Author	Thread: Okay let me have it
jlaughlin0002 View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 12:05 AM I get virtually no mail. I am wondering if there is something that is a major turn off in my profile. Keep in mind that I am not going to remove anything that is the truth. Thanks everyone :waving: Post Reply
roeroe View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 08:44 PM And by the way Silver please don't "shake your head sadly"..some young men might very well be intimidated by a strong young woman, working, going to school and raising a daughter. jlaughlin...I think your honestyby asking for a good partner and father is very refreshing!!! Alot of emails could mean absolutely nothing....But I know that Special person will find you, if you stay Real...... Post Reply
jlaughlin0002 View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 3 Oct, 2010 06:43 AM Thank you to everyone for your insight into profile writing. I would not have asked the question had I not already felt that there may be something missing. While I understand the need to stay true to myself I also understand that I have to let some of myself be shown through my writing and just give a little more insight into what makes me tick! I guess I just freeze up when it comes to this sort of "self advertisement". :rolleyes: Sorry I didn't jump back into the conversation sooner but sixty hour work weeks can often cause that to happen. :goofball: Blessings to all of you and looking forward to hearing your thoughts on the revised issue of me, lol. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 3 Oct, 2010 02:15 PM While there are a few of us, who are from time to time, intimidated by emailing women, as a general happening -- it doesn't. What this statement usually reflects is a woman who will not listen to others trying to push the blame out onto other people. Guys are intimidated -- I don't need to listen or change! As a guy, let me reassure you that the profile in question is NOT intimidating. Even if I was 18, the profile would not intimidate me. It's just not one of those "I am Superwoman, hear me roar" profiles. Post Reply
View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 3 Oct, 2010 05:37 PM My opinion. For christians like myself. The turnoff would be smoker mostly. Post Reply
roeroe View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 3 Oct, 2010 07:52 PM Wow Silverfire, Have a Blessed, Peaceful Life!! :waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 3 Oct, 2010 09:14 PM Ooooooooowee!!! Yall over here clownin'!!:laugh: I had left & hadn't checked back after it seemed I was in the minority and already said my peace. Didn't see Cobbler's witty comeback or Pixy & Roe's defending my stance til just now. I was caught up with the why comes. Thank yall! Silver, boy you got a bit of a chip on your shoulder, don't you? I like it! Reminds me of myself!:laugh: You said it would be stupid of men to connect (paraphrasing) with profiles that have no text, but men do it all the time. You evidently are intelligent and you're looking for that in a woman as well. I of course, can't know the exact statistics, but a WHOLE bunch of yall are looking at pics, skimming the text (if that) and email and wink based on the physical & figure the 'less important' aspects of compatibility, spirituality & intelligence can be dealt with later. Stupid came out your mouth... Believe me, I was extremely disappointed in the 'pickings' on this site & others like it, which is why I've chosen not to deal with this venue for dating. It bothers me real bad when I see young people (not talking about anyone in particular right now) who aren't even in the vicinity of being ready for a relationship, as evidenced by their insecurities. They haven't discovered that they are complete in Him (Col 2:10), they haven't gotten deliverance from childhood traumas, neither do they know who they are or what they really for real want. So when I see someone asking random people on a forum, 'how to do them', in place of discussion, debate and opinion, I ty to encourage them to be themselves. Post Reply
View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 3 Oct, 2010 10:07 PM Ok intermission. Back to the original topic: I would just say just expound more on what makes you happy, especially if they're little things. It shows a better picture of who you genuinely are and what motivates you. Enthusiasm and sharing it is a real magnet. Sometimes profiles can have no turn offs and no turn ons at the same time. So put more feeling into it. Share what you enjoy and go in depth. Also if your trying too hard, that's exactly what that means and will come off as such. Catch yourself being yourself. Being yourself is easy. Enjoying being yourself isn't for some. Post Reply
View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 4 Oct, 2010 03:32 AM What up Brandon! In answering your call for a time-out in intermission, I know you must know that topics have subtopics and when discusssing a subject and explaining your point of view, what seems like getting off subject is really hitting all sides of that subject. Since J-laugh has responded & said that she wanted to change her profile and felt askin' yall was her way of getting more responses (smart woman! look at all us who know her now!), answering her original question is evidently what she is looking for & desires. Your advice to her is very sound. Your last statement though has me feeling a bit in the Twilight Zone. Please explain 'Enjoying being yourself is not for some'. Huh? Post Reply
roeroe View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 4 Oct, 2010 06:08 AM Hey Babygirl.....so glad to see you back on...:yay: You know I'm the woman who most likely blames other people, and is not willing to change!!! Mr. Silverfire has no idea how much change I've accomplished in my Life...:nahnah: 54 and still changin....Praise God!! There's really no way to explain to the Young, believe me I know, I have a 24 & 27 year old and a grandchild on the way!! That God has made you special and unique.....Be the best possible You.....for the Lord!! It's all learning and Growing.... Sure jlaughlin, you can always add a little more information for someone to explore....But stay jlaughlin, hard worker and loving mom.......You will be Blessed!! God Bless you all!!! and you to Silverfire!!!! :peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 4 Oct, 2010 07:42 AM oo, is it a mountain or a mole hill? It means for some people enjoying themselves doesn't come so easy because they are always "shoulding/being shoulded" or just don't have a good sense of self or put much awareness into that area. What makes people interesting and unique are their passions and what they find joy in. All people have this, therefore, all people are interesting and unique, but it doesn't occur to some that it is a thing that should be embraced and the best parts about them end up getting overlooked BY THEM and by extension others. I care more about what the original poster says than the people that respond. My theory is they didn't post it to get help and advice rather than a bunch of squabbling, which is what a lot of these threads seem to devolve into. I find it really annoying and stupid, and especially would if I were the op. It doesn't help at all because it discourages others from posting who would rather not get in the line of fire of childish games when it stops being about the original question and becomes about the threatened egos and jockying of peoples to make their opinion more valuable or respectable than others'. Just say your piece and let it be. And have respect for others. Don't get on everybody's case that you feel threatened by. I say all this with respect. Post Reply

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