Author	Thread: would you?
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	would you? Posted : 29 Oct, 2012 08:23 AM Ms Marvel got me wondering about a question of my own: would you marry some one you did not necessarly love, just because people say he/she would be good match-husband/wife? I don't mean you hate the person, just would you marry some one you don't have a "burning" love for, just because they would make a good spouse? Post Reply
View Profile History	would you? Posted : 29 Oct, 2012 06:21 PM If they loved the Lord, and they were truly a Christian..I doubt I'd need the burning. Doesn't that sort of go away within a short period of time anyway? To me, love and burning don't always correlate. Oh, my short answer is YES. Post Reply
View Profile History	would you? Posted : 30 Oct, 2012 11:06 AM Maybe it's just me, but isn't "burning" kinda the same thing as lusting? Also, scripture says it's better to marry than to "burn" with passion. Oh, and as for the question...yes, I would marry a woman as long as I knew she was a loving and caring person who wanted to do what's right in God's sight. Why? Simple...because if she truly loves and obeys the Lord, then I won't have to worry about how she'll treat me. :) As for me, I'm probably leaving this site because of something that I mentioned in the "Dating Stories and Experiences" part of the forum. Long story short, I can't tolerate the kind of emotional abuse that a certain person caused me recently. Plus, I just can't have a proper relationship through only "text style messages" such as this one. (For those of you who read my post from yesterday, an investigation is already underway. Dad was so concerned when he found out what happened, that I now have an extra handgun to use if necessary!) Post Reply
View Profile History	would you? Posted : 30 Oct, 2012 11:47 AM (For those of you who read my post from yesterday, an investigation is already underway. Dad was so concerned when he found out what happened, that I now have an extra handgun to use if necessary!) By George, I think you have just inadvertently and single-handedly made the best case for gun control that I have heard in years. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	would you? Posted : 30 Oct, 2012 03:35 PM Because of the way in which you presented that statement, I might have to have you investigated to find out if you had any connection to the person who sent me the disturbing text message that woke me up that night and kept me from being able to rest. If the police show up at your front door to question you, then you'll know why. And as for the handgun that I mentioned, it's ONLY for self-defense in case some weirdo tracks me down to physically harm me, so you don't even know what you're talking about. The nature of your statement says to me that "you" quite possibly had some connection to the person who sent that disturbing text message. If so, the police will find out, and they might arrest you! I'm going to make you one, and ONLY one offer: Come clean now if you had anything to do with it and I'll have the investigation cancelled! I give you my words here as proof in front of all these witnesses! I'm an honorable young man who is giving you a fair chance to rectify a possible error. All you've gotta do is send me a personal message if you have something to confess. If you had something to do with it, I'm willing to forgive and just let it go, but only if I can get it off my mind and start getting proper rest. If anyone else feels like making a similar statement to me, go right ahead and I might have you added to the investigation as well! I'm just giving you fair warning so hopefully you won't have to waste several days in an out of state courtroom. Trust me, it's not worth it! Sorry Debby, it honestly wasn't my intention to interfere with your forum post/thread. If TruthBeKnown wouldn't keep personally harassing me over some of my posts, including the previous one, this wouldn't have happened. I'll do my part and just keep silent if he posts anything else. Post Reply
View Profile History	would you? Posted : 30 Oct, 2012 03:52 PM Young man, the very idea that someone who demonstrates as much emotional instability as you have should be anywhere near a gun is a frightening thought. Perhaps, you are the one that should be investigated before you hurt yourself or someone else. In all candor and with sincerity, I suggest that you seek out some form of Pastoral counseling or other help. Post Reply
View Profile History	would you? Posted : 30 Oct, 2012 08:23 PM The public doesn't just have the police investigate a person. You might get laughed out of the police station if you tell them that you think TBK is the bad guy because his posts on a Christian dating site aren't in agreement with you. Okay, laughed out is an exaggeration. However they will likely say, "Yea but why do you believe it was him?" You'll have to come up with a better answer or else be prepared to have anyone who's ever disagreed with you be under investigation. :ROFL: Having said that, I haven't read what happened to you. I certainly sympathize if someone is making threats against you. That's not a very Godly thing to do. I think you should just take a step back and think a little more rationally about it though and not just live in fear of everyone. Remember, God is in control. That is freeing, to me at least. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	would you? Posted : 31 Oct, 2012 05:19 AM I think the older you get other factors play into a mate choice. For me if he loved and feared The Lord (is transforming into what the word say, which takes a lifetime). Then yes I would. I would hope that friends would not have to point that out but I would see the "God" in him.... Great question!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	would you? Posted : 31 Oct, 2012 03:15 PM @ShouldIgiveup: I highly doubt someone speaking the way you have on a public forum has the authority to order or cancel police investigations, and neither is your dad's friendship with police staff likely to have much effect in the real world - especially if it's yourself that they're investigating... Post Reply
IamIsabel View Profile History	would you? Posted : 11 Nov, 2012 05:58 PM I say no. I want the real thing. There are still a lot of nice Christian men out there that us women do not have to settle in marriage without love. On another note, if I find a man who I deem as a good spouse and he is a godly man, I would be inclined to be attracted to him anyway. But... mutual interests are important to me as well. Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	would you? Posted : 13 Nov, 2012 07:06 PM Forgive me if I�m wrong, I did not look your profile up. But it sounds like you have never been married. �"burning" love�, in my experience and by definition of the Greek euros is �burring lust�. But you don�t have to be married for that (according to the world), if you have ever broke up with someone you had �burring love� for and never bothered to marry them. Just ask yourself why and you have the answer to your question. Now the trifecta is to have unconditional lone (agape), phileo (friendship, brotherly), and eros (burning lust). And a marriage can last on unconditional love because that is a choice. When I was younger I would not have married for compatibility only; lust was such a huge factor, but the older you get life just gets different. Personally, I want the trifecta but some need to be married that is not wrong nor right it is what it is. Of course this is my opinion. Post Reply

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