that a good majority of the girls who i have contacted, or have contacted me, when leaving a message (be it in return or the original) put very little effort into it?
I can understand not knowing what to say, and thats why i filled out my profile as best i could. However, I have gotten two messages within the past week *yeah, i dont get to many to say the least* that go something like this:
"hey there" and thats literally all she wrote. What is my motivation to reply to that? Yes I viewed her profile and I dont see alot in common, which is why i didnt message in the first place.
"I am proud of you! Serving the country. I like men who are in the military." Not a direct quote, but it gets the point across. I am not in the military, but I am wanting to be in it. I state that clearly in my profile. I have recently added not to thank me for service I have not done *wanting to do, and currently doing are very different*, but i guess I thought that was already apparent.
It is very annoying to be honest. I try hard not send a message when I have nothing worth saying to get to know the person.
So I guess my question(s) is this: Why is it that 1. if you are interested enough to send a message that one doesnt read all the way through the profile? and 2. if i viewed you first and dont send a message, why do you send a message that is so short and simple that it only adds to the reason I didnt start talking to you in the first place?
Just a bit frustrating. The above is also kind of a venting too.
I have read many inquiries as to why people don't have enough "Christian morals" (my paraphrasing) to send a reply when someone writes them. You hit the nail on the head. Some just flat out don't deserve a reply. I have said it before and I'll say it again: My profile lists things that you can question me about - don't send me "So - how are you?" and expect me to answer. Show me that you have actually read my profile. To me, a generic question says you are pumping out as many emails to as many pictures that you find appealing as you can in a short amount of time. Take a few moments to actually read what is written, formulate something to say, then say it. You'll get many more responses that way.
Yes, I get the same type of emails for the most part. And then there are those who actually read all of my posts before contacting me. That's always nice.
i gathered as much, but i wasnt to sure lol. Yes they do, but like i said, its usually a worthless message that I am not going to waste my time replying to. So i guess that what you said has some irony to it lol.
Any messages I get are either like that or, scary, like using terms of endearment, these scare me a bit. I don't think a first message should be full of mush, that rather freaks me out. It can't be sincere either. lol just thought I'd throw my 2 cents in..:) Actually the only response I've gotten on this site is the scary one. :(
I've only tried a few times to communicate with people, and I have been very sincere. Of course, my nature is to joke around too - but so far I've struck out.
