Author	Thread: Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly
oceanshore View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 22 Feb, 2013 05:00 PM I recall my friend of 28 who kept himself pure until marriage and then he met a gal of 30. They fell in love and she had to tell him one day that she was not a virgin. It was one of the hardest things for her to do and she wept so. She so badly wished that she had waited just as he had waited. They went on to get married and they are both so happy to this day. Another male friend also waited and then met a gal in college. Not only was she a virgin, she had never kissed a man. He decided to marry her and decided not to kiss her until the wedding. He did just that and then later he said that he wished that he too had waited to kiss a woman until he found his spouse. (He had kissed another gal before he had met her.) Not surprisingly, she never regretted waiting at all. Another guy friend waited to be sexually intimate until 32 when he married. His wife had had multiple sexual partners in the past and she also was convicted. She was so thankful that he still decided to marry her even though she had not waited like he had. So, friends, you will NEVER regret waiting...for sex, for fondling, for kissing, even for emotional attachments...until you find a spouse. In fact, if anything, you will be so thankful that you did not bring more baggage into the relationship than you would have done so otherwise. I am also convicted about this and that is why I am a virgin even though I am 42. I do not regret waiting and if God should bring me a spouse, I promise you that I will give my wife a precious gift that has come at a dear price to me. If you are still a virgin, think on this: what if you and I were to meet on this site and fall in love and decide to marry and we got to the point of talking about past love relationships. When I tell you that I have waited for you all these years, wouldn't you like to reply that you have also waited? Wouldn't that be better than having to confess to me that you did not wait for me? Would I be sad if you had not kept yourself pure? I have to be honest, I would be devastated. If you only knew how hard it has been for me to wait...I would feel that all my efforts to keep the marriage bed pure were somewhat in vain...or at least I would feel sad that you would not be able to give yourself to me as I give myself to you. I hope these words encourage you in your life of living to the glory of God. Because, in actuality, our commitment to God should be even more of a motivation toward purity...even more than that of a future spouse. I realize that many who would read this are windowed and I consider you to be in a different category since you would not be able to be a virgin now. Even so, I hope you also are encouraged to stay pure before you marry someone else. If you have been sexually intimate with a man outside of marriage in the past, I want you to determine if this happened after or before you were born-again: 1. If it happened after you were born-again, please consider confessing your sins (if needed) and maybe get someone to talk to about processing though the likely residual feelings. Also, please commit to another women your desire to stay pure from this day forward and invite accountability from a female friend. 2. If you were sexually intimate outside of marriage BEFORE you were born-again, I have some good news for you: you are a new creation and the old is gone. Yay! You have likely already repented of your old ways (including sexual immorality), but if you have not done so, commit to living a future life of purity until God brings Mr. right along. Your future spouse may or may not be a virgin, but if not, he should have repented of his old ways just as you have. Lastly, if you are divorced, you will probably find that this post is WAY to simple to address your life situation. I hope you will look past my inability to speak effectively to your situation. Others will do a much better job providing words to guide and exhort. Thanks for reading and I hope most readers will be encouraged by this! God bless! Post Reply
shineme27 View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 22 Feb, 2013 08:53 PM Thanks for sharing. Honestly, sometimes I feel tired to wait for. But, this written encourage me. God bless you :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 25 Feb, 2013 05:59 AM To be honest, virginity is the gift to both partners,,, but i think...ladies must be pure before marriage..on my own opinion..for men nothing will be lost ....it's worthy to wait to someone that you will love forever. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 25 Feb, 2013 06:00 AM To be honest, virginity is the gift to both partners,,, but i think...ladies must be pure before marriage..on my own opinion..for men nothing will be lost ....it's worthy to wait to someone that you will love forever. Post Reply
mapy View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 27 Feb, 2013 02:50 AM Hi! I totally agree with you and I can't contain not to comment. Truly, it's hard to remain pure but I know it's worth it as your doing it to glorify God and standing on his word. Just like you I have remained not to get intimate to anyone not because I'm strong but by God's grace and praying that someday will find God's best for me:) Post Reply
MyPrincessButterfly View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 11 Mar, 2013 01:34 AM I strongly agree what you shared with us. Waiting is a blessing as well. " No one can live up to one's conviction without God's help. He's the only one who can strengthen us to do the right thing. Its not a will power but its God's power" - L.A I keep myself pure and save for marriage. Thou I dont know him yet ( the man that He prepared for me). God will open that door in His time. While waiting...I love being with God. Post Reply
uniquecrystalheart74 View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 12 Mar, 2013 04:28 PM Wow!!!! :applause: Great deep meaningful post my dear friend. Thanks for encouraging everyone by your post (^_^) Post Reply
rachelteh View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 23 Mar, 2013 08:58 AM God is the creator of everything, only Him alone know what is the best time of intimacy between man & woman.. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 26 Mar, 2013 08:20 PM I've been waiting as well...although for a different reason. At 31, I still have never kissed anyone. Unlike most of you here, I did not want to get married until recently. I just changed my way of thinking about 2 years ago, and so this whole thing seems so weird and foreign to me. Everything is new to me. I can't describe it. It's like I was born yesterday. LOL! Of course, in just less than 2 years I've learned a lot about myself, others, and dating in general. But I am probably in the 1% of crowd who has very little experience. :) Post Reply
oceanshore View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 22 Apr, 2013 12:06 AM I am the author of the above posting and I wanted to make a follow up comment. Since writing this, I have started living in the Philippines. I do not want to be judgmental, but I am shocked by the number of single moms I meet here. And even in the church, it seems that there are tons of them. And I observe that many are especially friendly with me. When I find out that they have kids, I want to be honest...it's a turn off. Why do I want to inherit and provide for someone else's seed? (If she's a window, that's a totally different story.) But if I meet a gal who already has kids and the husband is still alive, I would not give her a second look. No joke. For women like that, I would suggest marrying a man who already has kids. One friend said that the high number of births out of wedlock here in the Philippines is the product of this nation following Hollywood for the past 60 years. I was surprised to hear that, since I myself despise Hollywood and I can't figure out why people from another country would care at all about what happens in LA. I certainly don't. With all that as context, I would not expect non-believers to have much reason to not be sexually intimate before marriage, but if you are a believer and not yet married, can I please encourage you...it is worth the wait! Being a single mom and trying to woo a man who does NOT already have kids, is like, wow, nearly impossible. It is not worth the risk. Post Reply
openheart27 View Profile History	Why Wait -- This Post is For Women Mostly Posted : 25 Nov, 2013 04:07 AM You are exceptionally intelligent :applause: Post Reply

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