Author	Thread: Emotionz N' Stuff.
Admin	Emotionz N' Stuff. Posted : 15 May, 2011 03:59 AM Would you date a man you wouldn't consider marrying? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Emotionz N' Stuff. Posted : 15 May, 2011 05:57 AM If I knew before dating him that I wouldn't want to marry him, then no I wouldn't date him. Friends, sure. Date, no. Why? Because even though I know he's not the type of person I would want to marry, I might still get emotionally attached and find it hard to end the relationship. Breaking up is NOT fun. Of course, I suppose there is always that chance that my feelings would change once we started dating, but I'd rather discover that through friendship. Now, having said all of that, I don't think it's necessarily "wrong" to date someone just for the fun of it, especially if both people know that they are just dating casually. Sometimes it's nice to have a "boyfriend" to do things with, and it does give you that other half when you "and a guest" (aka "and your significant other") are invited somewhere. If you fall in love along the way, great. If not, all you were interested in was casual dating in the first place. But I'm not interested in casual dating. I'm interesting in a dating that looks more like courtship. I want to date with the intent of seeing if marriage would be a possible future. (That doesn't mean that I HAVE to marry a guy if I date him, of course!) Did that make any sense at all? Post Reply
Nkatty View Profile History	Emotionz N' Stuff. Posted : 15 May, 2011 10:17 AM I don't think i wil date a guy who am sure can't fit in my future husband's shoes....being friends is better.plus i think people should generally have a goal of gettin married wen courtin otherwise it wil just be a game that can lead to sin! Post Reply
View Profile History	Emotionz N' Stuff. Posted : 15 May, 2011 12:55 PM If I didn't know for sure ahead of time, of course. If there had been a long time of emailing/phone calls ahead of time and I was sure it wasn't going to work -- then, no. Post Reply
lynneb423 View Profile History	Emotionz N' Stuff. Posted : 15 May, 2011 01:34 PM No, I wouldn't date someone I wouldn't consider marrying. It's taken me a while to realize my need for Proverbs 4:23, and my favorite translation is the NLT: "Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life." I feel that a lot of people can easily fall into the temptation of settling for less than what God has for us- out of intense loneliness or feelings of having few options in life. And if you spend time with someone who might be a totally great person- but just not the "right" person- you might be tempted to settle for that relationship when God has more for you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Emotionz N' Stuff. Posted : 15 May, 2011 01:45 PM When I was in HS, I remember getting a card that listed "Teen Commandments." One I remember and have always gone by was "Choose only a date who would make a good mate." Sometimes, it just took one date to realize I had chosen poorly. Sometimes, the Lord allowed me a few more until I realized I had chosen poorly. :excited: Us turtles are kinda' slow! Post Reply
View Profile History	Emotionz N' Stuff. Posted : 18 May, 2011 11:23 AM So, ladies if I was in town you would not want to go out on a date as friends with me? After all we are just friends, sometimes frinds dating is more relaxed because you do not have to impress the friend. it just a once or twice thing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Emotionz N' Stuff. Posted : 19 May, 2011 05:13 PM Oh mercy no, Dennis! I would consider it my brother (you) going out with his sister (me). It would not be a date! Post Reply