Author	Thread: Personality
Obediencetotheword View Profile History	Personality Posted : 18 Apr, 2018 04:21 PM How important do you think is personality in finding a mate? If you consider it important, how do you gauge compatibility by this method, which is basically just messaging (plain writing) in the beginning. Post Reply
Obediencetotheword View Profile History	Personality Posted : 19 Apr, 2018 05:53 PM Thank you very much grace_of_God... That is pretty much how I kept the conversation. The guy I messaged cut-off it off because he said this process is too interrogative or demanding. This is why I ask, a person who has an introvert personality may not really like this online dating process to hold on long enough to transition to phone / video call. It is too bad, he seems to be a nice guy. To me, it seems like his personality got in the way. Any thoughts? Post Reply
View Profile History	Personality Posted : 19 Apr, 2018 07:22 PM I'm not sure if it was a personality thing, Obedience, or his lack of online dating website experience. Going back and forth, asking questions, is how it works on a dating website. Sorry that one didn't work out for you. Post Reply
Obediencetotheword View Profile History	Personality Posted : 19 Apr, 2018 09:25 PM Thank you grace_of_God! I really appreciate your time and input. I hope this gets the word out that we are confined to WORDS in online dating. The initial exchanges are expressions through words and nothing else. If one does not have the patience to express, or the openness to impart information, the next step of phone / video call will not happen. BUT BEWARE my dear sisters, be truthful about experiences and general facts but as to personal information like email, make sure you set-up one especially intended for this. Your skype address should not reveal your phone number or address. Personal information will only be revealed once you are sure that the person you are communicating with is the real person reflected in the profile, and that you trust him. Prayers, prayers, and prayers. May God bless us all.🙏 Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	Personality Posted : 20 Apr, 2018 12:16 AM I was contacted by someone who's idea of commication was messages that consisted of one or two lines. After several days of trying to expand the conversation, I said its very hard to get to get to know someone with one or two word answers. There was no change, I felt like I was wasting my time so decided to end the correspondence. Post Reply
Obediencetotheword View Profile History	Personality Posted : 22 Apr, 2018 07:51 PM Thanks for sharing Jayzeee. I just posted a new topic for men - Just an observation... I hope they read it and reply. Post Reply
View Profile History	Personality Posted : 1 May, 2018 07:24 PM Hi I think it's fairly important as its a part of who you are. Not sure if one might check the definition but it goes hand in hand with character? We judge each other on that. So surely you are attracted to a persons character also. Personalities likewise can attract or repel but I'm no psychologist or behavioural scientist just an observer. Post Reply
View Profile History	Personality Posted : 2 May, 2018 11:54 PM Here is a list of all the bad things you can imagine : * Winning too much: The need to win at all costs and in all situations. * Adding too much value: The overwhelming desire to add our 2 cents to every discussion. * Passing judgment: The need to rate others and impose our standards on them. * Making destructive comments: The needless sarcasm and cutting remarks that we think make us witty. * Starting with NO, BUT, HOWEVER: The overuse of these negative qualifiers which secretly say to everyone that I�m right and you�re wrong. * Telling the world how smart we are: The need to show people we�re smarter than they think we are. * Speaking when angry: Using emotional volatility as a management tool. * Negativity, or "Let me explain why that won�t work": The need to share our negative thoughts even when we weren�t asked. * Withholding information: The refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over others. * Failing to give proper recognition: The inability to give praise and reward. * Claiming credit that that we don�t deserve: The most annoying way to overestimate our contribution to any success. * Making excuses: The need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it. * Victim mentality: Blaming everyone else. * Playing favorites: Failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly. * Refusing to express regret: The inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit we�re wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others. * Not listening: The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect for colleagues. * Failing to express gratitude: The most basic form of bad manners. * Punishing the messenger: The misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually only trying to help us. * Passing the buck: The need to blame everyone but ourselves. * Catastrophizing: Automatically assuming a "worst case scenario" and inappropriately characterizing minor or moderate problems or issues as catastrophic events. * An excessive need to be "me": Exalting our faults as virtues simply because they're who we are. * unfaithfulness, disloyalty * pride: know-it-all * pride: being unwilling to accept help or assistance when in desperate need * being wicked, mean, cruel, hateful, depraved, malicious, dishonorable * being dishonest, lying, insincere, deceitful, deceptive, devious, cheating * being arrogant, self-centered, egotistical, condescending, smug, snob * being conceited, holding a high opinion of self * being untrustworthy, unreliable * breaking promises easily * always belittling self * being inflexible * being irresponsible * being manipulative * being quarrelsome * being annoying, nagging, irritating, aggravating * being immature * being argumentative, critical * being greedy, hoarding, avaricious * freeloading * cutting corners * being perverse, vulgar, indecent * being dim, lacking intelligence * not listening, being a bad listener * being hypocritical, holding double standards * being unethical * being boastful, bragging * being nosy, too curious * being gossiping * being irritable, irascible * being temperamental, moody, sentimental, volatile, too emotional * being disorganized, messy * being tardy, late, not prompt, having no sense of urgency * being depressed all the time, pessimistic, sad, unhappy, gloomy, sullen, downcast * yelling a lot * vandalizing * being vengeful, unforgiving, wanting to pay back at all costs * being materialistic * being inconsiderate, selfish, thoughtless * having rude behavior, being tactless, impolite, offensive, embarrasing * interrupting * controlling, domineering, overbearing, tyrannical, bossy * exploiting, taking advantage of people * being fussy, anxious or particular about petty details * being reckless, careless, quick and willing to take huge risks * being eccentric, awkward, just weird * being fearful, having phobias of all sorts * being hard to please * being forgetful * being unfriendly * being too outspoken, talk without thinking * being impudent, cheeky * being wasteful, overspending * being ungrateful, taking for granted what other people do for you out of love * being unsatisfied, complaining, querulous * being passive, apathetic, lethargic, listless * a gold digger, looking for money * having a superiority complex * excessive nationalism: my country is all that matters to me * not answering the phone, ignoring people and responsibilities * inability to use critical/rational thinking * unexplainable behavior * being stingy, tight-fisted, cheap, parsimonious * being too shy, insecure, timid, lacking self-assurance or courage * being secretive, reserved, uncommunicative, withdrawn * being too verbose, not straight forward, too much talk and short meaning * treating you like a child, explaining things over and over again * being quick-tempered * irrational, unreasonable * being violent * being racist * being jealous * being flirtatious with everyone * being indiscreet * being impatient * being too demanding * being obsessed with some addiction or something * being foolish, silly, frivolous * being spoiled * being inhumane * being too dependent on others, relying on others for support * being impulsive * being too serious, cold * being too opinionated, dogmatic * worrying all the time * being obsessed with health, hypochondriac * people pleasing, cannot say �no� * being lazy, procrastinating * being fidgety * being whining * being cowardly * being too gullible, believe everything, naive * being stubborn * being superstitious * giving up too easily * being shallow * being narrow-minded * being unpredictable * weak-willed * over eating, binge eating * eavesdropping * exaggerating * excessive throat clearing * cracking nuckles * chewing with mouth open * chewing finger nails, toenails * lip biting * nose picking * pencil chewing * thumb sucking * burping * grinding teeth * eating junk food * working too hard, being a workaholic * cursing, using the F word * eating too much sugar * various addictions: tobacco, alcohol, soft-drinks, TV, Facebook, video games, gambling, sleeping pills, sports, shopping, you name it... * driving dangerously * talking during a movie * talking on a cell phone at an inappropriate time * lacking manners * borrowing and not returning items * hiring and not paying promptly * self-mutilation, self-cutting * breaking the law * cutting in line * disrespecting elders * excessive cleaning * getting into debt * hair pulling * kissing in public * loudly * leaving a mess behind * leaving shopping carts in the middle of a parking lot * leaving the toilet seat up * letting kids act up in public * licking your fingers * making fun of people * needing to be in the spotlight * not turning off the TV when someone visits * picking your teeth in public * sending spam email, forwarding chain letters * slamming doors * snoring * spitting * swallowing food whole * talking in a different language in front of someone who doesn't understand * talking politics all the time * talking to yourself * tapping fingers * not using the turn signal when driving * using the express checkout with more than 15 items * wearing too much perfume, cologne * whispering in front of other people * constant competition: who has a better phone? who drives a nicer car? who has more money? * telling morbid jokes * personal grooming in public * cruelty to animals Post Reply
View Profile History	Personality Posted : 3 May, 2018 12:03 AM I think, there is no way to get to know a person's personality online. We can find out bits and pieces, but not everything! That's why it's important to meet someone in real life and spend some time with them to feel what their life is like. We shouldn't ASSUME that the other person must be like this or that, because then when we meet them, they may be TOTALLY DIFFERENT. And that can be a huge shock and disappointment. If you ask someone, are you Lazy? are you pessimist? nobody is going to say, "Yes, I bite my fingernails, and I have a gambling addiction, and I always chew with my mouth open and I like to be the center of attention." Nobody is going to say that. You'll have to figure those things out. On eharmony, one of the questions is "How would your friends describe you?" And then you have to pick some adjectives from a list or indicate how much those characteristics describe you. That way they can figure out your personality somewhat. But it's not foolproof, and you shouldn't put 100% trust into what somebody CLAIMS online. You have to visit them and spend some time with them and make sure that they are who they say they are. :^) Of course, you already know that. I just think, it's impossible to really get to know someone online. That's why it is essential to meet them face to face and go on a vacation together or spend a week together somehow. You have to see how the other person lives, and then you'll get to see their personality. Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	Personality Posted : 4 Jun, 2018 05:24 AM While I agree you can't get to know someone 100% online, but if you can't make it past the communication hurdle. You don't have much chance of making it to a face to face meeting. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Personality Posted : 13 Aug, 2018 04:36 PM If online messages go well then I feel comfortable to move to phone conversation. I have no real time limit for emailing. If the man is open, has a sense of humor, and seems kind I will move faster. I like to talk and hopefully the man is a good conversationalist, if not I maybe stop emailing. Post Reply

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