Author	Thread: Looking for a "Gentleman"?
1jon310 View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 2 Nov, 2013 07:44 PM Hello Ladies After reading many profiles and several forum posts, I decided to research what a "Gentleman" was. As it turns out there is no standard as to what character traits a man would posses to be labeled a "Gentleman". The only commonality is that he be respectful of women. But I have talked with enough women over the years to know that there is not a standard as to what a woman considers being respectful. So Ladies I pose this to you. Make a simple list of the qualities of a "Gentleman" and what you consider is respectful behavior toward you. Thank You for clueing us in. r Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 4 Nov, 2013 07:48 PM mcubed You bring up a topic that I have had a moments to ponder over the years. I have had to explain to several of my sisters over the years that to hold a door open for woman is not a way of saying to them that they are weak or in anyway incapable. Holding a door open for a woman is an act of honoring her, much like doors are held open for royalty of visiting dignitaries. It has taken several times out and sometimes a somewhat awkward rush to get to the door ahead of them before they decided to wait and allow me to open the door for them. No offence meant to anybody, but it is confusing to most men when a woman tells us that they want respect and honor and then will not allow us to bestow upon them that same respect and honor. r Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 6 Nov, 2013 04:38 PM Just a silly girl's fyi.... you should keep taking that time out to open a door... You don't know who you will meet... and us girls that wait for the door are usually special...:glow: We at least know gender roles... I can't guarantee anything else:dancingp: Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 6 Nov, 2013 08:05 PM Ladies I cross referenced your lists and grouped the traits that were common into groups as best I could. There were two traits that stood out because they were alone. Protector and Sacrificial Love I have long considered that being a protector was at the forefront of just being a man. Yet it was only mentioned once. Why do you think that it was not listed more often? Sacrificial Love (Agape Love) without sacrificial Love everything is worthless (in my opinion) in society, family, church, marriage. Again only mentioned specifically once. Why not more? I really want to congratulate all of you. Every trait that you listed is a positive trait. No one listed any negative traits ie. he shouldn't be.... That speaks so highly of each of you and what God has done in each of your lives. Praise God. Please clue me in on the above questions. Teach me. r Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 6 Nov, 2013 08:22 PM 1Jon-- Your reasoning is interesting. You said, "Every trait that you listed is a positive trait. No one listed any negative traits ie. he shouldn't be.... " Yet, look at the Ten Commandments. How many are negative? "Thou shalt not...." Do you understand the reasoning of this? Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 6 Nov, 2013 08:54 PM Im getting confused... A man can be a protector without possessing "gentlemanly" or genteel qualities. & should one still be considered a gentleman if he is only like that to a selected few? Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 7 Nov, 2013 05:42 PM Sacrificial love and protector....I don't associate them specifically with a gentleman. I associate sacrificial love with a spouse and protector with most men in general. I also associate protector with women because they are protective of their kids like a mother hen. As for holding doors open, I generally will wait to see if the door will be opened but have had so many 'let go' when following people into stores or buildings that I have figure if I'm with a man, he will open the door but if I'm entering somewhere alone that the door will not be opened or held open for me (except at my church or work...there are many in my workplace who hold doors and allow women to enter/exit elevators first). I always ensure the individual hears me say Thank you if the door if he opens the door for me or others in my group. It's almost as bad as men not removing their hats or hoods when entering a building....just not taught like it used to be...and that begins at home. Many churches do not uphold any sort of standards for gentlemen to follow...or young boys to learn (same goes for women and girls). We'll get dressed up to go on a date but not wear our best to worship God in His house. Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 7 Nov, 2013 05:51 PM IWA You ask if I understand if I understand why God wrote the Ten Commandments in the negative.... Simple answer is "NO". I have read and listened to some of the most well know theologians of the Christian era and I have not found a unified theory from them. One of the commentators after giving their theory concluded by saying that God did not give a reason for writing the Ten Commandments in the negative so we do not really know. It is something to give thought to as there are 623 total commandments listed in scripture as noted by scholars but the majority are written as positive commands. I have my own theories but I doubt that you care to hear (read) them. As I was commenting people about not listing traits in the negative (they not being God) I was relying on the commonly accepted understanding that a person who makes a list as they have and the list is in the positive; that is a good indicator that the person or persons are at least reasonably well and there is an absence of bitterness, anger or animosity concealed within their hearts. Not a big deal for young people but it is a sign of a walk with the Lord when any person who has accumulated a few years. After all in this life we will have trouble. No? Chrome As a veteran, yes I would say that a man can be protective but not be genteel. What do you think? You ask a good question though, if I may rephrase a little? Is a man a gentleman if he is only a gentleman to a selected few? I would say no, because if this is a character issue then the character will remain at all times. Do you have a different view? Anybody else? r Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 7 Nov, 2013 07:38 PM I know I'm not a lady, but a gentleman is simply put. A man who puts others befor himself; he has consideration for all other befor himself, showing respect to all, and being honest and truthful in all situations. The true mark of a gentleman is taking others feeling into consideration befor doing anything, as to not offend the other person or persons in the room. Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 7 Nov, 2013 08:22 PM Welcome David The more the merrier. May you find blessings that you did not know to ask for. r Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a "Gentleman"? Posted : 7 Nov, 2013 09:33 PM Agreeing with David, spoken like a true G. It takes one to know one? Post Reply

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