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SilverFire View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 09:12 AM Ok, I've got a question. I notice that many/most female profiles don't look like much time was spent on them. This may be the case for guys, but I don't look at them, so I don't have a point of comparison. Unfinished sentences, very general interests, lots of "ask me"s rule the day. I'm trying to understand the approach. It must work because it seems that 90% of you are doing it. Could you help me understand why? Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 12:03 PM maybe they update once in awhile and didnt re-read it before they hit submit. Or maybe typing to fast (I do that all the time). as far as general things...for myself I think I will come up with something later on and i will change/add it. Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 02:34 PM Women do not want to put their whole personality in a profile for everyone to see.... they want enough there for you to know that they are totally OK and enough lacking for you to be curious and contact them via private message. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 04:13 PM Wow. I can't say that I like what I've learned, but I guess it makes sense from a safety/mystery perspective. Hmm. There must be something wrong with me, then, because those profiles just don't motivate me in the slightest. Post Reply
View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 05:11 PM @SilverFire, I kinda feel the same way about that sometimes. Its kinda like, what do I ask about without being too broad or too deep too early? Of course, then they don't respond most of the time, but thats for a number of other threads. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 05:50 PM dont be discouraged :) maybe they dont know what their looking for yet and maybe they dont really know themselves. they could have possibly come out of a long relationship and need to find themselves again. Post Reply
View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 06:14 PM Well I'm one of the "ask me" ones because I have a really hard time wanting to share with every single profile looker, realize too, that men can be invisible here. There are some REALLY creepy men here and I don't want them to learn anything about me. Thus the "real" guys must have the inconvenience of passing muster. And, yes, the guys write little and say, "ask me" too. Post Reply
View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 06:25 PM Then there are those men and women who state their astrological sign and nothing else. And it's not even in a sentence! It's just the one word. And why is anyone even putting that on their profile at all on a Christian site *sheesh* As far as protecting your privacy goes, I wouldn't think that it would be a security risk to talk about your character, your beliefs, and things like that. There are plenty of things you can say about yourself without giving details that would allow a serial killer to hunt you down. Naturally, you shouldn't say: I live @ 123 Main street in the red brick house 2nd from the corner and I live all alone and get very scared at night because it's such a quiet neighbourhood and there are all these tall shrubs in front of my house that make my house a good target for burglaries. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 07:13 PM I understand the need for some privacy, but at the same time, I'm not going to message someone who doesn't give me a reason to. In the sea of possible women to message, I don't have time to message every possibility, and neither do other guys. A profile COULD turn out to have an amazing woman on the other end, but if all her profile says is, "I'm a simple girl who loves Christ and is looking for the man of her dreams," or something similar, I have no reason to message her. As far as I know, she is no different than the 10,000 other profiles that basically say the same thing. Post Reply
View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 11:51 PM I agree w/ Tulip. And if you think about it, when you say basically nothing in your profile and all you have are pictures, then you're asking for a guy to select you based on your physical attributes. The guys who are looking for more depth are probably going to pass you by and the guys who just want someone pretty will go ahead and wink or whatever. Profiles should reflect the kind of person you're looking for. If you want someone to be attracted to your character, then you need to talk about it! If you want someone to be attracted to you because of common interests, then you better fill that part out! And while we're talking about profiles, what is up w/ the women who pose in wedding dresses?? Are they posting wedding pictures from a former marriage? Or, is this a dress for a future marriage that they're just modeling... as a way to drop a really big hint or something?? (Wouldn't that be kinda like wearing a wedding dress on your 1st date w/ someone?) Or, is she homeless and this was something she picked up at a shelter and is all she has to wear? It's a very curious thing... I've seen like 3 of these profiles in the past couple of weeks and it really has me wondering. The first one I saw, I was like, "Okay, she's probably no longer single and this is her wedding picture and she's just still on here because of some friends she's made." But, when I looked at her profile, it indicated she was still actively looking for someone... I think the next time I see one of these wedding dress profiles, I'm going to send the lady off a little inquiry... :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	In your profile... Posted : 7 Sep, 2010 08:02 PM Really? Women do that? I've seen plenty of men who do that with their profiles. Hmmmmm.... maybe safety is one of the reasons. For myself, I've refined and edited my profile as I used to read other profiles (guys of course). When I came across something I liked (or didn't) or thought of something I could add, I revised my profile. Perhaps people don't view their own profile? Or, once they write it, don't bother with it again? Post Reply

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