Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him.
Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
Right and while he has been slaving at work us silly wives have had it so easy at home.
We love changing diapers filled with cr@p. Washing endless laundry. Children are always making messes but it's a blessing to pick up after the sweet little ones.
All the grocery shopping is fun!!!!!
Picking up kids from school taking them to activities.
After such a fantastic and blissful day it's such a joy to be all ready to please our husbands.
Oh and don't bother those poor husbands with silly stuff concerning us as it's not important.
Actually I have only once for a few months been just a stay at home mom. The rest of the time I did it both. Both are hard jobs and a well working team would understand that.
Yeah, I'm with Pixy on this one -- about 75% of that stuff is useful. For instance, greeting someone when they come home with complaints and problems makes you not want to come home! You've had that at work all day. From a guy's perspective, if I came home to a woman who was listening to me, who looked nice, who had dinner made (!), and who even wanted to kiss me, it would be awesome beyond awesome. I would speed to get home, or at least after the first few tickets, would drive as fast as the law allowed. *laughs*
I would want my hubby to speed home to me =) Home should be a haven, not a zoo!!
I think it's pretty much common knowledge that people need time to decompress when they get home from work... maybe 30 minutes or so before their brains can really engage in something else. I think that the bulk of what this list is saying is to give your hubby that time and pamper him a little for a bit. And depending upon hubby's emotional needs, that's going to look different. Maybe some guys would rather just take a little nap while the wife finished dinner, rather than having her hovering and pampering him... And even if you do have something important to talk about, you should wait. Hubby will be better able to engage in a conversation about whatever it is, after he's had a little bit of time to just relax.
Of course, if there are kids in the scenario, it would be great if he would take them for 30 minutes or so later in the evening to let his wife go lay down or whatever. By the time dinner is over, a mom is no doubt really weary and could use a break before getting started with the children's bedtime activities. If hubby gives her some time to relax, then she'll be more likely to have the energy for sex after the kids are in bed =)
I agree with very little of it just because of how I see married friends' lives play out. Being stuck at home all day long with kids has to be the worst life, and to be expected to always be super happy and excited when he gets home might be a bit much. Especially if he is the kind of husband who never, ever helps out with the kids or treats his wife like she has the easy job. It's a two-way street, so seeing one side without the other is incomplete to say the least.
I disagree with the whole thing.i think the guy should come home to a major zoo.Pets running around fighting, kids screaming, and the wife pulling her hair out. :dancingp:
Then I walk in and snap my fingers and everything falls into place.:laugh: Wife and kids------>:devil: :ROFL:
Like my home now I get home and the cats are fighting.I whistle and it all stops. :bow:
Well, I'm gonna have a lot of rocks chunked at me, but "being stuck at home with KIDS?"
Poor thang! Perish the thought of a woman having to bear being "stuck" at home raising her very own little brats when she could be out shopping or running the streets instead of doing her chores!
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Yep, that's the idea my father had. My mom and dad were divorced because he couldn't understand why my mom wanted to be able to "do her own thing" instead of being cooped up all day. (She couldn't understand why he didn't understand).
I agree with some of it- to a point. While I'm not as old fashioned as my father was, I still believe it would be nice if the husband made enough for the wife to stay home. I don't believe children should be seen and not heard, or a woman's place is in the kitchen (barefoot and pregnant), but if financially feasible, it would be nice to come home to somebody who isn't complaining because she had to be cooped up all day with the "kids" (I hate that term!). It would be nice to come home to a clean house, a nice warm meal, and being able to relax afterwards--together, as a famly though. I do believe the husband and the wife should share household responsibilities equally, including rearing the children. I know I enjoyed bathing my child, and reading bedtime stories to him, while his mother relaxed from a long day of chasing him around.
I believe she should be able to work if she wants to, or not if she doesn't. I don't believe if she's a stay at home mom that there's anything wrong every so often to put the children in daycare while she goes out shopping, have lunch with her friends, or whatever she finds entertaining. But if she does decide to stay home while they are little, don't spend the afternoon when her husband comes home whining about it. He's tired too. And I do not like for children to be called kids, or to be treated like they are a punishment or an unwanted obligation. It is a priviledge and an honor to have children and to be able to be "cooped up at home" with them. I only wish I could have been "cooped up" more with mine.
I agree with much of this.. and the idea that we are "stuck home with the kids" just rubs me the wrong way..sorry ladies but if we are married and have children they are a gift from God and it is what GOD wants from us to raise our kids not farm them out so to speak.. i know i know im not being PC.. sorry..
Very interesting list - thanks for sharing. The more things change, the more they stay the same.
Not everyone is cut out to be a person (mom OR dad) who stays at home while their spouse works. That is not a bad thing or something to frown at. It is just the way we are made. It does not automatically mean, either, that they hate children in general or their children specifically.
That said, I think the PRINCIPALS on this list -- the INTENTION of this list -- could be applied to any spouse (mom OR dad) who stays at home. Or more accuratley, does not have an outside the home job that pays. Because face it - staying at home with children is a lot of work!
