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really_54
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 3 Oct, 2009 08:12 AMHi...I wanted to spread the thread this morning about a subject that is regarded among some in Christendom to be a sign of carnality... and that's the word "Chemistry". |
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Linnie41
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 3 Oct, 2009 09:12 AMNicely worded Paul, and I agree with you - for the most part. I agree that the initial physical attraction must be there for us to want to pursue something further. However, I have also known men that I was not at all physically attracted to, but after getting to know them, they became very attractive because of the outstanding qualities they had that just didn't "outwardly show" when we first met. I've known people who by the world's standards were not "beautiful people." (And I'm not saying that to be mean to anyone - I'm not one of them, either!) But after time, they became drop dead gorgeous because of their demeanor, their kindness, their personality, their confidence... |
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 3 Oct, 2009 04:10 PMI actually agree with both of you.Thats why I dont hold out much hope for online dating.I could see a scenario where I could connect completley with someone on an intellectual,emotional and spiritual level,then upon meeting her,just couldnt physically bring myself to be with her,Im afraid this might be more challenging for the men on here being more visual than the ladies,however having never been a women,I really cant judge how much they truly care about physical attraction!Plus I always wonder how honest some of these people are when it comes to there pictures!Ive seen some gals have three pictures posted that look like their from three different decades LOL |
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explor_r
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 10 Oct, 2009 04:48 PMI agree with all of you to a point. I always look at the heart & their qualities that mesh with my own before looking at their picture. I have talked with men on here with no picture & have never asked to see a picture of them first eigther because they could be exactly your type in looks & do nothing intelectually or on the same level as yourself & it will mean nothing. I do believe that their has to be a strong chemistry for any relationship to work definately beyond looks, going into a magnetic attraction. Where there is just something that pulls the 2 of you together. And yes the magnets need to be equal or 1 will be much more attracted than the other. Then it becomes an unhealthy relationship. I have wondered how people can just sleep with someone for revenge or for pleasure without that magnetism between the 2? Maybe people are just too desensitized. |
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 11 Oct, 2009 08:26 PMAbsolutely, its important. I don't think its wrong. I think its how God made us. But, if the attraction causes us to flirt or lust, that is what's wrong. Just to appreciate someone's beauty is a good think, I think. |
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really_54
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 11 Oct, 2009 11:07 PMThank you to everyone who has responded. Your insights are very much appreciated. I've come to realize that beyond the physical attraction, chemistry also needs to happen in the soul... in the spirit... in the mind...and in communication between one another. That coming together as one in ALL aspects is such a beautiful thought and certainly worth seeking. |
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 13 Oct, 2009 11:40 PMI like this whole discussion because I too, have found certain men very attractive and then after a date or two~knew it wasn't there on all levels. I even wanted to try and make one fit into my world because he was so cute and funny~~but we both got frustrated and just let it go as friends. |
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 14 Oct, 2009 04:23 PMYes, it can be important.I have other issues as is the person right for me.What are the values of the person |
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 28 Oct, 2009 07:07 PMI have always been baffled by my conversations with people about chemistry.Probably why I am somewhat cynical about online social sites. To me what is important is to ask "Can this person help me to serve God better?" "Can this person meet my needs as a partner in a marriage and we help each other grow in CHrist." True intimacy comes from a relationship based on mutuality. I don't know how initial "chemistry" can be helpful in deciding. Seems shallow to me. I personally don't find profile pics helpful--I look at the content. |
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 17 Dec, 2009 03:05 PMSometimes chemistry is "are you delivered from your flesh?' i.e., do we operate with the fruit of the Spirit? Love is great! What about self control and temperence? Do you love your brother and your sister in Christ? God's word says that if we love Him we will do His commandments. If we live a lifesyle according to God's word then we will live a life of fulfillment on the earth regardless of who we are with. |
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vkjewell
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CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?Posted : 1 Jan, 2010 09:38 PMSo after pondering all these insights, I'm left wondering, "What is chemistry then, to the one whom the more attractives of the world do not perceive as outwardly "beautiful"? |
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