Author	Thread: reality check
FocusIsEverything View Profile History	reality check Posted : 11 Jun, 2014 10:00 PM It's all about u and what u want.....women want romance,spontaneous gifts, affection etc....what about what the guy wants.....If I said that what I wanted from a woman didn't involve pleasure or food (it's not the key to my heart) then could u guess it. I'm tired of women who want to be treated like their so precious but have no idea of what the Bible even says about the way a marriage should operate. No order whatsoever just romance her and everything will be happily ever after. No wonder the divorce rate in the church is just as high as the world if not higher. If I wasn't convinced that the god of the bible is the one true god then I would have left Christianity awhile ago. I just had to vent....really getting tired.......we seem just as vain as the pagans. Post Reply
FocusIsEverything View Profile History	reality check Posted : 18 Jun, 2014 07:28 PM What a joke Post Reply
FocusIsEverything View Profile History	reality check Posted : 18 Jun, 2014 08:10 PM Once again......This thread is about husbands and wives submitting to each other....and about agreement confirming compatibility. .....please don't be sidetracked by personal comments aimed at me... I still want people's opinions on the topic thanks Post Reply
View Profile History	reality check Posted : 19 Jun, 2014 12:49 AM Right... So are you married? Post Reply
View Profile History	reality check Posted : 19 Jun, 2014 01:14 AM Btw, I was and still am under the impression that this post is just a rant fest about how you can't get a girlfriend. Post Reply
FocusIsEverything View Profile History	reality check Posted : 19 Jun, 2014 08:12 AM Once again......This thread is about husbands and wives submitting to each other....and about agreement confirming compatibility. .....please don't be sidetracked by personal comments aimed at me... I still want people's opinions on the topic Post Reply
FocusIsEverything View Profile History	reality check Posted : 20 Jun, 2014 11:57 AM if you would have looked at my profile you would see that I'm here for the purpose of a talk email buddy. The definition of girlfriend is so worldly I no longer want a girlfriend. Instead I want someone who I am in agreement with. If it is God's will maybe that relationship could blossom into a marriage. Even if I was looking for a straight girl friend isnt the name of this site Christian dating. i would not be surprised if most people are here looking for a match anyway. i hope the obvious clash of opinions doesn't keep people from responding. If someone doesn't want to post here then u could just msg me. God bless Post Reply
DEFENDTHEFAITH View Profile History	reality check Posted : 10 Jun, 2017 08:25 AM Here is a great list of books that I would recommend: MEN should read several of these as it is YOUR role to TEACH doctrine to your wife and children throughout marriage.....so you better be able to discuss it intelligently from the WORD. Women, look for men who have read on doctrine and can discuss it intelligently. If you are dating a man who hasn't, get him a couple of these books to read and if he doesn't want to then that tells you that he isn't ready for marriage yet...for he doesn't want to be a spiritual leader. I'm tired of reading about married women complaining about their husband not being a spiritual leader. Do something about it. Don't marry men who haven't read much on theology at all and you won't end up with one like that. YOU can control that in who you choose to marry. If you choose to marry one who hasn't then he most likely never will be a spiritual leader and you have no one to blame but yourself. Don't pawn it off on....oh, I just thought he'd grow into one once married...that is illogical. Most people don't change much once married, unless you marry very young. Can you live with his leadership and knowledge as it is now for the rest of your life? If not, don't marry him until you are satisfied with what you see. Women should read a few books on theology, too....to show yourself knowledgeable on doctrine, too. While you are single, NOW is the time. Prove yourself to your future spouse NOW! that you take marriage and God seriously by reading and being able to discuss in depth about God and the Word of God. YOU have NO EXCUSES! Children, by the time they are 18 should have been required to read several off of both of these lists. Today's Gospel: Authentic or Synthetic by William Chantry ( A must read ) All of Grace by Charles Spurgeon Grace: God's Unmerited Favor by Charles Spurgeon Dispensationalism: Rightly Dividing the People of God by Keith Mathison ( A must read) The Reformed Doctrine of Predestination by Lorraine Boettner ( A must read ) Covenants by O Palmer Robertson Definite Atonement by Gary Long ( A must READ) Putting Amazing Back into Grace by Michael Horton Redemption Accomplished and Applied by John Murray ( very good ) The Meaning and Mode of Baptism by Jay Adams Renewing Your Mind (Basic Christian Beliefs) by R.C. Sproul Grace Unknown by same Essential Truths of the Christian Faith by same Almighty Over All by same Knowing Scripture by same The Glory of Christ by same Willing to Believe by same Knowing God by J.I. Packer Evangelism and the Sovereignty of God by same The Bondage of the Will(Martin Luther) translated by J.I. Packer The Sovereignty of God by Arthur W. Pink ( A must read ) Comfort for Christians by same The Gospel According to Jesus by John MacArthur The Gospel According to the Apostles by same Charismatic Chaos (refuting tongues, miracles, prophecy)by same Ashamed of the Gospel by same The Vanishing Conscience by same Our Sufficiency in Christ by same The Silent Shepherd by same Saved Without A Doubt by same Why You Should Believe in the Trinity by Robert Bowman The Forgotten Trinity by James R. White The Potter's Freedom by same The God Who Justifies by same Doctrines that Divide (Prot/ Catholic) by Erwin Lutzer Protestants and Catholics by Ankerberg/ Weldon The Resurrection Factor by Josh McDowell The Case for Christ by Lee Strobel It's a Young World After All by Paul Ackerman Astronomy and the Bible by Donald DeYoung The Collapse of Evolution by Scott Huse The World that Perished by John Whitcomb Creation Scientists Answer Their Critics by Duane Gish The Kingdom of the Cults by Walter Martin Amazing Grace: The History and Theology of Calvinism, by The Apologetics Group (A MUST SEE FOR ALL CHRISTIANS) Study Bibles recommended: Matthew Henry's Study Bible or The Reformation Study Bible. These are the Best two I have seen. I also have the NIV Study Bible, but not as good as the above two. Most can be bought through christianbook.com or goodtheology.com for good deals. I find it really interesting that we will study years to get a job to earn money for life, either single or married, and yet we don't study much at all about how to have a godly marriage and keep the marriage strong by understanding much about the opposite sex. As a result, many Christian marriages don't differ too much from non-Christian marriages, even though we have the truth on our side, the bible, and many intelligent Christian authors who have spent the time breaking it down and surveying men and women and their attitudes and desires. So why don't we hear this being preached in our churches? Why don't we incorporate this as a normal part of our youth Sunday school classes and bible studies? Why don't we have discussions between boys and girls about each others likes and dislikes and what God has to say about it? So, where do most of our kids end up getting their beliefs from? From either bad examples they see in the home themselves, or from our public schools which don't do it justice at all, or from TV. There are some good examples in the home, but that is far and few between. If you have that desire to make your future household different from the one you grew up with, God-willing, start studying now. Also, as a result of the above, we end up teaching our kids that it is just fine to go through boyfriend/ girlfriend, one after the other, to try them out and see what we want. What kind of logic is this? We should first figure out what we should be looking for and then look for that type of person through friendship first, and let it grow from there. AGAIN YOU HAVE NO EXCUSES NOW for the type of Godly marriage you can have...All you need to do is to require yourself and any potential spouse to read some of these. The following is a list of marriage books I own..I have read all but about 2. B= both men and women M= for men W= for women No particular order at all.. B Shepherding a Child's Heart, by Tedd Tripp ( a must read for both singles and married to raise your children correctly ) B The Case for Kids, by Tedd Tripp (video series on parenting) W Rekindling the Romance: Loving the love of your life by Dennis and Barbara Rainey ( MUST READ: SINGLE AND MARRIED) B Strengthening your marriage Wayne Mack ( MUST READ!) W A Woman After God's Own Heart Elizabeth George ( MUST READ!) B His Needs, Her Needs Willard Harley, Jr.(MUST READ!) m Disciplines of a Godly Man Kent Hughes w What Men Want Norman Wright b Secrets of a Lasting Marriage same w Questions Women ask in Private same w What's a Smart Woman Doing in a Place Like This? Dr. Mary Ann Froehlich b The Spiritually Intimate Marriage Donald Harvey b Different By Design John MacArthur b Successful Christian Parenting same w Creative Counterpart Linda Dillow ( A MUST READ ) b Straight Talk to Men and their Wives James Dobson b Emotions: Can you trust them? same b Love for a Lifetime same b Marriage and Sexuality(sex) same b Dr. Dobson Answers your Questions same b Prayer Partners Anrold Prater w A woman for all Seasons Jeanne Hendricks b Love Life for Every married Couple(sex) Ed Wheat b The first years of Forever same b Secret Choices same b Intended for Pleasure(sex) same b Mars and Venus in the Bedroom(sex) John Gray b Solving Marriage Problems Jay Adams b Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the Bible same b The Intimate marriage R.C. Sproul ( MUST READ! ) w What Husbands Wish their Wives Knew About Men Patrick Morely m The Man in the Mirror same m the Mark of a Man Elizabeth Elliott M Standing Tall Steve Farrar M Point Man same b The Complete Financial Guide for Young couples Larry Burkett M The Measure of a Man Gene Getz b Song of Solomon(sex) Don Anderson b Engaged: When Love Takes Roots William Coleman b Christian Marriage Mike and Myrtle Baughen b The Act of Marriage(sex) Tim LaHaye ( A GOOD READ ) b Sheet Music (sex) Kevin Leman ( A GOOD READ ) b Sexual Happiness in Marriage(sex) Herbert J Miles w The Gentle ways of the Beautiful Woman Anne Ortlund ( 3 books in One Volume) w Beautiful in God's Eyes Elizabeth George w Irresistible Wifestyles Linda Andersen ( VERY GOOD ) B Women Leaving the Workplace(stay at home moms; the TITUS 2 woman) Larry Burkett B Why Wait? (for sex till marriage, personal testimonies; tons of different types of consequences. A MUST READ FOR ALL TEENS) Josh McDowell Post Reply

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