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Juvie

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Does Not Want Children
Posted : 5 Mar, 2009 12:14 PM

Since this selection seems ambiguous to me, I was hoping to get some input from others as to what it means to them. The way I see it, �Does Not Want Children� could be understood to mean either of these two choices, or both:



1) Not interested in a relationship with someone who already has children.



and/or



2) Does not want to be involved in producing any children in a relationship.



Surely I am not the only one who has wondered about this�??



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Blessings! :0) Juvie

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Does Not Want Children
Posted : 5 Mar, 2009 02:26 PM

Personally, I don't want to produce any more at my age. I usually look to see if they have had children before and use that as a guide.

However you are right, it can be confusing.



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Does Not Want Children
Posted : 5 Mar, 2009 03:05 PM

I totally agree. Sometimes, I wonder if the folks who put "want children" are saying they want the children they already have or wish more.



Great question.

Elisa

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Does Not Want Children
Posted : 5 Mar, 2009 06:29 PM

:ROFL: NOT WANT is saying just that. That mean there are no kids and do not want kids. I have two boys I can not make a comment saying Does Not Want Children when I already have children.

So that mean NO KID NOW OR LATER.:bow:

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Does Not Want Children
Posted : 5 Mar, 2009 06:49 PM

I have two children,they do not live with me,and I always say "does not want children" because I don't want to have any more.I am open to someone who already has children though.

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Does Not Want Children
Posted : 7 Mar, 2009 12:52 PM

I never thought of it any differently than just I don't want to produce more children. I can see what you mean though.

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Posted : 13 Jun, 2009 12:08 PM

That can be confusing...I was just looking at some of my matches and wondering why a man over 40 would 'want children'. Are they looking for a much younger mate so they can have more children?



I know that once I reached 40 I did not want to bear any more children, for several reasons...



#1. The risks of birth defects increases after a certain age, I understand that the medical world today can do much to avoid that, but that brings me to...



#2. I don't have the stamina it takes to chase after a bundle of energy 24/7 anymore. When I was younger I did, it gets tougher as I get older. It think this is why we have Grand Children, so we can enjoy them at our convenience and send them home when they've worn us out.



#3. Do I want to be 60 when my child graduates from high school? What about college?



#4. I think I've become a bit selfish with my time, I raised my daughter, during that time, everything was for her. I'm ready to focus a bit on my life.



I love children and always wanted more (when I was younger) God chose not to give me any more, which I'm sure was the best thing considering I did not make a wise marriage choice. He did however bless me with a beautiful and awesome grand daughter full of life and energy and wisdom beyond her years.



Okay, I think I started rambling but anyway, the question was, does not want children mean you want a mate that has no children or that you don't want to father more children. Maybe everyone could clarify their choices in their profiles?

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