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Admin	Why can't the young and the old find the right person1 Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 12:04 PM Why can't the young and the old find the right person for Marriage? I am posting this in each section, because of the importance in getting responses. I look back when I met my ex-wife 35 years ago. We bumped into each other in a parking lot. We smiled at each other, and then we talked to each other. Then I called her for a date and we both knew soon after, we were in love. We were not equally yoked, but the pastor from my church didn't put emphasis on the matter, after 27 years of marriage, then came our divorce. Can we really find Love on the Internet? Many say they can. I have a son 30 and a daughter 24 and neither are in a relationship. I see more young people on here than the older ones. I believe people are not the same as they were 40 years ago. People today would rather surf the web for a date than look for a date. People in general don�t smile to strangers, let alone speak to strangers. If they do, they would rather text on the phone or email than call them again. The core to the problem, people are interested in their gadgets and their busy lives more than the fellowship in talking with them in person. We need to get back to the Golden Rule that we have lost over the years. We should be kind and love everyone, that is what the Bible tells us to do! Is it because we are living in the last days? Would love to hear what others think about this issue. :buddies: Post Reply
beautifulheart4Him View Profile History	Why can't the young and the old find the right person1 Posted : 12 Mar, 2011 08:21 PM Hi! Well, with the technological age (which is a double-edged sword) comes the ability to meet people we wouldn't meet otherwise. For instance, I live in a small town and my chances of meeting anyone here are slim to none, so I have opted to try online. I still have my offline friends and I still go out and do things....I am not "hooked" on the net. I think it just depends on each person's individual circumstances. That is a great question you posted! God bless! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why can't the young and the old find the right person1 Posted : 13 Mar, 2011 07:36 PM You both bring up very good points. As fascinated as I am with modern technology, I also find it just as scary how us humans have become so dependant on it. But as for my reasons of why I prefer the online dating scene as opposed to in person is simply this..... Christian women I come in contact with these days in person are just too stuck up and full of themselves to even consider getting to know me as a friend, let alone the possibility of a relationship. I have found it more and more impossible in my personal experiences. Sadly in our modern American society, christian women (not all but many) have been suckered into thinking that just because they're christians, they're too good for everyone. And yet they wonder why men no longer have the courage to take the iniative like they're suppose to. It really makes no sense to me (nor do women in general for that matter). I know I sound "sexist", but I just have to be blunt and honest about this. That's my two cents. Post Reply

View Profile History	Why can't the young and the old find the right person1 Posted : 15 Mar, 2011 01:58 AM One important aspect to consider in taking a life time partner is age match. I find this practical although not everyone will agree with this because others believe that age doesn't matter. But for me age does matters and age gap must not be that far at least physical compatibility is an element in a relationship. Lies in the age is the length of experience and maturity. I am just trying to express my opinions here. People from different countries of the world find it more comfortable taking chances to meet friends and even future life time partner at distant for the following reasons: The use of technology broadens one's horizon in meeting people and even the possibility of marrying someone through dating online. There is a tendency for people to be more free telling about themselves who they are to someone else who is at distant compared with telling it to a neighbor or someone nearby who is over familiar about yourself. Some people want to start a relationship all over again with someone who is not familiar about yourself. We face the fact that that due to aid of technology, we live beyond boarders or we live in a boundless world. If in any case, someone is rejected or failed in distant relationship, the pain is not much compared with when you live close to each other. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why can't the young and the old find the right person1 Posted : 3 Apr, 2011 10:25 PM Hi! Im new to posting in these forums, but the question is so relevant,i cant resist.It seems like people are so disengaged from real life. I struggle ! to find activities and things to do to meet new people. Its really hard, I thought it might be because I live in a small town thats mostly supported by casinos,but maybe its all over.The majority of people seem to be disinterested in life in general.I keep tryingi try to involve myself in church activities, volunteering, clubs,etc.,its hard not to fall into the same depressive staer myself. But i refuse to give up,lol.-Still alive over here:peace: Post Reply