I've been on this site for about 3 years now. I just want to caution some of our newer users about anyone trying to get them to chat or email outside the website. The web administrator doesn't give that recomendation for nothing! I was on-line today when my live chat window opened and a gentleman from Ga. wanted to talk. Right away he tells me he's actually in Africa, doing work there. Several red flags popped up during our conversation. 1; he wanted to know if I lived alone. I didn't answer. 2; his sentence syntax was off....I mean, I understand not everyone is a good typist and we all make typos. But there just wasn't something quite right about his "voice".
3: He gave me a phone number and wanted me to call him. I would not. I Googled the number later and discovered it was to some Occupy Wallstreet party line! Also, the company he said he worked for is not located in Ga. as he said. 4: He wanted my email. HUGE RED FLAG! My warning to you all! Don't go outside this site to talk or email until you are very sure about someone.And if they try to "guilt" you into it by telling you you're not trusting or not being a "good Christian" with that attitude.....RUN!
LASTLY; read carefully and observe how someone talks. This site is great at catching and banning potential scammers. But sometimes it might not be quick enough and we all need to be vigilant. Pray about all potential contacts! God will reveal the truth to you! He has for me many times!
God bless all my sisters and brothers in their search for a Godly partner!
Thank you Sunny. I had this same thing happen the other day on this site. The person Im'd me then didnt want to say much about himself just said he was in the Miltary from GA and then asked if I had Yahoo Messenger or hotmail, MSN I said no to all then He stopped messaging me. Beware of the Fakes on this site.
Yes, and please do all of us a favor, and REPORT such abuse and scamming to The Administration. That is the ONLY WAY they know to ban someone from CDFF.
So true, Sunny. There is evil anywhere good exists. I cannot remember the number of people I have had to get banned from this site.
The best advice I can offer is to ask lots of questions and be more clever than the potential scammers. One thing that I do if someone contacts me in IM is that I have Google Earth in the ready and I ask questions about where the person claims to be from. Try your best to trip them up. They are not too bright, so you should be able to do this easily.
For example, I had one "gal" say she lived in Denver, CO. There is a place there called the Pepsi Center and I asked this person if they had ever been to the Coke Center and they said, "Yes, many times." Busted! I had them banned very quickly.
Do not be naive, they are out there and some may seem more real than others. Never, ever send anyone money. Never give out personal information like e-mail addresses or phone numbers.
I know many are wanting to meet someone but be smart and verify the reality of the person you are talking to so you do not become a victim.
There are enough good people out there to be patient and wait for the Lord to present the right person for you.
My best final advice is not be looking too hard for a mate. Seek first the Kingdom of God and you just may find someone doing the same thing.
Ive been busting and exposing scammers for six years on dating sites and this is one of the best pieces of advice.. DO NOT go off site with anyone until u establish who they are,, one of the first big red flags is that someone will try to get you to im or email off site.
Emails are not hard to track as to location,, I have found personal addresses with simply an email.. and im not a search expert.
My person policy is that i do not im with anyone that I have not chatted with in the chat rooms several times,, or have observed.
BE AWARE and report them,, also a contact email address in the first email is a huge red flag..as are any terms of endearment,, poor spelling and punctuation and grammor for their educational level.. widowed marital status with the work being in some kinda contruction or oil.. sometimes pastoral as well..
REmember NO ONE has the right to ask for money on a dating service,,NO ONE<,, no matter what sob story they give. Or. show particular interest in where u live, as to country,, etc.
This is all true. Always be very careful when meeting someone new, online.
I had to learn the hard way, with a few, before I realised what it was, and I found www.RomanceScam.com very helpful in helping me understand these "new" evil that I never read of. Boy, it was an eye opener. I met so many "ladies" that it was not really funny. All they was was ugly little men hiding behind "ladies" like cowards, it just hurts deep inside. (sighs).
Over time I figured out how to "read" them and then report them and deletes them. Sometimes I try this new trick, telling them I want to correspond onsite, that way we'd get to know each otehr for a few days, a few weeks, or best of all, a few months, so I'd know how long they lasts. It was great that most of them never lasts beyond two messages, they just don't bothers anymore. Very impatient, uh? So I know they was not what they said.
Now, after a couple of years, I just sees what they say, deletes them if they have no pic and they gives me email addresses, all of which I deletes after reporting them. (sighs). It's been about four years, I think, since I decided to try to find a good woman. (sighs).
The scammers just makes it harder to get around them, they takes so much time to weed them out. (sighs).
So it's good to be wary of whoever's messaging you, on IM, or email messages, even on phones. And most of all, NEVER GIVE MONEY, EVER! Not one cent. Nothing at all!
Trip them up, check them out, and if they're not what they seems, cut them out, cut them off. Never give them any clues they can use to make themevles more legit, okay? Never teach them what they're doing wrong. Never tell them how to improve themselves so they can "pass", okay? Ok.
I'm new on this site and i have been approached by several guys demanding for my email address & phone contacts. Good enough i told them that i prefered chatng within the website.
From you guys, now i know the risks of exchanging personal contacts with someone you met just a few days ago.
