Author	Thread: Christian Woman? how important is this?
Apostolic_Guy View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 10:25 PM How important is it to date a good Christian woman? specifically my pastor speaks of me only needing to marry in the church (he means Pentacostal/Apostolic). I'm wondering if its ok to date outside of the church? I'm hoping that when i do ever find someone she would atleast consider coming to church with me, but if she doesn't is that ok? And as for her only being Pentacostal/Apostolic, its hard enough for me to find someone i DO like. I'm just wondering if you ladies could give me some advice? Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 11:14 PM Hi Apostolic. Denomination is not important. The ONLY thing that is important is that you both have a relationship with Jesus Christ and that Jesus is your primary focus. If you are not both Christians, then you are unequally yoked. As for what your pastor is saying, that is not a good way of thinking. If you like your church, that is great. No church is perfect. But there should be unity among the WHOLE BODY OF CHRIST, no matter what denomination someone is. When you are dating, it doesn't matter at all whether you go to the same church as long as you are both Christians and have a real relationship with the Lord. Once you are married though, you will need to agree on a church. But the specific church/denomination shouldn't be the deciding factor. This last part is just my opinion though :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 04:34 AM Actually, to be with a mate that is unequally yoked with us, it would give us no benefit but pain, within risking our salvation and our relationship with Jesus. As far as denominational, it is not important since denominations are not Biblical, we are all the same in Christ, just like Paul stated (somewhere in the New Testament and I forget where exactly it was lol) Everything God commands us, is for nothing but our benefit only. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 04:35 AM Very important as I will go to your church and my children will be raised there. A woman at my church back home is Pentecostal and her husband is JW. She had to get her girls dressed to go to church with her husband and she said it just killed her. Also, one other friend I worked with had broken up with a guy she loved because of their religious differences. She told me later after they reconcilled that he told her he would not interfere with the kids going to her church. The thing is the husband is the head of the home and will lead his family in worship. If you date a woman who is not willing to leave her church and attend yours walk away from that relationship. What I have written above is a recipe for disaster. A man cannot lead his home effectively if his wife and children attend a different church. Can two walk together usless they agree? Post Reply
View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 12:31 PM I agree with Dee. There are also denominational differences that are important to consider. Things that at first might not seem a big deal, but later on become a very big deal. It's these differences that can make or break a marriage. Post Reply
View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 02:07 PM I feel if your moving towards marriage with someone then she needs to go to your church with you if she is close enough to do so-this is part of submission and respect to you as a man of God. She will have to put her trust in what the Lord has joined together... once married that you are walking with the Lord and he is leading you , so that you may lead her in the proper order...so she needs to start showing signs of this I feel way before you two are married...not that she has to stop trusting the Lord , but she needs to start placing you in the proper position that you will be in once married, and that is her submitting to you as her head...and showing you respect. I also feel denominations do play a big part in whom you would consider marrying -of course it does..it is part of whom you are and what seems right to you...she needs to be able to support you in all things. No way I could marry a man who I could not agree with according to the word of God. As far as dating outside the church hmm you mean the building I suppose ? I say Go for it!!:purpleangel: Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 02:30 PM Well said DeeDee! Dating outside the Christian faith is unwise. I think that there are "catagories" of Protestant churches. Aren't there several denominations that consider themselve Pentecostal? I date within the "Evangelical" community. Some people like the "litergical" denominations. You and a potential spouse would need to decide what elements of doctrine are "deal-breakers." You'll need to decide what style of worship you both enjoy. Sometimes it is best to start fresh at a totally new church that you both enjoy. I've seen too many youngins get married because of pressure from a pastor. Talk to GOD 1ST!!! Then, take your pastor's opinion under advisement. Rose Post Reply
Apostolic_Guy View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 11:42 PM the main reason i know why he's so on this is cause well... not to put down anyone else but being Apostolic means having Holiness Standards, in Pentacostal/apostolic churches we fellowship with, women Only wear dresses, never wear make-up or jewelry and never cut their hair. according to him, and all other preachers i've heard Holiness is very important, and they believe pentacostal/apostolics should only marry pentacostal/apostolics for this reason . (now thats alot for women to deal with, guys got less, but its cut hair, shave, and dont wear shorts) both guys and girls dont wear really short sleeves, in general. if it can be helped. the only reason i can see them all saying that is. so pentacostal/apostolics dont get corrupted by anything? i think. cause think about it. I just want to know what women out there think about these restrictions i seem to have? cause believe me, i think alot of the girls we fellowship with are pretty =] (and no offence i find more and more that ones who have holiness standards are prettier than others who don't?) lol Now all of this is stuff i hear preached to me and girls of my church. i know alot of denominations don't follows same stuff im just saying what we do. Post Reply
View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 12:05 AM "women Only wear dresses, never wear make-up or jewelry and never cut their hair." So, women can't wear pants, women should look ugly on their wedding day since they can't have make up (I never see any bride use no make up), women in the Old Testament wore jewelries and never mentioned in the Bible when God complaining about it, wow so women should have very long hair since they can't cut it? If a woman can't cut their hair since they were born, how long that hair could be then.. (start using my imagination lol) Let me hear the Bible verses about all these and we will continue the discussion :glow: Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 11:50 AM I agree with JesusLoves! I have heard of women whose hair got so long that it caused severe headaches that went away as soon as they cut their hair. The Bible does say that a woman's hair is her crown, but it does NOT say to not cut it. In fact, the only person I can think of in the entire Bible who was commanded to not cut their hair was Samson and, oh wait a sec...he was a MAN! :ROFL: Please don't get me wrong, I am not trying to make fun of your beliefs. But this sounds like an extremely legalistic denomination and that is not Biblical. Also, like JesusLoves said, women in the Bible did wear jewelry. There is nothing unholy at all about not wearing jewelry. Modesty is Biblical, but that doesn't necessarily mean being restricted to dresses. I don't think makeup is unholy either. Look at Esther. She was devoted to God and her people, and she was made up to the hilt to serve God's purposes. Anyway, again, I'm not trying to criticize your beliefs. However, I do encourage you to NOT just take your pastor's word for it. Read the Bible and research these things and come to your own conclusions. Pray about it and ask God to show you the answers. It is very important that you read your Bible and pray rather than just believing every word your pastor says as gospel. I am not saying he is dishonest, but he is human and therefore infallible and therefore not always correct. Research research research! :) Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	Christian Woman? how important is this? Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 01:35 PM Apostolic, No need to answer here, but do you personally believe a person has to dress a certain way to be saved (this varies from church to church)? How would you personally feel about your wife cutting her hair, going to a public pool, or wearing makeup? Your daughter? How would you want your kids baptized? If your wife or your kids felt differently, would that upset you? Would you mind going to a different kind of church with your wife if she felt more comfortable somewhere else? If you feel very strongly about the Apostolic/Pentecostal doctrines, there could be a lot of conflict in your marriage. If you don't, then take things slow, but date who you want to. She needs to be compatible with you, not your pastor. If you get serious with someone from another denomination, be sure to visit her church and attend some events with her. If you don't feel comfortable in her church, she probably won't really feel comfortable in yours either--and believe me, that will lead to trouble later on, even if right now she smiles and says it's ok. Post Reply

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