Author	Thread: something about 30
jimmypeters27 View Profile History	something about 30 Posted : 23 Jul, 2011 02:24 PM Is there something about being 30 that is unattractive to younger women. Early 20"s? If so why? Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	something about 30 Posted : 24 Jul, 2011 01:39 AM I would like to know also what you ladies think. :^) if you would be so kind Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	something about 30 Posted : 25 Jul, 2011 09:33 AM Wow, no responses yet on this one? I didn't answer at first because I'm not in my early 20s anymore. But to answer the question anyway... I think that younger girls (say, 18-25) probably want guys who aren't more than a few years older than them. It has to do with life stages. If a girl finishes college when she's 21 or 22, she is just starting her "life" as an adult. She is looking for a job or considering graduate school (or both!). A guy who is in his 30s has probably already moved past that point and is more settled. I'm not saying that the number "30" has anything to do with it...a guy who is 29 might also be too "old" for a 21 year old girl for the same reasons. This next thing that I'm going to say might sound a little mean, and I don't intend for it to be that way. I'm just being honest. When I was 18-25, any guy who was 30+ seemed old. They looked older than the guys my age. If they were settled into a job, they acted older (which was a good thing, but again, that's not where I was in my own life). Many 30-something guys had already been married before, and at that point I'd never even dated anyone...which seemed like a HUGE difference to me. Some of them had kids. I wasn't ready to be a mother (even a step-mother) that early in life! Now, I'm going to speak to you guys in your 30s from a 28 year-old girl's perspective. If you want to look for a younger girl, fine, but please don't automatically write off girls who are close to your own age. That goes for any of you who have never been married, those of you who are divorced, and those of you who are widowers. True story: I have a close guy friend who is my age. He is always looking for a girlfriend, and desperately wants to get married. But the girls that he "likes" and finds himself "attracted to" are typically between the ages of 18-22. When someone introduces him to a girl his own age, he always thinks that she is too old for him. It's almost like he doesn't realize that HE is getting older, and that the girls he likes won't date him because of that. Guys like him make it really hard for girls in their late 20s or in their 30s to find someone to date and marry. We are forced to start looking at either much younger guys, or much older guys...and then we run into those life stage differences once again. :rolleyes: I know that not all guys do this, but it does seem to be common among the few single guys my age (and a few years older) that I know. And it's very frustrating! Post Reply
View Profile History	something about 30 Posted : 26 Jul, 2011 10:42 AM It's been proven for the most part that girls tend to mature faster than guys. (although so not apparant) So far in my generation there is this sort of peter pan syndrome going on. I am twenty five years old and when I search I look from 25-35. That's what I'm comfortable with where I feel we may share things in common. But ultimately I'm looking for spiritual maturity, if he doesn't posses that it would not matter. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	something about 30 Posted : 26 Jul, 2011 02:40 PM @KJD you realize your upper limit is set to 30 so a man between 31-35 can't even email you. I wonder if women even know that men cant contact them if said man is outside that parameter? Furthermore i wonder how much thought goes into setting the age limit on here. See heres my problem with age limits they are often to narrow, and may not allow God to bless you with that man He has for you. I don't think alot of women, especially yonger even know what that looks like, or even know what a Godly marriage looks like so its no wonder they marrt thier Prince Charming and half of them get divorced 5 or so years down the road. It atke ALOT OF WISDOM to choose a mate, and there arent very many wise choices out there. :^) Post Reply
View Profile History	something about 30 Posted : 27 Jul, 2011 03:51 PM Hey thanks I didn't even know that good looking out rabbit lol!:applause: Post Reply