Thread: What does a girl look for in a potential husband?
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What does a girl look for in a potential husband?
Posted : 20 Sep, 2014 11:29 AM
Hello everyone!
I've wondering for a while now, what do girls look for in guys? I mean, what kind of guys would you choose to be your husband?
I ask this because I used to believe that girls fall for passionate, caring, loving, kind, romantic or poetic guys... Always thought that sensitive guys like me were girls' favourites. At this point, however, I'm really acknowledging I know nothing.
I'm curious to know what you want in a husband and, if you could, gimme a piece of advice on how to star a conversation with a girl. A conversation that will really flow, that won't be a monologue -with just me sending messages but getting no replies.
But what sort of girls were these, alipbechel? Were they very pretty? My hypothesis is that very pretty girls get since childhood what they want just because they are pretty and so their personalities do not usually develop very well. There are exceptions, of course.
I'll pray for you alipbechel that one day, you will find the real pretty girl who has developed a well-rounded mentality with a genuine heart... someone God destined just for you... :prayingm:
I mean online, I can give a load of nonsense about how strong my faith is, how I'm always active in church and blah blah.... But how can you tell if I'm lying or not? I certainly feel it's a tad impolite to not respond at all. However, to each their own maybe.
It would be really nice if girls could specify what kind of a person are they looking for AND what can they add to the relationship!
Besides a person who has a close relationship with God, the following are a few of the qualities that I am looking for.
Someone who can handle conflict graciously. Conflict in marriage is inevitable. Red flags are someone who withdraws and won't engage or who attacks with words or violence.
Someone who can communicate. I don't want to have to drag things out of a person. He should be able to articulate his thoughts. Good communication is important in a marriage.
Someone who is humble. I've seen husbands who can't apologize and are always blaming others and they make very poor marriage partners. I'm looking for someone who can admit it when they are at fault and don't think that they are always right.
Someone who is a giver. Willing to go out of their way for someone else. Takers will drain the life out of you.
Obviously, I wouldn't be able to know most of this stuff on a first date and it takes time to get to know someone but some of these things start showing up sooner than you might expect.
"if they're not interested they'll not reply" @King
They are taught they are worth too much to press the button to tell the person they might not be a suitable match.
That's because society has taught them that they should be worshiped, that they are precious and are out of the league of anyone under 9/10 looks.
It's because men are taught to compete for women like insects, birds and fish.
If you walked down the street and people said hello to you and were kind to you, and you literally just stopped to listen to them and then carried on walking and ignored them, you'd be an ***hole. And people would call you exactly that. And you couldn't be called a Christian.
But that happens on CDFF. Less than 50% of the women I've encountered here are Christian. Doesn't matter how many emoticons or fake **** is on their profile or how much they pout and pose with that clueless stupid look on their face, or how many desperate lonely men favourite them because they have a 7/10 face. Doesn't make them Christian.
Men should stop basing their self-worth on how much attention women give them. Most of them aren't worth it.
They should be the ones spamming our inboxes, begging for our attention.
See?.... Kev just said everything a man would like to.
That's the exact reaction women cause on here - anger and disappointment. You know, most profiles say what they want in a man, but I question how would a girl know a man if she doesn't talk back to him?
hehehe.... I think that's what Kev says most girls on here aren't Christian. I myself doubt they are. The minimum a person should do on a website created to encourage communication is to communicate rather than hope it works as a fairy godmother that will bring the prince of dreams.