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HazelEyesSparkle

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What should I do in this situation
Posted : 19 Jan, 2025 08:06 PM

There is a guy I work with and at first, he used to be kind of rude to me. When he would talk to me and my group, he would talk to all of my coworkers but me. I noticed it one time and decided it was best to just start ignoring him, not to get a rise, but so that I could just move on with my life. He got affected by my behavior because as soon as I started to ignore, he started talking to me and I mentioned something that to this day I think he thought I was mad about, when in reality, I was ticked off about the ignoring part.



After that moment, I just decided to kill the whole situation with kindness. Fast forward to today, we talk a bit, smile, and make eye contact. I can tell there is an emotional investment with him and he does show classic signs like staring, he has made physical contact with me before, etc. I can tell he likes me. Something strange though happened recently, and I can’t quite understand it. I notice he is wearing a gold band ring on his left hand which is new. At first, I thought he got married but as far as I know he is single. It got me thinking but I know one of my guy friends also wears a gold ring on his wedding finger, but he is not married (I know because he has told me multiple times he is single). They are both different cultures (guy friend and guy I like) so I am not sure if this is a cultural thing so I didn’t jump to conclusions.



A week ago, I got really sick and when I got back to work, he was the only person that really, really cared and went out of his way to help me with returning back to work duties. He told me to please stay safe and healthy and I said thank you and that I truly appreciated it and he was acting in a caring way that I’ve never seen before. He then asked me recently “are you feeling better?” genuinely concerned and said I’ll come to you to help me with a task. He has just been acting really nice to me lately which I appreciate, but I don’t want to be too friendly if he is actually married. What should I do?
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What do you think?
Posted : 19 Jan, 2025 08:05 PM

I'm a Catholic as well, with a similar story haha! I was talking to a guy on here for about a year, then lost contact, then talked for another year on and off.



He was acting weird and then we met (he lived out of state) but kept mentioning "maybe I might be too affectionate for you," weird stuff like that. When we met, absolutely no talking between the two of us, just a little.



He had come down from out of state for more than a day so it was painfully awkward to try to coax words out of this man to TRY to get to know him.



He went back home, and did not message me ever again. I've asked people about it but know God did not want me to be with him. But, I think to this day he wanted a physical relationship. Which I am not looking for. Maybe he was looking for the same, or was looking for a friend
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Clueless about his feelings
Posted : 19 Jan, 2025 07:59 PM

My advice would be to just continue to stay in touch, but if he is truly interested, he will mention to you about going on a date. That's nice you were able to get away on a trip and get to know new people. Just keep your heart open and you will find the man who you are meant to be with
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What should I do in this situation
Posted : 19 Jan, 2025 07:52 PM

There is a guy I work with and at first, he used to be kind of rude to me. When he would talk to me and my group, he would talk to all of my coworkers but me. I noticed it one time and decided it was best to just start ignoring him, not to get a rise, but so that I could just move on with my life. He got affected by my behavior because as soon as I started to ignore, he started talking to me and I mentioned something that to this day I think he thought I was mad about, when in reality, I was ticked off about the ignoring part.



After that moment, I just decided to kill the whole situation with kindness. Fast forward to today, we talk a bit, smile, and make eye contact. I can tell there is an emotional investment with him and he does show classic signs like staring, he has made physical contact with me before, etc. I can tell he likes me. Something strange though happened recently, and I can’t quite understand it. I notice he is wearing a gold band ring on his left hand which is new. At first, I thought he got married but as far as I know he is single. It got me thinking but I know one of my guy friends also wears a gold ring on his wedding finger, but he is not married (I know because he has told me multiple times he is single). They are both different cultures (guy friend and guy I like) so I am not sure if this is a cultural thing so I didn’t jump to conclusions.



A week ago, I got really sick and when I got back to work, he was the only person that really, really cared and went out of his way to help me with returning back to work duties. He told me to please stay safe and healthy and I said thank you and that I truly appreciated it and he was acting in a caring way that I’ve never seen before. He then asked me recently “are you feeling better?” genuinely concerned and said I’ll come to you to help me with a task. He has just been acting really nice to me lately which I appreciate, but I don’t want to be too friendly if he is actually married. What should I do?
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Let’s try this again. I kinda got buried. Question for ladies: if a woman (or anyone) claims that Jesus is STILL performing miracles, shouldn’t that woman have at least ONE miracle to tell about⁉️⁉️
Posted : 19 Jan, 2025 07:44 PM

I do, I have two miracles that are still unexplained. When I was about 7 or 8 I was drawing a picture of Jesus on the cross and needed a red marker for the blood. I walked away for a bit and red paint started rolling down my drawing.



Second, I was taking trash out and something kept shaking in the bushes. I walked over apprehensively and noticed a shiny bracelet with saints on it. I picked it up and have had it ever since
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Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult
Posted : 10 Jan, 2025 02:24 PM

I have standards
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Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult
Posted : 10 Jan, 2025 02:22 PM

And as far as men go, I have not ignored the ones right under me, in fact given many chances to guys even that are not the best-looking. But I won't settle like the other poster said. I expect to find someone attractive as in I am attractive as well
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Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult
Posted : 10 Jan, 2025 02:20 PM

Firstly, hate anything Kardashian related (side note). And God has spoken to me before but not about men.



I think the right men are just not around me at this point. I am looking around but it's very hard to find someone in person. I just don't know how my friends found people so easily. One of my friends found someone online, from high school, etc. I guess I'll just have to run into someone or have a friend who knows someone. Also, I do meet people that work at shops and stuff but I'd like to meet someone who maybe has gone to school, like me
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Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult
Posted : 9 Jan, 2025 11:32 PM

I agree that I have to wait for the right man and yes, God will grant that to me because He has spoken to me in two different times. So we'll see and no I am not a feminist at all.
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Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult
Posted : 6 Jan, 2025 09:06 PM

@freetobe Thank you for your kind advice! That's interesting what you said about traveling, that might help a bit. I think I just have to take each day and keep a positive mindset. And you're right, might not be my timing
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