Author	Thread: Body Image
Dramachic1258 View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 07:26 PM how do you convince someone to look past your body shape? i know that we live in a society that is based on image, but i would kind of hope that true christians could look past the physical beauty and see the internal, i just can't figure out how to do that online yet. Post Reply
View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 08:51 PM You can't. They either are a big enough person to get past it themselves, or they are not. Nothing you do or don't do will convince them. Just my opinion, mind you. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 31 Jan, 2010 10:49 AM I have found the same to be true in my perspective. I have been told that with my weight I shouldn't expect to attract someone who is "smaller". I can't help it that women with a petite body build are attractive to me. Now please notice I said a petite BODY BUILD, this doesn't mean she has to be model thin, it just means I like women who have an overall smaller body FRAME. It seems to me that both men and women in our society have issues with there weight and with the weight of the opposite sex. I think its just something that we have to live with...rely on God for the solution. Post Reply
View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 31 Jan, 2010 11:19 AM sometimes the internal affects the external. in this instance i'm talking about being active, positive, enthusiastic, taking care of yourself, and discipline, which fair or unfair are the stigmas that don't come to mind if they see someone that looks overweight. the good news is a person who displays these qualities is attractive regardless of body type. spirit and attitude always will be. some people are large, some people are big, some even have conditions where it's difficult to not gain weight, (then there's the opposite small, short, can't gain weight) the point is just like anything else do your best with what you have and you will be given more and things will get better. with being overweight what you instantly are pitted against is the stigmas i mentioned, so look for chances to display what i also mentioned and so diffuse those negative stigmas. above all else though be healthy and happy. that's the whole point of grooming anyway, of which getting in shape is a part of. Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 31 Jan, 2010 04:28 PM Hi Dramachic1258, I agree with each of the others responses to you. If you like you as you are, ok then. "You" are what you believe about yourself. If you believe you are "fearfully and wonderefully" made, let that be the external image that you show to everybody, and believe in God's favor that you will attract the right Godly men your way (regardless of your weight). Now, if you can do something about your weight, and you want to, and nothing medically inhibiting that, then do it... IF that's what you want to do. If not, then "glow" girl, just as you are. Don't worry about it. Convincing... poof... thump it! Rejection...just prepares you for Mr. Right. ~ GraceMae Post Reply
View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 31 Jan, 2010 07:01 PM God built our 'sexuality' into us in addition to everything else. We are the sum of our parts.....spiritually, emotionally, and physically. You seem to imply a "Christian" would be somehow LESS of a Christian if you insist another Christian should deny one of the key ingredients when wanting a lifelong "mate"..... "Mating" is part of a healthy marriage. By asking somebody to simply "look over" that issue means that there will be a marriage that is devoid of the sexuality that was part of our need to be mated in the first place. I'm not suggesting that sex is the end all be all in a relationship, or the decision to be with another... but it IS the reason in itself that YOU are able to now sit and write this question.... Your mother and father apparently found each other sexually attractive and compatible at one time.... Would you have preferred your father NOT been attracted to your mother, and just found her to be a really good person....thus not having sex....and you then not being able to ask this question?? Think about it..... There will always be somebody who is attracted to somebody else... and those who are not... You can't possibly suggest you've NEVER had to turn down a guy who was attracted to YOU somehow, but you were not to him??? Come on now... You're a woman... Please don't pretend... Blessings.... Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 31 Jan, 2010 07:11 PM If a guy can't see you for more than your body image, you probably don't want him anyway. Just my opinion. And here's a thought for guys...just because you like, date, and maybe marry a girl with a great figure, that doesn't mean she will stay that way! You'd better love her for more than her body. Post Reply
View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 31 Jan, 2010 07:36 PM LOL.... okay.... then here's a thought for you girls....since we men are now going to be apparently 'lectured' about eventual BODY MORPHING through the years......... Simply because a man doesn't fit your delusional romantic notions of "A Vampire from the Twillight series" books that all of you like to read when you're not reading your BIBLE... doesn't mean he isn't going to be a good man........ Are we even now??? :goofball: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 31 Jan, 2010 08:44 PM Yep, we're even! I'm personally not looking for (or even wanting) an Edward Cullen. I'd much rather have a normal, average, really nice, solid Christian guy! ('Sides, I'm more team Jacob anyway! :ROFL: ) Post Reply
View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 31 Jan, 2010 09:49 PM All i know is if you start thinking 'i wish i had the body of a greek god/goddess', guess what? you're communicating with your body language that you don't think you have as much to offer and are infurior. think that's attractive? Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Body Image Posted : 1 Feb, 2010 10:10 PM Dramachic1258 , ok... so you got more in different perspectives.... heed them, they're all good food for thought too! You know I'd venture to say, I wouldn't mind having a Barry White, Isaac Hayes, Barry Manilow kinda voiced man, with a Steven Segal mixed with Jean Claude Van Damme kinda physical aura, plus some solid JESUS in his being! ( I know you're a little younger so you might not appreciate Barry & Isaac here). But I quess what I mean is that there is more that comes with body image.... it aint' about what we really see, however, the attractiveism must happen, cause God did give us this gift of the physical benefits of relationship and the "full" benefit of it in marraige. If it's God's will for you to be married, He will bring forth that "one" who will be right for you and will see "you" as you are and you will be BEAUTIFUL to him. Period! I don't know what I'm really trying to say here, just thoughts running through my mind. I didn't proof this, I just started writing what was in my head. Be encouraged and have fun, and be "you", and trust God. If you're being you, then you want someone who accepts you for "being you" . Nothing more is required. :glow: ~ GraceMae Post Reply

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