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Admin	No connection Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 05:04 PM I've met a few ladies on here cdff and I try and stay in the loop with them by say ing hello once a day or so and thats it. I dont message them over and over again or anything. The problem is is that I'll have a really intense conversation with someone and then they disappear. Not sure if I'm asking the wrong questions which I try and keep it light and casual you know. Has any other guys or ladies have this issue? Post Reply
View Profile History	No connection Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 06:45 PM Yes I have definitely had the same problem. It seems awfully hard to stay connected to someone on a dating site. I don't know if it's the distance, my age or what. I am like you, I try to keep it causual to start with just to get to know someone, but then their gone and so is the hope. Can someone help me out there? Post Reply
View Profile History	No connection Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 07:51 PM Well, I can't say that I've experienced that kind of thing with any regularity. Usually, if I've stopped talking to a guy it's because we've established that it's not going anywhere. I've been on several dating sites over the past few years, and one thing that I've done is to take the relationship off the dating site itself fairly quickly. Become friends on facebook, start talking on the phone, chat on msn, etc. I think you stand out to someone more maybe when you're not just another one of the people on the dating site. It gives you another avenue of communication. Post Reply
View Profile History	No connection Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 07:16 AM Yes, that has happened. Start talking with someone and for no reason that I know of, they just stop responding. Couldn't they at least give a reason? It seems like they get on this site saying they've love to meet someone and when they do find someone that shows an interest, they run off. Why get on this site at all then and say you'd like to meet someone? Post Reply
View Profile History	No connection Posted : 5 Sep, 2010 06:47 AM There is nothing wrong with you. People do not realize how the computer and the many things that it can do, has led to the breakdown of relationships in our society. Yes you can say more, text more, and reach more people. But � it is impersonal. Anonymity promotes disrespect, rudeness, arrogance, and encourages people to be deceptive and lie. People figure, why not, no one knows who I am. Boundaries are obscured, and people simply do things they would not do in a real life setting because of peer acceptance. People who run these pay dating sites are getting rich and at us all the way to the bank, while we are dealing with the angst and frustration of trying to figure out what we are doing wrong! Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	No connection Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 07:24 AM Hello, I just read your post. I do not want to talk to someone online continuesly. If you are coming on here to contact me then you are still looking. If you are serious about getting to know me better after a few conversatins on line. Get my number and move to the next level. Women are looking for men to initiate and pursue. My two cents...:glow: Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	No connection Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 08:05 AM very true Deedee Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	No connection Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 01:23 PM Well it looks like we have found the magic bullet, gents. If you don't ask for a girl's phone # pretty quickly, then you're thrown out with yesterday's trash. After all, if you're still contacting her on here, it means you're still looking. Men must pursue and pursue quickly, it seems. But hold on. I've heard that the best way to get a wife is to not approach women at all and immerse yourself in spiritual matters. I've also heard if you pursue right away, the chicks freak out and block you. Then again, you can only pursue someone who's running away from you, so my question is "why is she running?". I like for my romances to involve willing partners, at the bare minimum. The one thing that it seems safe to conclude is this: dating is a game and women make up the rules as they go along. If you guess correctly, you win. If you guess incorrectly, you lose, and you give the 1000 other guys in line behind you a shot. I think my angst has returned. Post Reply
View Profile History	No connection Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 02:20 PM Silverfire: I agree. It really feels like a game. If you don't do things exactly the way a woman wants, then she just disappears. It almost feels like playing the game Operation. One false move and, BUZZZZ! You�re busted! This is selfish behavior, to expects something from someone without letting them know what it is you want. There is only one person on this planet besides God who knows what you want and that is you. In today's world there are so many different views on dating, that there is no possible way that a guy can know what you want. The kind and thoughtful thing to do is to tell him, or at least give him a strong hint. If he at least gets close to what you want, then suggest a compromise. If he doesn't want to come to some sort of agreement after that, then call it off. I realize that guys need to lead the relationship, but you can't expect a guy to know exactly what you want all the time. Especially when you are starting out a friendship. Cobbler Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	No connection Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 04:27 PM Different people are looking for different things. The best solution I can think of is to do what you want to do. If you feel more comfortable pursuing a girl a certain way, then do that. You won't attract the girls who don't go for that, but would you want them anyways? I'm not gonna attract a girl who wants to go from "hello" to "in a relationship" in under a week. I move deliberately, but I also move slowly. If she wants to meet that evening and be my girlfriend the next day, we're clearly in two different life stages. If she wants to message for four weeks before she'll give me her number, then I'm likely not for her either. We are the choosers because we get to choose how we're going to do things, which means we are choosing the women who like that and disqualifying those who don't. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	No connection Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 04:48 PM Good evening, The Bible says "when a man finds." How do you find something? I talked with a man online and had a great conversation. He told me he would like to chat with me again and gave me time when we could chat again. I cannot tell you how many men I have had long chats with a man said good night and then that was it. Regarding the original post. If you have chatted with someone and they seem interesting. Make a move to ensure the next contact. Do not randomely come online at certain times during the day hoping to make contact. Here is my question to you men. How would you pursue a woamn that you know was the one? Aren't you on here hoping that you will? Allot of women on here incluidng myself are old fashioned and we would like to see signs in a man that he is serious about this process and has leadership qualities... :applause: Post Reply

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