Author	Thread: Goodbye CDFF
Admin	Goodbye CDFF Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 02:16 PM I just wanted to post this in a separate topic in case any of you are not following the "If you were dating a girl..." topic 10 threads down. ________ Due to the onslaught of hate mail I received overnight and this morning (before even posting my last reply), I will be deactivating my CDFF account later on today/tonight. I will miss many of you, but do not wish to be part of a community that shames women for being open about the struggles in their lives. There's nothing Christ-like in that. And certainly nothing conducive to healing in that. To those of you who have taken time to send off kind notes to me regarding this topic: Thank you again. It means more to me than I can adequately express in words right now. Once again, I apologize that this thread has triggered so much hurt in people. Rape IS a very hurtful thing to talk about, but not talking about it and shaming women into keeping quiet about it just magnifies the pain. I also apologize for being somewhat harsh in my last reply. It sickens me to see rape victims being bullied for speaking out and I don't think that it honours God to keep quiet and let the bullies just keep at it. But I could have taken some time to cool off and phrase things more diplomatically. I apologize that I did not. All of that said, I think that part of the hope we have in Christ is that He will work ALL things together for good. And I think we miss out on so much of who He is when we close that door and assume that our bad experiences should be kept in the dark and left unhealed and unused. I want more than that. I want more than just muddling through and falling apart at every triggering thing. I believe that God can absolutely be glorified through my experience and I refuse to settle for less by keeping silent and feeling too ashamed and too timid to open myself up to however He plans for me to use this to serve Him. Now, if you'll all excuse me, I have a pregnancy test to go retake. Post Reply
View Profile History	Goodbye CDFF Posted : 15 Sep, 2010 05:53 PM I just wanted to stop back through here and thank you all for your kind and encouraging words. It has warmed my heart to read through these posts and I am truly blessed for having gotten to know you all, even if it was for just a short while. InHisHonor (my boyfriend) and I spoke last night and he urged me to reconsider my decision to deactivate my account w/ CDFF, due to the support I've received in this thread and in private messages, because it does offer a platform to minister to others, and because... well... I've been known to change my mind, especially during emotional times! So, for now, I'll leave my account active. However, I do not anticipate participating in the forums, at least for awhile, and have changed my age range for messaging to hopefully discourage any further hate mail. If anyone would like to keep in touch w/ me outside of CDFF, you can let me know here and I'd be glad to send you off a message w/ contact details. Well, unless you're mean! No contact details then! =) All of that said, I will be starting a topic in the prayer request section soon, regarding my blurted out "pregnancy test" statement above. I'm just waiting to hear back from InHisHonour on something before I divulge any specifics... Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Goodbye CDFF Posted : 16 Sep, 2010 01:25 PM oh Pixy, Sweetheart, i don't know all of what this is about, but you are never EVER wrong for speaking out against sexual abuse. It is Wrong, Never the woman's fault, and something that must be spoke against! My daughter was almost raped last year. By the grace of God, she got away, but she was so ashamed, she didn't tell me for over six month after. I wish you peace and you are in my prayers Debby Post Reply
View Profile History	Goodbye CDFF Posted : 17 Sep, 2010 12:01 PM My prayer request is up in the appropriate section, in case anyone is interested. @Debby- Thank you. And I am so glad that your daughter was able to get away. What a blessing =) Post Reply
ben315 View Profile History	Goodbye CDFF Posted : 24 Sep, 2010 11:36 AM Don't go. I wouldn't worry about what other people say, I know it is easier said than done. I didn't read what they said about you but it must of not been very nice. It just shows everyone else the type of person they really are to come on a christian dating site and start putting someone down. Post Reply

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