Author	Thread: Signals
SilverFire View Profile History	Signals Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 03:13 PM I've searched for something on this topic and nothing came up, so here we go... Of the two genders, women are probably more adept at sending signals than men, but how good are they at receiving signals sent by men? I mean this in the usual manner -- indirect expressions of interest that don't rise to the level of flirting (for example: stating on a forum that you're into the same things she is on a thread where she's posted); I'm assuming multiple instances of the same kind of behavior. Post Reply
View Profile History	Signals Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 05:36 PM I don't think the search thing on here works, SilverFire. As far as signals go, I'm not sure I'm even any good at sending them. I'm either too subtle when I'm trying to send a signal or I send a signal when I totally don't mean to! And I'm really horrible at receiving signals. If a guy is interested in me romantically, he pretty much has to just straight up tell me. If he doesn't, then I'm just going to assume that his interest in me is purely platonic. And I like having guy friends. Even if a guy sends me a message on here, I assume he just wants to be friends unless he puts out a really strong vibe otherwise. Which doesn't make sense now that I'm reading it... since this is a dating site and all. Maybe I just got used to seeing things that way while I was in a relationship and need to break the habit now. I'm friends with a few guys from this site, though... who are on my Facebook... and I don't really think any of them are even attracted to me. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Signals Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 05:54 PM I'd have to say I'm pretty much like pixy on this topic. When I try to send signals they are overlooked but when I'm trying to do anything BUT send signals then it's thought that I was sending them... As for picking up on signals... I'm sure I'm terrible at that as well so like in your example of stating that you like similar things in a forum that this "other" person stated the things they liked... I know I would overlook that as just coincidence and think to myself " oh how cool he likes such and such too" and then move on... it wouldn't really register that they guy was trying to show interest specifically. Now, if that same guy instead of posting it in a forum, instead sent a private message with the same information... then that yes, I would realize was showing interest. However, at that point it would be rather obvious now wouldn't it? Post Reply
View Profile History	Signals Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 05:56 PM Haha... That still wouldn't be obvious to me. I would think he just wanted to strike up a conversation about our mutual interests... :ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	Signals Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 06:04 PM " how good are they at receiving signals sent by men?" Probably varies between women. I find I can pick up about 80% of the signals from men about 80% of the time. My aerage is higher when I am face-to-face with him. For your example - unless the forum post was directed specifically at me, I would not think it was meant for me personally. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Signals Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 06:13 PM aww pixy... I get what you mean... I probably wouldn't think "romantically" interested in my personally... but rather just "interested" as in getting to know me better for the sake of getting to know me better lol. However, I would at least know there was interest of SOME kind by a personal message over a general forum post heh. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Signals Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 06:16 PM I wouldnt get it either...way over my head. As much as you hear that women read into things...nope we really dont. Not until the relationship starts, lol....(kidding) silverfire, we women like to be pursued. (FYI) message her and let her know your interested. Post Reply
View Profile History	Signals Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 08:54 PM I thought it was only me who is terrible in reading signals, turns out that I am not the only one lol Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Signals Posted : 8 Oct, 2010 04:43 AM Now, now, some of you have already gone too far, in assuming that I was going to rely upon this technique exclusively. Not so. I asked because I was wondering if doing this revealed too much or too little. I think when a guy is interested -- romantically -- in a woman, his actions are purposed, even in things that seem not so. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Signals Posted : 8 Oct, 2010 04:48 AM It might be the relationship habits carrying over, Pixy. I mean, I know when I'm in a relationship I'm self-deadened to signals from women besides the gf. If they are interested in me, romantically, I don't see it until it's distressingly obvious. When I'm single I tend to be a little less oblivious, though unfortunately, not too much less. :laugh: As for guys who are your facebook friends not being interested in you...well...*ahem*....don't be so sure. Harry Met Sally and all that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Signals Posted : 8 Oct, 2010 05:15 AM Well, all of you take heart because I am the single most riduculously terrible pathetic horrendous signal reader in the whole entire universe. I am very, very open and am just learning that everybody doesn't communicate like I do. Not that I didn't realize that for real but I have intimidated a few guys cause I was too 'in your face'. They would rather I be coy as well, not! But I have learned to tone it down and step back. Thank God for progressive development! I don't really expect men to be coy & not gather up their courage (I highly respect that) and would prefer it if they would just come out and talk to me. Cause if it's up to me to read the indirect signals of interest, nothin' will ever happen. Post Reply

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