Author	Thread: dating someone with a calling
Admin	dating someone with a calling Posted : 29 May, 2011 08:25 PM I'm not sure the best way to ask exactly what I want to so I may ramble through this a little. As christian ladies looking for christian men, eventually there is the possibility that someone you like or who may like you has calling to some kind of full-time vocational ministry (pastor, missionary, bible school teacher, etc). I'm wondering how that affects the way you approach that person or relationship (assuming of course that it does)? What things would you consider before making a decision about such a relationship? Would you even want to consider it or would that be too strange/different? Post Reply
View Profile History	dating someone with a calling Posted : 29 May, 2011 11:54 PM I think it is wise to put it right into your profile, so they know where you stand. Then there are no surprises if things get serious. I have a musical gifting and calling, and it's right on my profile. Many have respected that and admitted they do not have that calling, but appreciate my honesty. We can find our compatible mates easier, and avoid pain, by falling for someone that wants nothing to do with our calling. I had a man want me to marry him and do mission work in Africa and that is not my calling. We can't try to make someone have a passion or desire for something, it must be there or at least a hint of that to grow. Post Reply
susana21 View Profile History	dating someone with a calling Posted : 30 May, 2011 04:53 AM I remember what our Pastor said when i was young that he wouldn't look as good as he does if not for his wife ( pastor's wife do all the backstage work, Sunday school teacher for kids, full time wife and mom, teacher and moderator of Church's pre-school ), which made me realize that being a Minister's/ Pastor's wife is also a calling, something not everyone would want. But just as Joey said, it is really important to be clear about that because you wouldn't want to overwhelm that person with the responsibility of being a Pastor's wife. You should ask that potential mate if she can see herself being a Pastor's wife. As for me, i already have anticipated that, i know, somehow, that i would marry someone who will be doing God's work, whether he be a Pastor/Evangelist/Street Preacher/Missionary/Deacon, i know it is not the easiest and most convenient job there is, and i know i could have it a another way but i wouldn't any other way. So don't worry, when that right person comes, she will not be burdened because a wife is suppose to be the helpmate meet for you. Post Reply
View Profile History	dating someone with a calling Posted : 30 May, 2011 08:09 AM I would consider it. I don't think it would be too strange. I'd have to be very, very sure that I had the same calling as he did. Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	dating someone with a calling Posted : 31 May, 2011 08:40 AM I give great marks to a man who is honest enough to state his calling right up front! Good on You!!!!!!!!!!! I would Never Ever want to be a pastor's wife, and have the deepest admiration for those who do and are. It is a harder job than even the pastor's, and it IS a calling too! It takes a real special woman to do that job! Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	dating someone with a calling Posted : 31 May, 2011 11:00 AM I would rather marry someone with a calling to full time ministry. I know I am called and I wouldnt want to be taking care of God's business and him wanting me home and jealous of the time I'm spending with others. my husband will come before any ministry but I would rather marry someone in ministry as well. maybe even together would be awesome. Post Reply
View Profile History	dating someone with a calling Posted : 2 Jun, 2011 04:08 PM Wow, thank you so much for responding ladies. I agree with much that was said and your comments have been helpful and given me much to think about. I too feel being a lady called to work in ministry is a very difficult and often unappreciated task, and that it's important to both share a calling. Post Reply