I'm just wondering what is the deal with women who see your email, look at your profile, don't even read your email, and ignore you. SO rude! I know an attractive woman must have a lot of emails to go through on a daily basis, but I think that's a bit too far.
There are lots of women who've winked at or emailed me who I'm not interested in, and I've written every one of them back with a polite note and a wish for God to bless them in their search, and I DON'T use the site's rubber-stamp "no thanks" thing, either. Just common courtesy.
People are NOT all the same in their religious faith or in their morality for that matter. What you may see as some personal effrontery by others Thaumasios, might not even be the intent of anyone else. Its easy to shake your finger in disdain at the lack of "common courtesy" you feel is your just due. However, considering the reasons I stated above why women DO NOT respond to emails, I would think you might reconsider your staunch view that not responding to an email sent is somehow breaking a christian rule. Honestly, is it really necessary a woman write you back to acknowledge your effort and interest in writing to her only to tell you "thanks but no thanks" when a non-response conveys to you exactly the same outcome and does not leave her open to further reprisal? :ROFL:
My typical reaction in the physical world (not in cyber space) when a man winks at me whom I have no interest in is either disassociation, or displacement.
Haha, it would be very funny for me to be like "Hey there, dream walker, I noticed you winked at me. I just wanted to let you know I'm not interested." That would be :yay: hilarious! ...you're libel to offend worse or just look foolish.
So why do online what I do not do in real life? It may create an unnatural ecosystem.
I used to write people back, explaining "thanks but no thanks" and one of them even had the nerve to ask me why!!! For heavens sakes, some people must think they are God's gift to the opposite gender or the origin of species.
Well, anyway... I'd also have someone not reply to my letter, than write me a sweet "I don't really like you" note. It ma kes it worse. :winksmile: So if I wink at you, and you don't like my blue face, or cheesy grin, ignore it and keep walking!
I said: I'm just wondering what is the deal with women who see your email, look at your profile, don't even read your email, and ignore you. SO rude! I know an attractive woman must have a lot of emails to go through on a daily basis, but I think that's a bit too far.
You said: You need to know something right off the bat, just because you write to someone --and you don't hear back from them--if they have not accessed your email at all, chances are they have not logged into this site in awhile. You may be writing to a profile that is no longer viable. There is no way to know that here if a profile has not been active in awhile. So why you may be thinking it rude of someone not to even read your email--they may not even be an active member here to know they have mail.
What part of �see your email, look at your profile�� don�t you understand? If I see that they saw, and also looked at my profile, then that means they were logged on. Pay attention.
You said: I, for one don't blame women for not responding to email. I just assume if they have an interest they WILL respond, just as a non-response is till in fact a response. A non-response lets me know two things--either she read my email and was not interested or she never received it in he first place.
I agree. No problem there. Happens all the time. That�s not what I was even talking about. Pay attention.
You said: People are NOT all the same in their religious faith or in their morality for that matter.
Wow, what a revelation. People are different, and I�m not everyone�s cup of tea. I�ve known that for years. No biggie.
You said: However, considering the reasons I stated above why women DO NOT respond to emails, I would think you might reconsider your staunch view that not responding to an email sent is somehow breaking a christian rule.
Again�not even what I was talking about. Pay attention.
I was simply talking about someone seeing your email, not even reading it, looking at your profile and ignoring you. No, I don�t think I�m God�s gift to women, and every woman should be falling at my feet�I�m just talking about a little common courtesy, and I�m not �staunch.�
Besides, this is �ask a girl.� What are you even doing responding to it in the first place? You totally didn�t pay any attention to what I was saying in the first place, then go off on another tangent. I ignored you until you had the effrontery to write again, so I think that called for a response. You�re simply proving my point about rudeness.
Yes--I know what you are talking about Thaumasios. Everyone knows what the point you are trying to make--you posted a whole thread about your sensitivity issues. Yes, we knwo what you are trying to convey! :nahnah: You've gotten your cute little man nose bent out of shape because some female(s) have noticed you have written to her (thus the reason she's probably accessed your profile but who has not bothered to open your mail and respond to your interest. :ROFL:
So what! Did you not read what EveryBodyNeedFriend said to you? Common sense would dictate if after a female has looked at your profile -- and in turn, likes what she sees--that alone would prompt her to access the email you've written to her and respond back to you if the mood so takes her. If she doesn't bother to even open your email that alone should tell you she's NOT interested...why on earth would she bother to open her mail only to feel obligated to respond back to you as a "courtesy" if she has no interest at all.
This is the part you are not getting---even EverybodyNeedsFriend has gone down that road before and to what end? She gets another email from the very male she is NOT interested in--aiming at her a parting shot because his emotional skill set is totally lacking--his cute little nose gets bent out of shape and he responds to her kind rejection with an emotionally abuse taunt. That my friend...is most likely why some women do not respond to emails--don't even open them to read if they've already discovered they aren't interested based on your profile alone. Is that really rudeness or a basic survival skill women have developed after dealing with men whose cute little noses are so easily bent out of shape -- lol? :ROFL:
I think it means there no interest to know you better. How about those who just view your profile many times but without any message? Are they interested or are they in series of errors clicking view button but not viewing at all? I take no offence and believe there is just not enough interest to write something. Maybe no response is better than a polite note or rubber stamp "no thanks".
It could also be that they are interested in seeing who is writing such insightful posts and they click on your profile. Then they may realize you may live kind of far from them or maybe they are too old/young for you.
You absolutley correct. I know it's rude, and I do apologize, but with me, it's because of my past experiences.
In the past, nearly every man that I responded to, saying that we were just too different would come back at me, either by flaming me or trying to beg me to reconsider. Most of these guys were too old, demanding that children be an option, hated animals, lived in other countries (and I'm not Canada, either, we're talking Liberia/Nigeria/etc.), or made "intimate advances" online.
It got so bad that I couldn't take it anymore, especially with this being a "Christian" daing site. It got so bad that I had to leave for several months before I would even think of going back to the site.
Sadly, the only way that a rejection would be taken seriously (or even at all) was to just ignore them. Hopefully, they'd just think that I wasn't online.
You're right, though it's still rude and there should be no excuse. I just hopet hat there are more men like you who would understand that a "not interested" message isn't the end of the world. Maybe then more of us (both men & women) would be willing to take a message and move on... gracefully.
