On paper I have just about everything going good for me. good job, no debt, fat bank account, 6ft, fit, nice, kind, caring, good faith, confidence and all that other good stuff.
But I can't get anyone my own age to even so much as saying hello back, man or woman, not online, not in person, nothing. as you can imagine I got nothing to go on and i'm rather lost here... The people who know me don't get it ether, by their accounts I should have been paired off years ago but I haven't even had a date in 4 years.
i'm really starting to believe God wants me to be alone, but I know I can't handle that so I have to be doing something wrong? or are women and younger people in general just paranoid and antisocial? for context i never had a friend that wasn't 10+ years older then me as everyone my age can't seem to hold a conversation let alone say hi back. any advice?
P.S., please don't tell me to just pray or seek God, my relationship with God isn't the problem... sorry I had to put that there, but thats always seems to be the defaco response to any christian thats struggling with anything... 😆
Well, I am no love expert. Maybe most women think there are too many scammers here.
A godly woman would not care too much about your big fat bank account or your good look. Skin deep or material attraction won't last.
That said, this is what my suggestion, put a true picture of you here. When I was active looking, I like to see the picture of the man I am talking to. Not looking for a good looking guy but I need to associate a face to the man I am talking to. Then, start with a friendship, edifying each other and see how God leads. I took my picture down now because it is not necessary anymore.
I fast and pray for my Adam and there is only 1 Adam for this rib. You look for that rib of yours. His timing, His way.
You seem to have great moral standards which is rare to come by these days. One issue is your photo. About 99% of people are not going to respond to an icon. You need to place a picture and a nicely filled profile. If people are not saying hi back, maybe something you are doing. If you are making friends though, maybe you are just more mature than people your age.
photos are not the problem . i had photos publicly posted before and never gotten anyone to reply back and I have the exact same problem in person too. it's just that no one is interested in me. it doesn't matter since I given up in finding anyone. 10 years of trying anything and everything and I had maybe 3 gals my own age talk me and not one date. so why bother if I'm so unlikable no one will talk to me???
Ik this is "ask a girl," but I think I can articulate the photo issue here.
It's not that having a real photo of you either matters or doesn't matter. Having a real photo in your profile matters in some ways and not in others.
When I'm looking at a profile on CDFF, or anywhere else, or even when I'm thinking about a woman I've met in person, my opinion of whether I want to pursue something with her is based on a lot of factors. Are we a similar enough age? Is she single (which isn't a given in person, obviously)? How long has she been a Christian? Do I think we can/could converse well? Do we have many similar interests? And it'd be a lie to say I wasn't factoring in how she looked, too -- but it's not my number one concern.
I'll also say that it's useful to distinguish between evaluating a person's worth based on their looks, and recognizing that a person is valuable regardless of their looks, good or bad. It's okay to say that a member of the opposite sex is very valuable, and also *not* be romantically interested in them.
So I wrote the above post, but then I checked out Austin's profile and apparently he's hit a low. His last post is on a thread called "I don't belong in this world."
You do, Austin. I've learned that God has us here, right where we are, for a reason. Even when we don't know why life is worth living, we can be sure that while God still lets us live, he knows what he's doing. You're not hopeless, Austin. Can God be your hope even now?