn't love him romantically yet. That made the breakup at least a little easier. Post Reply
View Profile History	How soon is too soon to fall in love?? Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 01:50 PM To truly love someone is a decision not a feeling. That way no matter what the other person does or says it doesn`t matter because you already decided to love them. That`s unconditional love. On the other hand if it`s based on a feeling your going to fall in and out of love based on how you "feel" towards them that day. Post Reply
View Profile History	How soon is too soon to fall in love?? Posted : 2 Apr, 2011 01:25 PM To me there's too much rules and time frames for falling in love. I fell in love in a matter of three months but it didn't work out. The key is guarding your heart. Not everything you desire God wants or has for you. Post Reply
View Profile History	How soon is too soon to fall in love?? Posted : 2 Apr, 2011 01:36 PM Thanks guys for your responses and opinions. Below is what I posted as my response. Time doesn't always build a connection, but true love does take time. You are in the infatuation stage of your relationship. It is called romantic love. True love has to be established and have foundation laid, then you build upon it. You will hear ppl who have been together 40 years say they love their spouse more now than they did when they got married. Awesome thing that love can continue to grow deeper and wider. I like how the Bible describes love as an action rather than a emotion: 4"Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 8Charity never faileth," - 1 Cor 13:4-8 What you are feeling is the emotional high of romantic love. It's a beautiful thing, but not to be mistaken for that thing that long lasting relationships are made of. Many ppl have married while in the throes of this type of love and when it wears off (and it always does) they are disillusioned and break up. Some make it thru and real love has a chance to become established. Thanks again. Post Reply