First: Ladies, I want to thank you for sharing your hearts with us men. I know not all of you will, and it's hard to divuldge areas of your life that may be painful, or sensitive :)
A few years a go I was a man who weighed about 260lbs and for my height (5'11', 6'0 if I stand up straight :) it is considered obese.
I made no bones about why I was big, it was simple I ate alot more than I moved. Also I knew I was fat, and didnt have problem saying so.
My question is; why do women who are overweightt (they have more flesh on them than there frame can hold) not identify themselves as such. It SOUNDS like they honey coat it by using terms like voluptious, curvey, thick, all of which in my mind are often diferent than how I view the definition of those terms :)
i should lose 20 pounds but I dont think I would look right, I think my head would be to big :ROFL:
have you ever seen someone that lost a bunch of weight? their head looks WAY to big for the body!!!
anyway, no one ever believes how much I weigh and when I mention losing a few pounds, they all say I'm crazy and that it's in my head.
I think voluptuous means that the larger portions are on top and bottom but the waistline is small.
?? I dont know...
women are sensitive about the weight (I'm not) because they feel if they write that they are larger, no one will want to meet them. That's my best guess.
For a woman there are many different ways to describe herself, which you listed some of them. For men it is more straight-forward. An illustration of the difference between men and women.
And it is hard to quantify. I have been called (by men) 1) too fat, 2) too skinny, and 3) just right. So -- which description do YOU think I should use based on that?? Confusing, isn't it? So, being healthy and very happy with who I am (always striving to be better of course - there are always things to improve) - I picked the one that I personally thought described me best.
Someone else - another man or woman - might look at me and pick a different option.
Women are not as concerned about the looks of a guy (thankfully) and we men know it, so we don�t care if we call ourselves fat.
Women know full well that most men don�t like women that aren�t comfortable with their body, and calling yourself FAT is saying that you don�t like your body. Saying that you are �voluptuous� or BBW is a way of saying that you are overweight, but you still feel good about yourself.
The problem with all of the terms that are used is that they are subjective. One person�s idea of average is another person�s idea of slender. What you need is to have a series of images of different body sizes and shapes and people chose from that. After all, it�s really the shape that we look at, not how many pounds over of under we are. One of the other Christian sites allows you to search by body weight, but you would have to research how much weight is too much. The other difficulty is that you can�t specify a weight for a specific height. So, for example, you create a search for a height between 5 foot and six foot, and a max weight of 160 lbs. For a six foot woman that is a normal weight, but for a 5 foot woman that�s obese.
And, in the end, even if they fit within your weight category, you still may not like their shape, since they could have a small figure or curvier figure. That�s why I like the images better, it takes a lot of the subjectiveness out of it.
I would never call a woman fat, I was just curious. I noticed most women don't call themselves fat...on a simlar note regarding sites like these, if a man cant tell what a woman is, and she calls herself slender, or average when she is really not, and a man cant tell, because of ambiguity in the way she takes her pics, things could take a turn for the worse....just some unsolicited friendly advice. :)
I do agree with you Rabbit. I don�t like it when women don�t post a clear picture of what they look like. I would think that it would be a lot better to post a full picture and have a guy never contact you then to have them start talking to you and then run away once they get a better look. At least with the full picture you would never know that you were rejected.
I think part of the reason for hiding what you look like is the idea of �if he would just get to know me first, he won�t care what I look like�. Unfortunately that rarely works.
There is an article on OKTrends, which analysis data from the OKCupid dating site. One of the things that they found interesting was if you posted a picture that was average looking, not showing any flaws, what would be considered an �ideal� face, you would get fewer emails than if you posted a picture that pointed out what was �different� about you. While I don�t recommend many of the articles on the site, I do think the following two are a good read:
I have always wanted to be abit more curvy....or is it grow fatter...hehe....i cant seem to realise my goal of adding atleast 3kgs...some peeps hav adviced me to relax an wait til i get kids...thats wen i wil supposedly expand...lol
