I was reading a post online today at work about a women who said her husband was only nice to her when he wanted sex. She had lost respect for him due to some other decisions he had made and ultimately could not stand to sleep in the same bed with him or hear him breathe.
Another woman had told me that her husband had cheated on her and she tried to reconcile but she could never stand to have him touch her any more.
A bit extreme..Ladies can we articulate for men what makes us sextually attracted to them?
SOS 5:10-16
**I BELIEVE SEX IS ONLY FOR THE CONFINES OF MARRIAGE**
Rabbit isnt trying to "self promote" i think you are reading him wrong. By the way he wrote alot before that comment that didnt seam to get responded to much.
Sorry about not keeping my reply all together I was about to do something for school :)
@Pixy Sexual experience is only one part. I have a hypothesis: Basically women are relationship oreintated and when the relationship is going good, than its not hard to cause a woman to be sexually attrated etc. where as when the relationship is not going well women are less responsive, and even resistant. Another observation is the same thing done in diferent mood (with in reason) can produce diferent results.
Which to women it MIGHT (assuming my observation is accurate) be a no brainer, but men most genrally are more consistant across various moods as far as what attracts them.
Older men, or perhaps more correctly stated mature men have a higher chance of knowing these things.
Even a man who is willing to listen and learn which is were we all start is better than one who thinks he knows it all, which i certainly dont.
@ Pixy: When i said the best has yet to come, based on you're testimony there is a whole other side that it sounds like you have yet to experience. Its this marital bliss a woman can get lost in. Sex in marriage isnt dirty its Holy. And I hope you get to experience the good things God has for you. :)
I think women are very sensitive in sexual issues, I hate it when men sexually disrespect me with their words, can't imagine if they irrespectively do some sexual actions toward me! (Sorry to hear your stories, Pix =( God helps u on ur past with a very healthy sexual life in ur marriage later :applause:)
Wow! I wish I had seen this topic before, yall are over here trippin!
Everyone has spoken bout a lot of theories and ideas about how they think things will be when they get married. I applaud all the virgins, by the way! Excellent! I was one as well when I got married.
To answer the original question, if there is infidelity annd major issues 2 things can happen. It will cause the couple to not want to have sex at all or they will have sex as a diversion to dealing with the real issues.
Speaking for myself only, all my ex really had to do was walk past me to be in danger of attack.:peace:.
Being respectful at all times (which he was), wearing my favorite fragrance (Grey Flannel, whew!),and not forgetting the romance (the things you did to get me).
Yeah babygirl, you should have fond this thread earlier, it would have been a lot more fun :peace:
I don't have any experince in this area, so I can only speak of what I have read (yes, I will read just about anything).
From what I understand the most important thing for a woman is that her marriage relationship is good. As long as there is trust and love between the husband and the wife, the sexual relationship will usually be good.
For guys, its usually the other way around good sex=good marriage.
I think Pixy also nailed it. The husband needs to treat his wife with respect and not push her beyond what is comfortable for her. Normally she is the weaker of the two, and a husband can hurt his wife by getting too carried away with his passions.
As far as what makes a man sexually attractive to a woman? From what I understand it would be things such as playing and investing time with their children. Giving her loving, non-sexual touch from time to time. As babygirl said, doing those things that got her interested in you in the first place.
Just as it is important for a woman to take care of herself to be attractive to her husband, it is important for the husband to love his wife so that she will be attracted to him.
Well, for all of you who have yet to experience it, it a beautiful, beautiful, BEAUTIFUL THANG!!! MERCY!! :rocknroll:
Let me add that it's important to women to know that even though you have preferences about how you want her to be (physically), you love her know matter what. There is nothing worse than feeling like your mate's love, affection and attention/fidelity hinges on your physical attributes.
